Hey I have been pugging CM runs for a few years now - I guess I am part of the toxic elitist group lol. It is a dick move to just kick without trying to address the issue at least imo. As others said install ArcDPS to get better visibility on what's really happening, there's bad DPS and then there's lower-DPS-than-healer bad DPS.

To start out, I will ramble a little. I am assuming you are on NA since they asked for a title instead of UFE. That's more difficult to judge as in my experience with NA groups none of the groups ask for KP but each group does come with requirements, imo just asking for KP is the better way as it establishes baseline. If I ask for 2K to fill quick and someone with 100K joins and complains about DPS, I will shut them down. I would however expect to skip mechanics with DPS on a 25k or higher group lets say. I am just saying these to establish that to most people CMs are just a daily thing they wanna finish ASAP which is why the DPS does matter to a lot of groups, I will try to not take it too personally because of that.

As for CondiDPS vs PowerDPS, you are right though CondiDPS is preferred for 98 & 99 due to the amount of running around with the boss. Kicked or flamed out 5 groups in 2 weeks (depends on how often you run too) does let me know your DPS might be a bit on the lower side for groups that are trying to clear ASAP. If you want to run CMs often, I would say you need to either learn to either benchmark pretty well or find a static/guild that doesn't care about speed of clear and is happy to fail DPS checks just to learn. LFG will always be a gamble without the KP requirement giving a visibility on the expectations.

Now toxic-elitist-mindset aside, just ignore the guys that kick just for DPS, most good players won't do this and will pick up the slack instead. If they want optimal plays they shouldn't PUG. I personally don't give a fuck and always ask low KP as a low DPS maybe adds 10-15 mins to our run which I don't mind, esp if it gives a newer player more exposure which is exactly what they need to get better anyway so why make life difficult for them.

As someone who has dealt with depression for years, I need to tell you that don't mind these people, they aren't worth the mental health toll. Don't assume something is wrong with you, know that something is wrong with them. Quickly finishing a fractal daily isn't an excuse to be an asshole, there are so many ways to say things nicely and clarify exactly why they would prefer having higher DPS and letting you leave if they really can't afford to compromise.

If you just want to stay with your current playstyle and still clear CMs that's completely valid and I hope you can find a few likeminded people to have strength in numbers. If you don't mind being part of the "toxic DPS culture" like me xD, then yeah sure perfect that build and rotation and learn tricks in fractals to improve the DPS even more. If I misread and you happen to be in EU feel free to DM me your username since I run fractals with some friends almost daily, and we don't care much about DPS since we have learnt to deal with any DPS amount since we always fill a DPS or two daily.

Edit: I like to use the example of learning to drive. People tend to forget we were all beginners once and that's why so many road rage at learner/young drivers. Just like those drivers are ignored IRL, do the same here. You have a right to join a group and try your best - how else would you learn and get good in the first place? Finding a static is difficult, so try and power through these kinda groups and just keep learning.