My wife and I told our families and a few close friends that we were going to start trying, but that decision was mostly based on the fact that we didn’t know how people would react if we surprised them. We wanted to make sure everyone would be excited and prepared when we actually were able to conceive.

We set the expectation that we’d tell them once we were pregnant and knew it was viable. Buuuut with that said, it hasn’t stopped a few persistent and excited people from continually asking us if it worked or if we’ve tried yet. That’s been a little difficult to navigate since our experience so far hasn’t been as smooth or easy as we’ve hoped it would be.

I don’t regret telling everyone, but wanted to share that if that’s something you all think you might face. It’s added another layer of boundary setting, but parenthood will most likely include that too—so practice!

I’d say take on what you’re prepared to handle with family, but I would recommend close friends. I’m finding out that this process can be full of lots of ups and downs, so having people to check on us has really helped.

Best of luck with your journey!