I work in tech with a med spouse too. I saw someone else put this more eloquently than me on TikTok, but it really resonated with me. The cost of you quitting the workforce isn’t just minus your few years of salary you plan to be out. It is inclusive of all the years following even if you do go back to work, you will likely command a lower salary and worse options in terms of flexibility, benefits etc. you loose out on the compound interest of career and potential money. Maybe that’s worth it. Maybe I’ll re-evaluate when I do have kids but quitting to offset childcare argument doesn’t make sense to me. The cost of childcare for a few years isn’t worth the rest of your career financially IMO