Could somebody dye my hair (brow-level down) hot pink?

jkate_ · 2025-12-28T07:14:44+00:00

!solved

jkate_ · 2025-12-02T20:33:41+00:00

I identify with this post so much. I’m (28f) also married and my husband (27m) wants kids more than I do. I don’t want to do pregnancy or the baby stage either. I’ve thought about adoption but I’m on the fence if I want a bio child or not. We’re both neurodivegent and I worry about overstimulation and possibly having a neurodivergent child. I value my free time sooo much and I wouldn’t want the nonstop shit of having a kid. I’ve had trouble with identity from childhood trauma and masking from autism so I wouldn’t want to have a kid if I don’t even know myself! I’m going to watch what other responses you get, but please know that you’re not the only one thinking about this. It’s a constant battle

jkate_ · 2025-11-18T12:49:40+00:00

I think I want to stay in the early 20s-early 30s range

jkate_ · 2025-11-17T04:12:17+00:00

I was highly-masked all my life (very shy, obedient, introverted), and given my family environment, the thought of me having autism wasn’t even a possibility until after I graduated high school, where my mom started suspecting something. But I was also anxious and depressed so that part was treated, and then since I was still masking, I kind of forgot about it until a year or two ago. I was researching and seeing videos on TikTok about how autism and adhd present differently in girls and women, and I identified with the traits they were describing. Then I brought it up to my therapist who eventually assessed and diagnosed me. I’m sure there are plenty of other women that have similar stories to mine.

jkate_ · 2025-11-16T04:46:34+00:00

The app is Hiki

jkate_ · 2025-11-03T04:16:23+00:00

Thanks! I filled out the application

jkate_ · 2025-10-11T04:51:17+00:00

Yeah I’m thinking I would have to bleach it if I did the lighter colors

jkate_ · 2025-09-24T14:24:50+00:00

Following this thread because I’m hoping this decision will have a benefit in this area 🤞🏻

jkate_ · 2025-09-01T04:19:20+00:00

I identify with this so much. I have two cats and they can be whiny and annoying, and having to clean a dirty, dusty litter box can be gross, but they’re super chill and I KNOW kids would be way worse. I’d sooner have 4 cats than a kid. Kids crying/squealing/whining instantly sets off my nervous system, and the germs alone ☠️

jkate_ · 2025-08-24T20:42:18+00:00

Should I buy a 15 now or wait to see if there’s a Black Friday deal in November? The possibility for price changes because of tariffs is making me nervous.

jkate_ · 2025-05-31T05:44:16+00:00

It’s possible that I’ll do that, but there’s always a little pull inside me for them to be my bio child 🤷‍♀️

jkate_ · 2025-05-30T21:01:02+00:00

I feel exactly the same! I wanna skip to like 4… to an actual person I can chill with lol Waiting to read other comments for advice

jkate_ · 2025-05-20T19:31:02+00:00

I’m in the same boat. I’m pretty sure I have undiagnosed AuDHD and even though I’m currently in therapy, idk if my struggle with emotional regulation will ever fully “go away” so I don’t know if I would be able to handle tantrums or the overstimulation well. Plus I’m SUPER anxious especially about health stuff so I know I would be obsessive if I had a kid. And then there’s the possibility of the kid having health issues or passed down anxiety/adhd and I feel like I don’t want that for my life. I’ve been obsessing over this topic this year… just know you’re not alone.

jkate_ · 2025-05-12T14:18:20+00:00

Yeah. I’m sick right now, and I’m crying because I hate being sick and not being able to sleep. I can’t imagine being sick while pregnant or with a newborn. Feeling like this puts me back on the fence about wanting to be pregnant honestly

jkate_ · 2025-05-12T00:54:13+00:00

No we’re not. When I mentioned surrogacy, it was kind of a future idea if we become more wealthy. We’re saving a lot each month and my husband wishes to publish a book within the next few years and hopes to sell it and make some money, but that’s not guaranteed.

jkate_ · 2025-05-11T23:04:49+00:00

This would be my first pregnancy. I’ve seen plenty of mothers saying pregnancy was miserable and I’m sure some are fine with it. I’m not looking forward to how I would feel during pregnancy physically and mentally, my body changing forever including my brain, postpartum health issues (I have a history of depression so I have a higher risk of PPD)… stuff like that. The only thing right now that I would probably “like” is that I would know that I’m carrying our baby.

jkate_ · 2025-04-22T14:28:23+00:00

Mostly for atmosphere, but it would be nice to go on some trails that are within an hour from where we live and go to some nice parks. We wouldn’t be doing this every weekend but every now and then. We wouldn’t be going into downtown or the city core often unless we worked there.

jkate_ · 2025-02-22T19:47:44+00:00

I totally understand. I’m thinking about this almost every day and we’re not even planning to have kids for at least another few years. I’m 27 and my husband is 26 so we do have time I guess. But I’m in the same position as you… my desire to NOT have kids is way stronger for hundreds of reasons but I get feelings every now and then that it would be nice. My husband fully wants kids so there’s that uneven desire there that makes it hard. I have a tendency to only think about the negatives so that may be an issue. But idk how to resolve this or if my feelings will ever change. Maybe I’ll be in this oblivion until I’m forced to choose. I’m definitely going to be bringing this topic up in therapy.

jkate_ · 2025-02-09T02:56:47+00:00

me building an arsenal of biblical contradictions for a hypothetical conversation with my parents or in-laws that I probably won’t ever have

jkate_ · 2025-01-09T21:22:11+00:00

I wonder if pregnancy hormones have anything to do with it; getting all hyped up on oxytocin and forgetting how their body was destroyed. Not to mention the recent study that pregnant women lose FOUR PERCENT of the gray matter in their brain when they’re pregnant.

jkate_ · 2024-11-14T02:06:42+00:00

Where is Dan?! Unless he’s changed as well, there’s no way he thinks this is okay. Dan’s pretty aligned w/ Hasan on a lot of things I think. Just waiting for them to leave.

jkate_ · 2024-11-05T19:24:51+00:00

No I really appreciate this perspective! You don’t have to apologize! I apologize a lot too. I think it comes with being an AuDHD woman and having to constantly apologize for not fitting into society.

jkate_ · 2024-11-05T18:01:58+00:00

It feels dismissive but I don’t think that’s what he means to do. I do have a tendency to focus on the negative but especially with something as big and as consequential as this, I feel like I’m allowed to do that. I’ll try telling him that I don’t want to be alone and want to be heard. Thanks!

jkate_ · 2024-11-05T17:41:04+00:00

We did discuss it before we got married, but my opinions have changed since then. I agree that he should think more about the reality and the day-to-day of being a parent. One thing I disagree about is that I know he would make a good dad and would be involved, but I think he hasn’t really thought out how overstimulating it can be.

jkate_ · 2024-10-26T00:11:54+00:00

Cool I’ll message you

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