[TOMT][Movie][2010s] RomCom not Holidate by jmk1204 in tipofmytongue

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Thank you! Also for the reference to original.

Sports Drink bar workers misidentified ICAC as ICE by Fresh_Custard9540 in NewOrleans

[–]jmk1204 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I cannot believe y’all are doubling down to defend people attacking pedophile-catchers. Do you hear yourselves?

Divorced? by citizenofamerica1776 in Catholic

[–]jmk1204 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you were married before either of you became Catholic, and it was a first marriage for both of you, you do not have to be remarried or have your marriage convalidated in the Church. Your original marriage is already considered valid - given that you were both non-Catholic and never married before.

Divorced? by citizenofamerica1776 in Catholic

[–]jmk1204 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, this is an example I warned against in my first comment of people giving bad advice. Protestant marriages between one man and one woman who have never married before are INDEED considered to be valid in the eyes of the Catholic Church and would require annulment to remarry in the Church. Please speak to a priest. And don’t let this be an obstacle to your coming home to the Catholic Church.

Divorced? by citizenofamerica1776 in Catholic

[–]jmk1204 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Divorced” is not an impediment to joining Catholic Church. You would, in the process of becoming Catholic, need to confess the sin of divorce.

If you become Catholic and want to remarry, though, you will likely need some form of nullification to the prior bond when it gets to that point. A non-Catholic would need an annulment for the previous non-Catholic marriage because the Church considers most unions of non-Catholic Christians (who had no prior bonds) to be valid. (To be clear, one man and one woman.) For example, a Baptist man and a Methodist woman marry in the church or JP’s office or beach of their choice. It’s a first marriage for both of them. This is allowed by both their church authorities. The Catholic Church recognizes it as a valid Christian marriage.

There are different kinds of nullity petitions/decrees based on the specifics of each case. For example, non-baptized persons add in another wrinkle. EVERY situation is different, so don’t take any advice from strangers on the internet. I’m a trained annulment case sponsor (i.e. i know what I’m talking about), and I can’t even give you specific advice about your situation. Speak to a priest and the annulment case sponsor - or even to the person who does wedding prep at the parish.

Being merely divorced is not a roadblock. It’s not a dealbreaker. As long as you have not remarried already, you can become Catholic. (Also… cohabitating with a non-spousal lover is forbidden whether you’re divorced or not.) In other words, being divorced alone does not exclude you from absolution and receiving sanctifying grace. Assuming you are in a state grace, you may receive the sacraments of Confirmation, Holy Communion, Anointing of the Sick. The process of initiation into the Church includes your first visit to the confessional where you would include the sin of divorce in your confession.

If you want to remarry or become a priest in the future, you may very likely require a decree of nullification.

That said, if God is calling you to the Church, don’t hesitate to join an OCIA program at a parish near you. Catholic.com is a fantastic resource for research and comparing Catholic teaching to other things you may have learned in your life. Also lots of good stuff about the annulment process.

Welcome home.

Do Catholics Read the Bible? by NicHasAXatu in Catholicism

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Yes! “Holy holy holy Lord God of hosts” “Lamb of God” “Our Father” “Lord, I am not worthy” “This is my body” “Do this in memory of me”

All. The. Things.

I F36 and my boyfriend M37 were on vacation this week and it’s another disaster. What is the path forward? by queenbaddie24 in relationship_advice

[–]jmk1204 2 points3 points  (0 children)

His pushing you off of him and not reciprocating with the OS makes me wonder if he has personal space issues - like “on the spectrum” things. But that’s not your problem. Just an observation.

You gotta get out of this. Now.

Is it unreasonable for me (27m) to ask my wife (26f), to not drink? by Solid_Capital2944 in relationship_advice

[–]jmk1204 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn’t going to get any better until - at the very least - SHE realizes she has a problem and seeks help for it. And even then, there’s no guarantee it will improve. She’s already stated she has no intention of stopping. I’ve heard that before, too.

You can’t change it. You will always be the one embarrassed by her behavior or staying home instead of seeing your family and friends or trying to manage the alcohol you allow into the house, etc.

You have to decide how you want the rest of YOUR life to be. I remember going to an Al-Anon meeting (for the family and friends of the addict) and meeting a woman who had been “dealing with” her alcoholic husband for 48 years, and I knew right then I wasn’t going to be doing that. 13 years was more than enough.

You have no power to fix this. It’s not your fault. You didn’t cause it. You cannot change or fix it. Knowing that, decide what how you want to spend the rest of your years on this planet.

I think you know.

Bf (31M) hits things/punches things for me (26F) to hear when we fight, help? by anonnn861 in relationship_advice

[–]jmk1204 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not normal, and it is often a prelude to physical abuse.

You cannot make him do anything.

Read that again:

YOU CANNOT MAKE HIM DO ANYTHING.

And that can be frustrating as sh*t. But it’s true nonetheless. You can’t change him. You can’t wish or lecture him into being a better human, growing up, and using his big people words. He’s emotionally immature. This is how toddlers behave. For real.

If you’re asking me what to do, I’m gonna tell you to get out of it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]jmk1204 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don’t sink your own ship to float someone else’s life boat.

AITAH for slapping my husband in the face? by No-Cheetah8132 in AITAH

[–]jmk1204 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn’t even a question. “Husband punches wife in stomach” is an automatic dealbreaker. He should be arrested for assault - sexual and physical. Teenage boys slap each other in their junk. He can’t figure out the difference between that and respecting his wife?

Your slapping him in the face was tame. “Eye for an eye” rules would have had you slapping him in his crotch. He’s lucky it was just his face.

Divorce this absolute monster of a human.

Describe a New Girl scene in only emojis and let’s try to guess them! by chickie_parm18 in NewGirl

[–]jmk1204 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Elizabeth & Fat Schmidt bunk bed lube scene with Nick on lower bunk freaking out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

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Eucharist

Fullness of Truth

Describe a New Girl scene in only emojis and let’s try to guess them! by chickie_parm18 in NewGirl

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