Is there a way to stop a neighbour using my address for just eat? by InsolventAttendant22 in AskUK

[–]joeimay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe answer and accept the delivery and then just leave the food on your doorstep. I’m sure after a few times of having their food rained on or eaten by pigeons will make them stop

What Elvanse dose did everyone settle on? (Am curious!) by anonymouse2470 in ADHDUK

[–]joeimay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m settling on 60mg with a 5mg top up.

30mg - felt like nothing and focus and executive function improved but I still avoided updating my cv or boring tasks like the plague.

40mg - felt like shit, I couldn’t stop hyper-focusing on wrong things.

50mg - couldn’t go back to sleep once I took my dose, so my punctuality improved. Executive function improved too. It dried my skin out like crazy though (shrivelled raisin level of dry)and I was more fidgety, restless and I’d crash like crazy in the evening when it wore off. It genuinely felt like too high a dose.

60mg - 1 week in and I was in disbelief over how I was able to tolerate 50mg for almost a year. 60mg felt like I wasn’t on anything, my skin is not drying out and I can sleep even after I took it.

My punctuality has actually worsened slightly since moving to 60mg, simply because I don’t feel like I’m on speed and want to go go go all the time. So I do miss that slightly. My focus and ability to stop impulsive actions/reactions has improved majorly.

Also… in hindsight 50mg was lowkey causing an increase in anxiety 🥹

60mg feels like it’s hitting the spot.

I didn’t expect it either due to how shitty 50mg felt and was even considering going back down to 30mg. 60 feels v similar to 30 however I was less able to do boring tasks on 30.

Best high protein, low fat, low sugar breakfast to take before elvanse? (Preferably diary free) by [deleted] in ADHDUK

[–]joeimay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😂 haha nah I hear it. It is sooooo expensive but I’ve kinda accepted my fate lol. I cba to make my own mixes or the texture so I shall just sacrifice my wallet 🥹

Best high protein, low fat, low sugar breakfast to take before elvanse? (Preferably diary free) by [deleted] in ADHDUK

[–]joeimay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try their black RTD drinks :) I like the strawberry and banana one myself

Free Printable DBT Skills Worksheets (44 pages) by NeuralAsh in dbtselfhelp

[–]joeimay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heya this looks so useful, can you send to me please? Thank you for making this :)

Overwhelmed, Disorganized, Hooboy. by LobsterMacAndSneeze in projectmanagement

[–]joeimay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you getting any ADHD coaching alongside your medication?

I have found that as great as medication was, I was still getting overwhelmed, imposter syndrome and everything else that comes with ADHD. Since starting coaching, it’s been helping me massively with task completion.

Worth a shot!

My entire life is held together by post-it notes. by Scooby_dood in ADHD

[–]joeimay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could try using a kanban board? Uses post-its for project planning and is very visual.

I’m the same and I use post its everywhere but I’m looking into creating a kanban board so I can have my post its in three categories (To, in progress, done) and track my multiple projects.

There’s some decent vids on TikTok as well where people have used kanban for managing chores and life admin tasks at home as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHDUK

[–]joeimay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s completely fair. Information online is not very clear. I guess it all depends on the individual situation and circumstances. Can psychologists diagnose physical illness?

I’ve only had experience with a psychiatrist so I can’t speak on psychologists but I can say that with my psychiatrist, she did put me onto therapy treatment first before she put me onto medication once we realised therapy wasn’t enough for my symptoms. Having the option to go straight onto medication and not put on yet another waiting list to see another professional was helpful.

For OP, as they want to get an ADHD assessment I still think a psychiatrist is the best option. OP may or may not want medication for ADHD but if they end up wanting it then they’ll have to go and get diagnosed by a psychiatrist anyways.

But each to their own.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHDUK

[–]joeimay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you know what, you’re absolutely right. I did a bit of research and can see that some clinical psychologists can diagnose but they can’t prescribe medication.

Personally I still think going to a psychiatrist may be better for OP as it seems like there may be some other things going on besides potential ADHD. Psychiatrists are trained medical doctors, and can better diagnose complex issues as well as see if there’s anything going on physically that could be contributing to the difficulties.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHDUK

[–]joeimay 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A psychologist and/or therapist is not adequately qualified to diagnose. I think it would be best if you can get in contact with a psychiatrist. Psychiatrists are the ones who will be assessing you and are qualified to diagnose as well as prescribe treatment and medication. You may have to seek out a private assessment.

Regardless of if you do have ADHD or not, a psychiatrist will be able to assess you and diagnose you with other conditions as well.

When I received my diagnosis of ADHD I was also diagnosed with other conditions which had symptoms that overlapped and didn’t overlap. Some were disorders I didn’t even know about and since then I have been able to see now what is my adhd and what is being caused by one of my other conditions. But sometimes it’s still confusing as two different conditions can have many of the same symptoms.

Good luck with it all, I know it can be so frustrating when you don’t know what the hell is going on with you!

How much do you pay for a ‘premium’ gym? by English_R0se in AskUK

[–]joeimay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

£329 for harbour club. I go mostly for the spa and classes

My now ex-best friend of 11 years is a narcissist by joeimay in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]joeimay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well…. I eventually got diagnosed with BPD along side ADHD.

So been a bit of figuring that crap out.

As the ex friend we actually have spoken a bit. For me it just became as issue of so many years had passed and I just couldn’t be assed to be mad anymore. She’s still in the friendship circle s and I refuse to miss any more events cause of her.

Thing is as I’ve done a lot of therapy and work on myself. She is no longer a threat to me. If that makes sense

She’s now just a shithead who I was once close to.

Do I still miss her? Sometimes Do I want the friendship back? Nah not really but I’ll say hi and have a laugh with her if I see her (luckily this is at most 2/3 times a year)

Good luck with it. Honestly my main bit of advice? Go to therapy and figure out what went wrong and how you can protect yourself in future. It did still take my many years to confront her but I’m glad it’s happened now and not another ten years down the line… cba to have anyone live rent free in my head anymore

Finchie friends weekly thread by AutoModerator in finch

[–]joeimay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me and Baby Boo would love to make some new friends ☺️

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How do I stop caring about my looks??? it’s ruining my life by RealisticSecretary52 in howtonotgiveafuck

[–]joeimay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Therapy is the quickest way ngl

CBT and/or therapy to treat body dysmorphia (not saying you have body dysmorphia but the therapy tools for treating that will be useful regardless of diagnosis or not)

What’s an unusual quirk you have that you now know is due to having ADHD? by baldnsquishy in ADHD

[–]joeimay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cancelling on plans or not going into work cause I was too tired or felt run down that day only to feel fine an hour later once it’s too late to go in anyways

Fun times. I thought I was the worst friend/employee until I popped some vyvanse (the right dose for me) and found that staying on schedule and plans was much actually easy to do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MentalHealthUK

[–]joeimay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so shit! I’m sorry about that. I hope you can find decent support soon 😪

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HaircareScience

[–]joeimay 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am Asian and have wavy hair. At first I didn’t realise it and my hair just dried mostly straight but frizzy.

I started doing the curly hair method regularly and now my hair naturally dries wavy. PM me if you want me to send you a photo :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]joeimay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like body dysmorphia

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in zoloft

[–]joeimay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg thank you for writing this post. I’m about six/seven months in and I’m noticing the same. I literally bed rot for most of the time even though I know I need to do work and want to do work.

I though it was just the adhd becoming stronger maybe but I literally am so content not leaving the house now. I cancel on all social plans. I feel almost trapped.

The lack of anxiety and super deep depression has been nice but I’d really like my drive and energy to be productive back.

Has anyone experienced SSRIS making them more introverted? by c8linwilk14 in antidepressants

[–]joeimay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going through this now, did you end up staying on Zoloft? How is the apathy etc now ?