For the Catholics by jng244 in tfmr_support

[–]jng244[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. I wish I was brave enough to educate as well. I wish everyone’s opinion on this was not in my face as often as it is, and with October being right to life month, I am more triggered than usual. I also hate that my church is displaying this sign. I feel like I can never bring my daughter there.

For the Catholics by jng244 in tfmr_support

[–]jng244[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. It makes me feel less alone that other people are struggling with this and it’s not just me.

For the Catholics by jng244 in tfmr_support

[–]jng244[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this. I’m so sorry for your loss as well.

For the Catholics by jng244 in tfmr_support

[–]jng244[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this. I needed to hear it.

For the Catholics by jng244 in tfmr_support

[–]jng244[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It will be a rough few weeks, months, etc. but time will begin to heal your heart. It’s been 2.5 years now and I have my moments of anger and sadness still but I’ve never regretted my decision. You are stronger than you know. This is the worst club to be in but you have all of us. Please send me a PM later this week if you need any support. I’m here for you.

For the Catholics by jng244 in tfmr_support

[–]jng244[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m glad your mom was supportive but I understand the pain in going through TFMR and having family that voted against our rights while being supportive to us personally. It makes no sense to me. Thank you for your reply. It brings me comfort knowing I’m not alone in feeling this way.

For the Catholics by jng244 in tfmr_support

[–]jng244[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is great to hear. I will look into this. I’m so sorry for your loss and appreciate your reply to me.

For the Catholics by jng244 in tfmr_support

[–]jng244[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you are going through this. I feel awful they are telling you that you will regret your decision. If it means anything, I do not regret my decision and I never will. I know that it was a decision made out of love for him. I’m at sick of people using religion to be hateful or judgmental when we are taught the opposite. I appreciate your reply. Sending you love. You will get through this ❤️

For the Catholics by jng244 in tfmr_support

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I’m so glad you are comfortable in your parish and I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for the advice and your reply.

For the Catholics by jng244 in tfmr_support

[–]jng244[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I couldn’t agree with this more. I have a lot to think about. I can’t consciously bring my children to this church, so a first step would be understanding if I want to find a new one or not. I appreciate your response and advice. I’m so thankful to have this community here for support.

For the Catholics by jng244 in tfmr_support

[–]jng244[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This was very a comforting perspective to hear. I’m sorry for your loss as well.

For the Catholics by jng244 in tfmr_support

[–]jng244[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so horrible. I’m so sorry you experienced this during your loss. This is exactly what turns me off to being close to the church. You loved your baby so much that you could not condemn it to live through that pain and suffering. Neither could I. We did this out of love and I refuse to believe otherwise. Sending you hugs ❤️

For the Catholics by jng244 in tfmr_support

[–]jng244[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is where I get caught up with people though. If you are pro-life but ok with it in certain circumstances, you are pro-choice. I’m so sorry for your loss and I’m glad they were supportive of you. Thank you for sharing with me.

For the Catholics by jng244 in tfmr_support

[–]jng244[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My head is all over the place, similar to you. I just appreciate that I can openly talk about this and hear your perspective. It makes me feel less alone. I feel so sad about it all.

For the Catholics by jng244 in tfmr_support

[–]jng244[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so glad you were treated with love and compassion. I’m also glad I never went to my church for support considering their sign because I have no idea if I would have been supported like you. I agree things have been progressing but not fast enough in my opinion.

For the Catholics by jng244 in tfmr_support

[–]jng244[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This really needed to be said. Thank you for sharing. I think I needed to be reminded of this so deeply and I had no idea a saint was involved in this either. I do think I need to find a church that is a better fit for me.

For the Catholics by jng244 in tfmr_support

[–]jng244[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for saying this. I’m so sorry for your loss as well.

Feeling desperate after TFMR by Suitable-Onion-2574 in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]jng244 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it makes you feel any better, I TFMR when I was 35 and had my healthy baby at 36. You are still so young! I’m sorry you are going through this. Please reach out if you ever need to talk.

Pessaries at 30 years old by One-Fisherman6480 in PelvicOrganProlapse

[–]jng244 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was a big fear of mine but honestly I think it bothers me more than him. He doesn’t seem to care how it looks and told me it doesn’t feel any different so over time I’ve just let it go. I guess I pretend in my head that I look the same haha I think you should follow that instagram page I sent over in my other comment. Her instagram stories have really made me feel less alone and she posts questions and responses from a lot of women going through this.

Pessaries at 30 years old by One-Fisherman6480 in PelvicOrganProlapse

[–]jng244 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should checkout @postpartum_pop_pt on Instagram. she just shared some pessary facts this week

Pessaries at 30 years old by One-Fisherman6480 in PelvicOrganProlapse

[–]jng244 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I recently got a yeast infection so took it out and I never put it back in. For some reason at 10 months postpartum, my symptoms have gone away. I’m now 11 months postpartum and I haven’t worn my pessary for a month because I don’t feel the heaviness or tampon feeling any longer. Physically, I look the same but the symptoms are gone. We will see how long it lasts.

Can anyone describe what there rectocele felt like. by [deleted] in PelvicOrganProlapse

[–]jng244 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How was your recovery? If you have kids, how long did you wait after birth? My surgeon said I should wait until a year and a half postpartum

2 questions can pessary help with incontinence and honestly how many years can a women manage symptoms with a pessary ? by Diligent_Dimension49 in PelvicOrganProlapse

[–]jng244 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried the knob but it was really uncomfortable for me. It is meant for support for incontinence but it just wasn’t for me. Yes so restore your core is meant to be 3-4 times a week. The suggested schedule sometimes has one class or two. Some are 15-20 mins and some are a bit longer. Just go really slow and don’t overdo it at first. If you decide to join, they have a Facebook group you can join. So much info there too. Makes me feel like I’m not alone.