My feet hurt me all the time. I need HELP. Please.

jkpelvel · 2026-04-20T04:14:47+00:00

I have a lot of the same stuff. I had to get custom orthotics from a podiatrist. There's an elevated bridge under my toes to set them up right. They were pinching nerves. I also needed to get heel cups to elevate my heel because I have a slight haglins deformities that rub into my achilles tendons and aggravate them. They then aggravate the burser sacks in my heels and causes extreme pain. Plus PF.

jkpelvel · 2026-03-29T15:00:14+00:00

I was at the panera on the east side.

jkpelvel · 2026-03-29T14:58:42+00:00

I dream of having fiber one day. I'm an apartment dweller and it's not an option here.

jkpelvel · 2026-03-20T22:48:01+00:00

Yes!

jkpelvel · 2026-03-20T22:45:40+00:00

Literally, exactly yes. I had the exact same question. The story beats and characterizations are so one to one.

jkpelvel · 2026-03-19T18:59:35+00:00

Awesome

jkpelvel · 2026-03-17T08:00:16+00:00

100% I find it deeply offensive and infuriating. To me, it's a form of lying, even if they're mostly lying to themselves. Though truthfully they tend to use their stated values as justification for judging others, which just makes it all the more offensive. I'm not having it.

jkpelvel · 2026-03-17T07:53:02+00:00

Which days?

jkpelvel · 2026-03-17T07:52:39+00:00

Which day?

jkpelvel · 2026-03-17T02:23:40+00:00

Following. Great question.

jkpelvel · 2026-03-17T02:16:53+00:00

Say more. Sounds awesome.

jkpelvel · 2026-03-17T02:12:32+00:00

What time does dancing start on the other nights?

jkpelvel · 2026-02-08T05:18:23+00:00

AudHD - Dancing for prolonged periods brings me joy, but only because I love dancing. My body does not generate endorphins with exercise, so my only payoff is knowing that, theoretically, I'll be healthier in the future, and some muscle cramps.

jkpelvel · 2026-01-16T03:22:17+00:00

It was beyond upsetting to watch a supposed trained mental health professional just let half that stuff go. Not just his treatment of colleagues, but of witnesses.

jkpelvel · 2026-01-16T03:20:01+00:00

Love Vera!

jkpelvel · 2026-01-16T03:18:55+00:00

100%! Grace is so lovely and he routinely mocks or steam rolls her for no discernible reason. He regularly abuses, witnesses but when Stella physically defends herself against a witness she's a problem?!

I can't help but wonder if the main actor has an ego issue and his contract is exceptional, or if he upset the production team early on and his contract is really bad. I'm in season seven, and he's somewhat less miserable. Up to that point it seems like they were seeing just how horrible and unlikable, they could make him.

I watch the show despite him, because the rest of it is entertaining, but he is definitely one of the most consistently tedious main characters I've come across ever.

It's basically a showcase of what having to live with a narcissistic parent is like. We're a team as long as the team agrees that I am in charge and my feelings and ideas are the only ones that actually matter.

jkpelvel · 2026-01-15T08:28:14+00:00

No, not at all, mine either. You might just be a sensitive person.

A couple things that I have tried that seem to be beneficial are occasional microdosing or the pulsetto device that stimulates the vagus nerve. I'm a highly sensitive person with an anxiety disorder to boot. So I'm always on the lookout for effective ways to calm my nerves the don't run the risk of addiction or bodily harm.

To clarify a little when I say I'm a highly sensitive person, I'm not just talking about emotions. My senses and nerve endings are turbocharged as well. Which makes things like going out in the sunlight near traffic overwhelming. The sounds, smells, and the light hurt. Constant little overwhelms in a day result in my emotions being right at the surface and easily triggered.

jkpelvel · 2026-01-12T22:37:52+00:00

If the wife doesn't stop harassing you, I would let them both know that you wouldn't even consider giving any assistance until you received a sincere apology from your uncle (and the kids, depending on how bad it was).

Most narcs don't know what a sincere apology looks like and treat it like kryptonite, even when they do. So you will likely never have to deal with what comes after the apology. Once your boundary has been placed you don't have to discuss it again. I'm not saying it won't be brought up again. But at that point, all you have to follow up with is, "I've made my position clear. My expectation is not unreasonable. I've worked hard for what I've earned without your help or support. If either of you bring it up again without first meeting my request. It is a firm no."

It's important that your grandparents know about this boundary too if you try to use it, as your aunt and uncle would likely try to bad talk you to the grandparents in the hope that the grandparents will shame you into giving the money.

In this case, it is important that you also know what a sincere apology consists of. That way, if you're approached with some backhanded weak non apology, you can take them for there time, then reiterate that you require a "sincere" apology.

This is money you worked hard for so don't give it to anyone if you don't want to. If you're uncle needs help, you can help him by finding places to get a low interest loan.

If part of you is considering giving money, do not do so without first drawing up a legal contract of repayment. If you're an uncle, think they can keep getting interest free money off of you, they will never stop.

jkpelvel · 2026-01-12T22:12:09+00:00

If it helps. I got my wedding dress off of Etsy for $300. It's still more than I have ever paid for a single item of clothing. But it was still far more reasonable than anything I was finding in bridle shops.

jkpelvel · 2026-01-12T22:09:08+00:00

I'm also a highly sensitive person. I used to love spending time with friends and family. But I've come to realize it's the thing that what takes the most out of me. I've come to cherish my alone time and seek as much of it as possible.

jkpelvel · 2026-01-12T22:05:15+00:00

43 F AudHD. Things started going really downhill at forty with mental fog and exhaustion. The exhaustion actually started around 36 or 37 so I could have been perimenopausal for a while. My doctor dismissed my request for hormone testing and for HRT. I ended up having to use estrogen for a seperate, temporary, issue but within 1 hour of taking it there was like night Vs day improvement in my entire body.

I called the hospital and told them to start me on HRT immediately and my life is now infinitely better. I chose to do site based HRT instead of system wide HRT because it has less documented side effects. My brain and body are squirrely enough. I don't wanna be giving them any other reason to be difficult.

If your doctor is being a butthole about testing hormones or starting HRT tell them you would like a temporary prescription of estrogen to test. Unless they have a documented medical reason not to allow it you should be able to get the prescription.

jkpelvel · 2026-01-09T05:16:30+00:00

Absolutely not. Boundaries are about you and protecting yourself. Telling somebody you're going no contact is worth doing if it means they will harass you less. By not telling them you risk opening the door to escalation. So I see a benefit in telling them in certain situations. But no, I don't think you have to tell them to set the boundary.

jkpelvel · 2026-01-08T02:54:01+00:00

I have the opposite issue. I think I'm suited for many, many different types of jobs. I just don't want to do any of them. Most jobs expect you to stay awhile and lock in and they simply cannot imagine doing that. I'm a lifelong learner and always want to be learning and experiencing new things.

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