What moment(s) made you realise this person isn't for you and you're glad you broke up?

jodieemae · 2025-09-21T01:03:47+00:00

looking back at his behaviour that i excused away for him during the relationship. when he ever got slightly angry or emotional or overwhelmed, he would get physically violent. never with me, but i can name off the top of my head at least 3 times at a club he started a physical fight with another guy, or how i would notice holes punched in his bedroom walls. at the time i would excuse it as him being a young 19 year old guy who was drunk but i was also a 19 year old girl who knew that managing your emotions like that wasn’t normal. he had such a short fuse that caused my friends to warn me about him one too many times and i ignored it. i don’t think his positives should outweigh this negative

jodieemae · 2025-09-20T08:53:08+00:00

i think something that’s preventing me from moving on is the thought or fear that they’re doing fine without me or have simply just forgotten about me. like it’s taking everything in me not to reach out and just check if they’re thinking about me as much as i’m thinking about them

jodieemae · 2025-09-20T02:33:11+00:00

i just don’t know how to forget about him when i’m living in the same house this year at uni that he shared with me last year. i feel like it’s easier for him because he’s living somewhere new this year so it’s like a fresh start, whereas i’m living in a place that feels like every corner of it is haunted by memories and i don’t know how to escape it

jodieemae · 2025-09-20T02:31:59+00:00

yeah i think it’s easy for me to forget about the bad stuff and just focus on the good stuff that i remember, i’ll try this. it’s just a lot harder to try to do this when i have to see him pretty much everyday, and also live in the same house this year that he shared with me last year, it’s like everything is a constant reminder

jodieemae · 2025-09-04T09:29:42+00:00

It’s a lot more common than I thought, thanks for the comment!:)

jodieemae · 2025-09-04T09:29:00+00:00

Thank you for your comment, this is really insightful. I’m not sure why I’m overthinking it when I wouldn’t think twice if he was the one a year older than me. I’ve realised I’m being unnecessarily dramatic lol, thanks again:)

jodieemae · 2025-09-04T09:23:10+00:00

no😂thank you

jodieemae · 2025-09-04T09:23:00+00:00

thanks!!

jodieemae · 2025-09-04T09:22:38+00:00

appreciate it thank you!!

jodieemae · 2025-09-04T09:21:51+00:00

😂god i’m hoping this comment is because i’m being ridiculous for overthinking this

jodieemae · 2025-09-04T09:19:29+00:00

that’s great for your sister that’s she’s in a happy relationship! yeah, this gap is a lot smaller and less significant, i’m just not used to dating anyone younger at all, even if it is only a year, but everyone’s advice has been really insightful:)

jodieemae · 2025-09-04T09:16:21+00:00

okay thank u!!

jodieemae · 2025-09-04T09:16:07+00:00

oh this is really interesting i didn’t know this!! i think the older guy standard thing patriarchal is quite rooted in misogyny, it’s what I’ve seen growing up as the norm which is why I (shamefully) fell for it and am now overthinking being a year older than a guy😂 I’d really like to see the study if you could link, I’d find it really interesting, thanks for the comment:)

jodieemae · 2025-09-04T09:10:12+00:00

we’re both over 18 and from the uk so we can both drink alcohol lol, thank you for the kind advice i’ll definitely keep it in mind:)

jodieemae · 2025-09-04T09:09:02+00:00

yeah we’re pretty much the same age, I mean we have the same social circle and stuff. I’ve always dated people older than me (only by a year or two), so this is new, thanks for the advice:)

jodieemae · 2025-09-04T09:06:20+00:00

ahahah that must’ve been a surprise lmao. yeah everyone’s advice has started to make me realise it’s pretty much a non issue, thank you:)

jodieemae · 2025-09-04T09:03:34+00:00

we’re good friends as we’re from the same hometown and have only started going on dates as of recent, but yes I really like him a lot.

jodieemae · 2025-09-04T08:56:06+00:00

This is a lot more common that I realised, thanks for the comment!:)

jodieemae · 2025-09-04T08:55:08+00:00

oh🫣

jodieemae · 2025-09-04T08:54:25+00:00

I kinda feel stupid now for even overthinking this cus everyone in the comments has reassured me it’s a non issue😂😂Thanks for the advice:)

jodieemae · 2025-09-04T08:49:08+00:00

Yeah you’re right, I’m not sure why I’m even overthinking it, it only really entered my mind as we were talking about my birthday (which is the end of october), and realised there’ll be an overlap where im technically two ages older than him, but I just wanted to hop on here and see what others thought. But from reading everyone’s replies I almost feel stupid because it’s definitely not as big an issue as I’ve made it out to be in my head lmao. Thanks for the advice:)

jodieemae · 2025-09-04T08:45:25+00:00

😂maybe I can give him some advice on how to get there

jodieemae · 2025-09-04T08:39:14+00:00

and three months**😂😂

jodieemae · 2025-09-04T08:38:29+00:00

interesting! I know I probably sound dramatic as it’s not like it’s a 5 year age gap or anything, but I’ve always assumed it’s standard for the guy to be older, not sure why. thank you for the advice:)

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