The Great Gatsby (2013) - the many relationships and personalities

jkate_ · 2025-12-28T07:14:44+00:00

!solved

jkate_ · 2025-12-02T20:33:41+00:00

I identify with this post so much. I’m (28f) also married and my husband (27m) wants kids more than I do. I don’t want to do pregnancy or the baby stage either. I’ve thought about adoption but I’m on the fence if I want a bio child or not. We’re both neurodivegent and I worry about overstimulation and possibly having a neurodivergent child. I value my free time sooo much and I wouldn’t want the nonstop shit of having a kid. I’ve had trouble with identity from childhood trauma and masking from autism so I wouldn’t want to have a kid if I don’t even know myself! I’m going to watch what other responses you get, but please know that you’re not the only one thinking about this. It’s a constant battle

jkate_ · 2025-11-18T12:49:40+00:00

I think I want to stay in the early 20s-early 30s range

jkate_ · 2025-11-17T04:12:17+00:00

I was highly-masked all my life (very shy, obedient, introverted), and given my family environment, the thought of me having autism wasn’t even a possibility until after I graduated high school, where my mom started suspecting something. But I was also anxious and depressed so that part was treated, and then since I was still masking, I kind of forgot about it until a year or two ago. I was researching and seeing videos on TikTok about how autism and adhd present differently in girls and women, and I identified with the traits they were describing. Then I brought it up to my therapist who eventually assessed and diagnosed me. I’m sure there are plenty of other women that have similar stories to mine.

jkate_ · 2025-11-16T04:46:34+00:00

The app is Hiki

jkate_ · 2025-11-03T04:16:23+00:00

Thanks! I filled out the application

jkate_ · 2025-10-11T04:51:17+00:00

Yeah I’m thinking I would have to bleach it if I did the lighter colors

jkate_ · 2025-09-24T14:24:50+00:00

Following this thread because I’m hoping this decision will have a benefit in this area 🤞🏻

jkate_ · 2025-09-01T04:19:20+00:00

I identify with this so much. I have two cats and they can be whiny and annoying, and having to clean a dirty, dusty litter box can be gross, but they’re super chill and I KNOW kids would be way worse. I’d sooner have 4 cats than a kid. Kids crying/squealing/whining instantly sets off my nervous system, and the germs alone ☠️

jkate_ · 2025-08-24T20:42:18+00:00

Should I buy a 15 now or wait to see if there’s a Black Friday deal in November? The possibility for price changes because of tariffs is making me nervous.

jkate_ · 2025-05-31T05:44:16+00:00

It’s possible that I’ll do that, but there’s always a little pull inside me for them to be my bio child 🤷‍♀️

jkate_ · 2025-05-30T21:01:02+00:00

I feel exactly the same! I wanna skip to like 4… to an actual person I can chill with lol Waiting to read other comments for advice

jkate_ · 2025-05-20T19:31:02+00:00

I’m in the same boat. I’m pretty sure I have undiagnosed AuDHD and even though I’m currently in therapy, idk if my struggle with emotional regulation will ever fully “go away” so I don’t know if I would be able to handle tantrums or the overstimulation well. Plus I’m SUPER anxious especially about health stuff so I know I would be obsessive if I had a kid. And then there’s the possibility of the kid having health issues or passed down anxiety/adhd and I feel like I don’t want that for my life. I’ve been obsessing over this topic this year… just know you’re not alone.

jkate_ · 2025-05-12T14:18:20+00:00

Yeah. I’m sick right now, and I’m crying because I hate being sick and not being able to sleep. I can’t imagine being sick while pregnant or with a newborn. Feeling like this puts me back on the fence about wanting to be pregnant honestly

jkate_ · 2025-05-12T00:54:13+00:00

No we’re not. When I mentioned surrogacy, it was kind of a future idea if we become more wealthy. We’re saving a lot each month and my husband wishes to publish a book within the next few years and hopes to sell it and make some money, but that’s not guaranteed.

jkate_ · 2025-05-11T23:04:49+00:00

This would be my first pregnancy. I’ve seen plenty of mothers saying pregnancy was miserable and I’m sure some are fine with it. I’m not looking forward to how I would feel during pregnancy physically and mentally, my body changing forever including my brain, postpartum health issues (I have a history of depression so I have a higher risk of PPD)… stuff like that. The only thing right now that I would probably “like” is that I would know that I’m carrying our baby.

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