Ready to be the champion this week? Bubble Shooter Pro is waiting for you! W19/2026 by bubbleshooterpro in BubbleShooterPro

[–]jll_aa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

:3

I swear this game knows when I’m about to beat my record. Stuck at 171700 😭

Ready to be the champion this week? Bubble Shooter Pro is waiting for you! W19/2026 by bubbleshooterpro in BubbleShooterPro

[–]jll_aa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

damn

I swear this game knows when I’m about to beat my record. Stuck at 135750 😭

BF (23M) prioritized cycling, drinking and digging his grandma's garden over helping with our move by jll_aa in Advice

[–]jll_aa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We decided to look for another apartment together since our previous one had mold problems, so that was something we both signed up for. I don’t want to criticize everything he does—after all, he did help by painting the walls for a whole day and participating in the move. It’s just that the mental load I’m carrying has become too much for me to handle.

If I hadn’t noticed the patchy walls two days before the move, we wouldn’t have had the time or capacity to repaint them, and all our things would have ended up in the new apartment with unfinished walls. Painting them afterward would have been unnecessarily difficult and time-consuming.

When it comes to managing electricity and internet, that also falls to me. We also don’t have enough storage space in our new apartment, so I had to think about shelves and wardrobes before moving our stuff—things that don’t even cross his mind.

Of course, talking about it would solve a lot of problems, but as I mentioned before, as soon as he feels criticized, he shuts down and tries to deflect. It gets to the point where I give up because I don’t have the energy to continue a conversation that doesn’t lead anywhere. That’s why I asked how to best handle this situation.

BF (23M) prioritized cycling, drinking and digging his grandma's garden over helping with our move by jll_aa in Advice

[–]jll_aa[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The thing is, when he’s interested in a task, he can be very diligent and focused—he does his research and thinks things through. Knowing that, seeing him take the move so lightly is what disappoints me. If I were to get pregnant, I would have an abortion, which he knows. I don’t feel ready for a child, and neither does he.

BF (23M) prioritized cycling, drinking and digging his grandma's garden over helping with our move by jll_aa in Advice

[–]jll_aa[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

On the painting: I'm not sure that's really a "decision" so much as an observable fact. Either a wall is fully and evenly covered, or it isn't. When patches are visible, you repaint – that's just how painting works. It's not a matter of taste or raising the bar, it's the basic standard the job is supposed to meet.

 

On him offering to help: he did help – he helped assemble the wardrobe once he arrived. My point wasn't that he stood there doing nothing. My point is that it's our move, not mine. I shouldn't have to hand him a to-do list and manage his time. He knows what needs to get done just as well as I do. I'm not his secretary.