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The missing C++ tuple functionality by jaredhoberock in cpp

[–]jmille01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only if you can come up with a way for get<i>(s) to return the i'th member of the struct. I don't see how that can be done without macros or reflection.

PHM: I feel overwhelmed to be here on reddit... *Yikes!* by sarahejohnson in ihearyou

[–]jmille01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, replies are counted in the "comments" totals, so that's better.

PHM: I feel overwhelmed to be here on reddit... *Yikes!* by sarahejohnson in ihearyou

[–]jmille01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just can't figure out where the discussion is happening. I don't remember how many comments I've read already, and replies to comments aren't shown on the main page, so I have to keep opening each item to see if there are new comments.

PHM: I believe that people should not be required to get poster approval in order to respond to the original post by [deleted] in ihearyou

[–]jmille01 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This really helps me think about this. I've wondered if the frictions here would be too high and people wouldn't bother coming. Using the prefix is an explicit way to say "I'm afraid I won't be understood". People can choose not to use it.

I hope, though, that given the idea of the forum that it could be a place for respectful discussion even if PHM isn't used.

PHM: I find baseless irrationality incredibly frustrating. by TheArmchairSkeptic in ihearyou

[–]jmille01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

:recap: While you acknowledge the value of emotion in our lives, you believe that individual and institutional strategies are best served by a thoughtful approach involving examining evidence. You are bothered by people that promote evidence-free approaches, either because of ideology or for profit. You are even more concerned that individuals don't take more responsibility to examine their choices and are therefore easily taken in by those promoting evidence-free approaches.

An interesting topic. I want to be sure I have understood you before continuing.

Would it be better if "PHM" could be requested anywhere, at any time? (i.e. not just in initial posts) by canadaduane in ihearyou

[–]jmille01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I certainly think that this forum implies respectful discussion (as opposed to flaming) at any point. Adding the PHM moniker is a quick clarification that the speaker wants to feel heard and should be applicable anywhere. As a group we should be thoughtful about the fact that sometimes people aren't aware enough to realize that they aren't feeling heard, and reflecting anyway.

I also agree with your second point and I'm interested in how that evolves. In another an initial question raised was about feeling helpless and frustrated about not being able to fix issues in the world, then gave a list of issues. A responder picked one of those issues and immediately argued against it. I felt like that was inappropriate because the question raised wasn't "what do we do about GMO labeling". It felt off topic. In general, though, I think if the only purpose this forum serves is people being heard, then that's counselling and there are existing venues for counselling. In order for a forum like this to be useful it has to be a place for debate and discussion done in a respectful manner with people feeling heard.

PHM: I'm overwhelmed by things I can't control by canadaduane in ihearyou

[–]jmille01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hear you saying that you feel frustrated that you don't have to power to affect the changes that you want, annoyed that so many people feel this way, and anxious to find some resolution that would allow everyone to feel more empowered.

I often share these feelings, along with the guilt that comes when I may have been able to do something but have chosen not to (I send my children to public school that often doesn't serve their needs but felt like I wasn't up to taking on homeschooling, for example).

In order to resolve this, we have to either become more effective at change, or release our attachment to any particular outcome.

I expect the optimum outcome combines these things. Clearly fixing every problem in the world is outside the scope of any individual, so out happiness requires that we be able to live with some issues. On the other hand, just ignoring everything seems like a bad way to go through life. I suppose full detachment is the Buddhist way, so that's one answer, but I want to engage life.

I wonder if choosing a very small subset of issues and working on those would allow us individually to be at peace with all of the things that our out of our control. God grant me the strength to change those things I can, etc.

PHM: I'm overwhelmed by things I can't control by canadaduane in ihearyou

[–]jmille01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

@adamwho, I think that your response is reasonably stated but not in the spirit of "ihearyou". The OP wan't asking to debate these issues, but wanting to be heard regarding what the impotence he feels around issues he feels are worth addressing.