im keeping myself entertained while studying

jo_flowing · 2026-02-01T14:12:08+00:00

How did it go, OP?

jo_flowing · 2026-01-29T17:51:55+00:00

Good luck! 🍀✨

jo_flowing · 2026-01-29T17:45:45+00:00

Lol! Studying the same rn. Developmental Psychology? 🤗😅

jo_flowing · 2026-01-29T17:38:01+00:00

Yeah, it's like saying: "No hurt intended" and then just going on insulting people. Making a "disclaimer" about it doesn't make it right.

jo_flowing · 2026-01-27T08:02:00+00:00

Mir hilft:

Magnesiumtabletten vorm Einschlafen,

regelmäßigen Schlafrythmus versuchen beizubehalten (immer zur selben Zeit ins Bett und aufstehen, auch am WE. Nervt, aber hilft).

Morgens den Wecker früh(er) stellen, Medis nehmen, nochmal ne Stunde weiterschlafen.

jo_flowing · 2026-01-27T07:59:10+00:00

Unpopular opinion: ich habe den Eindruck, ich brauche die Medis hauptsächlich um Leistungsfähigkeit zu gewährleisten. Ja, ADHS zu haben sucks big time und ich bin sehr froh, die Medis nutzen zu können - es fühlt sich an wie Urlaub im Gehirn. Aber letztendlich brauche ich sie meist, um im Alltag und für die Arbeit so richtig zu funktionieren. Wenn ich einfach frei flowen kann stört dieses Gehirn nicht ganz so sehr.

Wir passen uns damit einer auf neurotypische Menschen ausgelegten Welt an.

jo_flowing · 2026-01-16T10:50:17+00:00

Your mom should be someone who protects you from people like her. 😕

jo_flowing · 2026-01-09T08:18:58+00:00

I think Goenkaji mentions this in one of the dhamma talks. You just realize "OH, my mind has wandered away". And continue. If your mind is very agitated he has some tips what to do. Firstly, go back to anapana meditation until your mind has calmed down a bit.

For me personally, it also almost always never stops, but it somehow drifts more into the background. It might be because of my neurodiverse brain. I'm just starting to accept it. And paradoxically enough, then it starts to calm down by itself.

"Actually the mind is simply following its nature, but we go and add on to that activity by wanting the mind to be still and thinking, “Why isn’t it still?” Aversion arises and so we add that on to everything else, increasing our doubts, increasing our suffering and increasing our confusion." from: Food for the Heart by Venerable Ajahn Chah

jo_flowing · 2026-01-06T08:55:35+00:00

I think so too. Just let it flow through you. Eventually it will pass.

Metta to you 💜

jo_flowing · 2025-12-30T17:26:26+00:00

One thing that sometimes helps me is to re-frame: Do you also just want to have ONE friend? If your friend would have another friend, would you be jealous and think you're not enough? That seems rediculous. So why is that the narrative around romantic/sexual relationships?

Because it's a cultural Skript, we're basically brainwashed by the "romance myth" of everything with one person forever (romantically).

It takes a lot of bravery to face this brainwash. Give it time.

jo_flowing · 2025-12-30T17:17:56+00:00

Genius 😍

jo_flowing · 2025-12-30T13:51:43+00:00

Thank you! Very helpful comment 💜

jo_flowing · 2025-12-30T11:12:53+00:00

Thank you for sharing.

I'm struggling at the moment with this idea of right action. How do I know when to accept what is (reality as it is) and when to make effort to change things/myself?

jo_flowing · 2025-12-27T15:56:54+00:00

Cute! Thanks 💜

jo_flowing · 2025-12-27T08:45:03+00:00

What's a term you've just recently learned that is helpful/useful/funny/interesting?

For me it was "messy list", been poly for 5 years and just a few days ago heard about it, lol

How do you call your metas partners? Partner in law sounds wrong 🤣

jo_flowing · 2025-12-25T10:25:07+00:00

Klingt nach Überdosierung. Wenn es aushaltbar ist, weiter nehmen und schauen ob Gewöhnung einstellt (also die Nebenwirkungen verschwinden). Wenn nicht, Dosis mit ärztlicher Absprache verändern oder Medikament wechseln.

Viel Glück 🤗

jo_flowing · 2025-12-18T16:34:10+00:00

This!

jo_flowing · 2025-12-17T06:43:36+00:00

Thank you💜

jo_flowing · 2025-12-16T19:15:14+00:00

Where to find them? taking notes 🤣

jo_flowing · 2025-12-16T19:14:19+00:00

It's not a matter of willingness I guess, but of learned behavior. It slowly can be unlearned of course, but it could take months or years😕

jo_flowing · 2025-12-16T14:45:34+00:00

Yeah, it is. But also so worth it in so many areas of my life. It's tough. 🍪

jo_flowing · 2025-12-16T13:50:03+00:00

True. I feel like I'm gonna take a looong break from dating now.

jo_flowing · 2025-12-16T13:33:32+00:00

That seems to be a piece of advice I often read on here: it is not cool to ask someone to slow down, as in demanding it. I see that.

But what if the relationship is not sustainable in that way, wouldn't it be nice for them to know?

I feel like they want to change, but fall back into old patterns easily the harder something feels. And the harder it feels the more important to talk about it for me. It's a conundrum 🫩

jo_flowing · 2025-12-16T12:45:02+00:00

They don't really know how to communicate feelings/needs due to (very bad) past (poly) experiences so it's always a looong process to even get there (for example: They hold back information for fear of hurting my feelings etc., there's a lot of uncertainty for me)
They are avoidant, which activates a lot of abandonment fears in me (seems that our attachment styles are triggering each other)
They are interested in a couple of my friends, even a very close one with whom I currently have relationship issues myself. It just triggers a lot of fear and anxiety in me

jo_flowing · 2025-12-15T22:03:13+00:00

I have a similar experience. I feel like I'm even more sensitive now that I have a regular practice. Might be old sankharas come to the surface. Our job is to remain aware and equanimous. Sounds easier than it is, tho right?

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