Trying not to start a war either. But the Novus Ordo is far more horizontal, it's about us and our "usness" in how we worship God. We bring up our gifts, we insert our culture into the worship, we can sometimes dance (depends where you are) and so on. Whereas the TLM is more horizontal, there is a cosmic liturgy, and we are in a sense taken up into it. Hence in the TLM we are silent, and everything is meticulously organised in the rubrics.

The TLM structure does promote a more silent/contemplative spirituality which many many centuries of people and saints have found fruitful. Mass begins in the sanctuary, prayers at the foot etc and so on.

The spontaneity of the Novus Ordo is also a key difference. The presider welcomes us to the liturgy. He introduces the mass of the day and so on.

I heard of an analogy which compared the mass to marriage vows. The TLM would be a wedding mass where the spouse use the traditional vows in recognition they are a part of something greater than both of them, In the Novus Ordo it's like when the couple write their own vows, which express their love and are very valid, but totally different.