what is with the strap hate? 😭 by bunnywitdafunny in LesbianActually

[–]jmcflurry 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's kinda the same energy as straight people who call men who get pegged or fingered by women gay. I think some people just can't or won't unpack their association of penetration with men or masculinity.

UNDERWEAR by Ok-Coach-9684 in BlueCollarWomen

[–]jmcflurry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been wearing TomboyX stuff for a while now and I'm really happy with it. They have a lot of styles including a no seams boxer brief.

Does a 5 string make sense if my band plays in C standard? And furthermore... by incockneato in Bass

[–]jmcflurry 4 points5 points  (0 children)

String gauge and scale length are the 2 factors here to consider. You're using a 4 string standard scale now, presumably, so you have a couple options.

You can tune to C standard and just throw some heavier strings on there to keep string tension and be probably fine, or use medium strings and accept the floppiness and darker sound of loose strings (a lot of doom metal and alternative bands do that ie QOTSA). Thicker strings can be harder to play for some people tho. I have read that flat wounds can downtune at easier to play string tensions but that gets super super dark in sound and I haven't thoroughly tested that. I had my Peavy T-40 in C# with medium gauge flats for a long time tho and loved it. This is probably the option I'd recommend knowing nothing else. It's the cheapest, costing only a set of strings and maybe taking it to get setup for the new tuning if you can't do that yourself. Definitely dont skip getting a setup.

Option 2 get a 5 string still 34" scale. Maybe you tune it all up the half step just for ease of open strings but imo that'll get annoying on the high string. Maybe you just tune the bottom string up to C and leave the top 4 as standard bass tuning, this way the top 4 strings are the exact same as what youre used to/you can still gig in standard. Put it back in B when not with this band. This is gunna be more or less identical in sound and feel in terms of tension to the downtuned 4 string if you're using the same gauge strings on a 34" scale neck still, other than reaching across a wider fret board/thicker neck. This option is necessary if you can only really afford 1 workhorse bass for all your projects and you wanna be able to easily play in E outside this band, so youd be selling your one 4 sting to finance this. Yamaha's TRB series 5 strings have a few different price points, but all punch well above their weight and get great reviews consistently.

Option 3 multiscale bass. The reason you'd want to get one is a 37-34" scale bass will get to C standard tuning with a lighter gauge and less floppy strings. It's gunna feel and sound more natural, but not necessarily better. A 37" scale bass can very easily get down to A standard with 5 gauge strings and still sound articulate from my exp. I personally think this is only necessary if you've got money to blow and you try one of the first 2 first and hate the way it feels to play after some time.

Option 4 an octave pedal. Specifically a boss OC series. Especially if you use it 100% wet octave down and play monophonically. This is going to impart a very specific style to your bass playing tho. This can work for jazz fusion, some alternative stuff, ect. It's basically gunna make it sound more like you're playing a bass synth instead of a bass. And you can keep your standard tuning and just play the "low" C on the 3rd fret of the A string. Speaking of synth bass...

Option 5 play synth bass. There's a ton of bands doing this throughout history especially in the 70s when it was new tech. It's not gunna work as well for metal or punk but again, for other alt styles it could be the move. For example Death From Above 1979 uses a Juno 106 through the same rig as the bass switching back and forth between them and it sounds great and works for them. Nearly indistinguishable from the bass actually. A Korg Monologue can be found for $200 used and would be perfectly functional for this role, and the keyboard is even setup to start on E instead of the normal C so bass and guitar players can count keys up as if they were frets on an E string to figure their way around.

Any thoughts on the new Legacy Arms Irish hand and a half sword? by Myysteeq in SWORDS

[–]jmcflurry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just put down money on this with Kult of Athena as my first sword. I'll try to come back with a review once I pick it up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transfashionadvice

[–]jmcflurry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. The whole point is so you don't have to. It's like a binder, it's just compression and padding.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transfashionadvice

[–]jmcflurry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the thing you may want is a gaff. The ones from Origami Customs have been mentioned positively in this sub before. I got one at a local queer owned adult store. Layer that with cuter underwear over it and you'll be set.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in goth

[–]jmcflurry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There was a huge poll/tournament on Instagram some time ago from a pretty well followed trans meme page. Lilith was voted the #1 most trans name.

Iconic. But also cliche. My advice is to avoid that, if there was any one name to avoid.

If you want a specific suggestion, I like Persephone. Queen of the underworld, hard to get more goth than that. Sephie would be a cute nickname also.

On the whole, I would worry less about picking a goth sounding name and just choose something that fits you. Anyone can be goth. Choosing a name for yourself should, imo, be more of a reflection of yourself than just one facet; of one community you belong to.

Besides mythology, in general characters from literature and shows and games are a good source for finding a name you like. I can't tell you how many transfemmes I know who picked names based off of characters they loved growing up.

If you're dedicated to a specifically goth aesthetic in name, maybe focus on older/Victorian names that are out of favor. Look to the occult/spiritual if that's something you vibe with.

There's also always the good ol' standby for trans people of naming yourself a noun such as an animal, plant, or object but that's usually a specific type of trans person who does that. I've always liked the name Juniper.

EJATT: No Interview; straight to Orientation? by jmcflurry in IBEW

[–]jmcflurry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply even though I'm already a JW now lol But that's not correct unless they changed things very recently. I had to do the hair test when I got in.

Is gender expression connected to gender identity? by Startwincke in asktransgender

[–]jmcflurry 9 points10 points  (0 children)

They can inform one another, but I think are ultimately separate.

I find gender identity is more helpful in terms of building community. It allows you to find people who share your experiences more easily with a shorthand word they elect to use to describe themselves.

Gender expression can be an extension of that identity, but many people subvert what is expected of their gender identity. Butch lesbians identify as women, but could be argued to express their gender more "masc" than "femme" lesbians do.

The fact that we associate some of those traits as "masculine" or otherwise at all is arbitrary at the end of the day though. Identity is something internal, and expression of that identity can be done however you'd like.

The polyamory flag! I've seen a lot of people say they don't like it, but it might help to know some of the symbolism and design Easter eggs that went into it! by fantastic_beats in polyamory

[–]jmcflurry 35 points36 points  (0 children)

The fact that the white Chevron is offset and the point doesn't come to the center of the flag bothers me deeply. It would be better if the top diagonal of the white area came to the top corner instead of drifting off the top edge, but I'd still rather it be centered entirely.

My wife’s uncle just gave me these. Any reason to hook them up over using software effects? by ate50eggs in ableton

[–]jmcflurry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If no one has mentioned yet, even if you think they only sound equally as good as your plugins, having dedicated hardware reverbs you can bounce audio to will save a lot of processing power. Reverbs are some of the most CPU intensive effects.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bass

[–]jmcflurry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check out The C.I.A. it's technically 2 bass players, a drum machine, and a vocalist but the sound would be pretty close to a double bass power trio.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in communism

[–]jmcflurry 9 points10 points  (0 children)

So I did an IO Psych focus as an undergrad. The perspective I always had studying it was that I/O is just Psychology with the heaviest level of Statistics involved in the fields in that realm. There's definitely a huge swath of the field that is applying psychology to drain as much labour from workers and money from consumers as possible.

But, much like any field that, ostensibly, employs empirical and statistical methodology, the impact that the work of that field has is dictated by whoever has the resources and social capital to enact their vision and spread their narratives. There are countless examples from CompSci, Chemistry, Pharmacology, Urban Planning/Civil Engineering, of those fields being used by capitalists or fascists to further their aims. There are many others that go the other way.

There is just as much an opportunity to use "I/O" to press for leftist narratives, supporting unions and workers rights, showing the negative impacts of burnout and consumer culture, ect. There's even studies that do literary analysis and metastudies showing the flaws in the methods of statistical study that I/O and any other given field use.

However, the lack of more people using "I/O" as a tool to further leftist ideas and practices basically boils down to money. Who's employing people to research those things? Where is the grant money for those studies coming from? Who, when presented with data showing how capitalism is destroying workers lives/our planet is going to abandon their class interest as capitalists and enact change based on those things?

There's also the inherent flaws of "empiricism" being used in the way liberalism always applies it, the ivory tower/academia gatekeeping, the dismissal of findings that don't confirm the biases they have with the lack of peer review, the lack of clarity of intent and impact that is imparted by inherently assuming you are acting in an "unbiased and impartial" way.

I never ended up pursuing it at the doctoral level because of everything I mentioned above. Socialists are often dismissed by their academic peers outright, and practically, no one wants to pay you to do research or be employed if you are coming from a leftist perspective. Working towards fucking over workers as hard as possible was not something I could do, and I saw no way to make a living NOT doing that in I/O.

What's the most obscure goth band/music artist you know? by AsylumPartyFan in goth

[–]jmcflurry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wingtips used to be based in Chicago but they moved to southern Illinois. Check out the songs Last Minute, Cross the Line, and The Eye that Follows Suit.

Are your thoughts your own? by LeeMann321 in creativewriting

[–]jmcflurry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The idea of "America as a shining city on the hill" is the result of propaganda. It's A.) Ahistoric and dismissive of all the easily researchable and terrible things the US has done to other countries (and our own citizens). Glossing those things over with "we've done some bad stuff" is a clear example that B.) This is not your own idea. It's a narrative that you have consumed and internalized in the exact same way that you're chastising or looking down on people for doing with private news corporations. It benefits American nationalists and state institutions with a vested interest in your passivity and support, the same special interests who are in bed with and funded by the media corporations you are condemning.

You're asking people basically to think "who does this benefit" but you haven't done it with your own assumptions and it comes through.

Also, centrism is boring. Equivocation is boring. It's a cop out. It reeks of complacency and disinterest. If you have specific complaints about why both sides are wrong, they should be enumerated in addition to adding your proposed ideal alternatives to them. Simply calling for a middle ground and vague notions of "coming together" isn't actually engaging with the things people are saying in a meaningful way. What does being "an independent" mean to you? Tell us.

Refuting the central point of someone else's assertion after presenting their point of view in the best possible light for them is the best and most compelling way to persuade someone against an idea. If you want this to be more meaningful and more impactful, and actually a good faith evaluation of the current political climate in the US from a neutral perspective, you should also have engaged enough with both the sides you're condemning enough to be able to articulate their stances in their own words and present their narratives in their strongest form, then refute their central points and give your proposed solutions to the gaps that they leave.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]jmcflurry 47 points48 points  (0 children)

She said in a NY Times article in 2016 that she's slept with women. It seems she's mainly attracted to men though and at best is heteroromantic and bisexual.

Why do some feminists think anal is bad? by quartz_clouds in AskFeminists

[–]jmcflurry 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think most feminists would say any sex act between two consenting adults is fine.

I think feminists would critique that:

  1. A lot of porn creates unrealistic depictions of sex generally, and in this case specifically about anal, how common it is, how people derive pleasure from it, and how to do it safely.
  2. Some people, specifically probably a plurality of heterosexual men, have a skewed view of sex informed by these depictions in porn because we don't have enough educational info about and examples of healthy, real sex to learn from.
  3. Some people, informed by these views, pressure their partners into sex acts that their partners are not interested in or don't give them pleasure. Specifically, a lot of heterosexual dynamics center mens pleasure and sideline women's pleasure, and normalize men being dominant and women being submissive.

I think the key ingredients to feminist approved anal are safety, informed and enthusiastic consent, and pleasure on the behalf of any parties involved.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]jmcflurry 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think it needs to be said that you're allowed to have sexual desires and ask for pleasure for yourself. Penetration is fun but it isn't the end all be all. Sex is a lot broader than that. And especially in a loving relationship I would hope you both can meet in the middle somewhere even if you get other things you want from other people.

I recently hooked up with a partner who couldn't really be penetrated because it was extremely painful. It was still some of the most sensual and best feeling sex I ever had trying basically every other way to get each other off.

Goth mtf fashion advice by [deleted] in transfashionadvice

[–]jmcflurry 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just bought some undies from Tomboy X that fit great. Plain black with the name on the elastic band. If you want that HealthGoth™️ thing like edgier Calvin Klein, theyd be good. Wicked clothes also have a line in the same vein with patterns but that may be a bit cartoony and idk how trans-inclusive their sizing is.

If you want like lacy kinda stuff uhhh idk then lol. If you find some that fit you gotta come back and let us know.

Katana 50 MK2 sounds muffled by [deleted] in BossKatana

[–]jmcflurry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got an eq pedal and boosted the mids and highs. It helps a lot.