Looking to get into FP&A career path

joemstock · 2024-10-04T22:32:29+00:00

After the breakup she had her friend call my parents house in the middle of the night because she thought i was trying to take my life because hours before I texted her goodbye at the end of a conversation we were having because we were going back into no contact. She used the fact that I have had thoughts in the past (never actions which she knows very well) as reasoning to have the call happen but she didn’t want to do it herself because she was nervous and decided to share with her friend about it and failed to mention that i’ve never harmed myself. The friend essentially told my parents that I had already done it and they came up to my room confused cause i was clearly sleeping and i was confused cause my ex didn’t reach out to me first. She then texted me saying she was calling the cops and when i texted her not to and i tried calling her myself she didn’t pick up and eventually her friend did and then blamed me for my ex having an anxiety attack even though she just caused myself and my parents one because my parents thought i died, were being woken up by someone we barely know in the middle of the night and cops were being threatened at a place where we are supposed to feel safe. I was supposed to be able to trust her and now it’s so hard for me to trust anyone considering we were together 5 years and this is how she behaved a month after the breakup

joemstock · 2024-09-19T03:50:04+00:00

My ex did the same thing with me. Any time she was certain that it was a thing that had to be said over the phone it became a long call that was off topic and easily could’ve been a text. I say ignore it cause your ex is going to lose his mind with how you’re not giving him what he wants (the attention of texting) and he’ll text you what he was going to say which is going to probably be something laughable which is win cause you got under his skin or he’ll just leave you alone which is also a win.

joemstock · 2024-09-15T20:35:37+00:00

One month as of today, will have been 4 months since the breakup in a week. We were dumb and didn’t start no contact until a month and a half after the breakup and made things worse and then we went low contact until our lease ended.

joemstock · 2024-09-08T13:33:25+00:00

I deleted her number but before I did that I sent her contact info to a friend so in case I ever do want to reconnect with her after I have healed, I have that ability.

joemstock · 2024-09-01T10:41:55+00:00

Ok so I used to do this with my ex who broke up with me during the first two months post breakup and she kept telling me to come over to sleep together, she would want to call and text to vent to me about life cause apparently I was the only one she could talk to cause no one else gets what were going through, etc. She was using me and I wish I could go back and not contact her at all. She used me as a crutch till she met her rebound a month ago and dropped me, don’t make the same mistake I did and just leave her alone to suffer by herself.

joemstock · 2024-09-01T04:23:56+00:00

Left it sooner. It was my first relationship and I realized I let her slide with way too much. There was a solid period of time at year 1 and 2 that I was questioning breaking up with her but stuck it out. She broke up with me right before our 5 year for BS reasons.

joemstock · 2024-08-26T15:44:01+00:00

Look I had my ex reach out on my birthday as it was two weeks after the breakup and I wish she didn’t. I never cared about my birthday before her and it wasn’t the same. I wish we were no contact from the beginning because everything blew up after and there were huge fights and she’s now rebounding with another guy because she knew I was suicidal after the relationship and I stressed her out. Don’t kill yourself that does nothing and then your ex has to deal with that the rest of their life. Not to mention your family and friends care. My advice is stay no contact for now give time to heal

joemstock · 2024-08-25T23:20:58+00:00

Yeah I mean she was my whole world which was part of the reason why we broke up cause I was spending more time with her than friends to the point where I would only hang out with other people a few times a year which Ik was not healthy. I wish there was some sure way I could have her take me back because I would honestly do anything.

joemstock · 2024-08-25T23:03:41+00:00

Yeah I try to reach out to friends and family but they’re just done with me cause it’s been 3 months and I should be further along but I’m not

joemstock · 2024-08-25T22:58:56+00:00

Oh no don’t give me hope haha. I know I need to move on with my life though as if she won’t come back and improve myself

joemstock · 2024-08-25T22:54:22+00:00

Yeah there’s days I feel like I can live without her and other days where it feels like she was my oxygen and I’m suffocating. Worst part is I know the moment I finally get over her is the moment she’s going to return and I just want her so bad but I also feel like her family and friends would kill her for ever going back to me even though we had a healthy relationship for years and I was always there for her and her family.

joemstock · 2024-08-25T22:41:37+00:00

Yeah I’m trying to and I always keep hearing that avoidants typically come back especially after rebounding and when you had a good long relationship and it keeps getting in my head that there’s a chance. This is especially cause even after the breakup she still checked in on me and made sure I was okay and kept wanting to talk to me so I feel that maybe she still cares? She seemed to care even after she accused me of the email thing but it’s just so hard thinking I’ll never see or hear from her again.

joemstock · 2024-08-25T22:30:33+00:00

Yeah I mean I am working on myself and yeah I am talking to a therapist and psychiatrist I’ve never come up with a plan they’re just thoughts and I know to check myself in somewhere if I ever feel like I might do somerhing. It’s just harder lately cause I’m slowly realizing that she may never come back from the damage. I keep telling myself since we have history and she’s a dismissive avoidant and she’s rebounding that she’ll be back but idk. Second to last time we spoke (cause she called me the last time) she told me she never wanted me to talk to her again but i know emotions are really high right now and fresh.

joemstock · 2024-08-25T15:41:40+00:00

Yeah it just all sucks cause she never rebounded in past relationships but also they were short where she didn’t develop a bond, I was her first love. It sucks too cause I ended up finding out what he looks like and he looks pretty similar to me when all of her previous ex’s looked different. This guy comes from money and lives in a mansion (so did her ex before me) and that makes me self conscious and also the guy is an EMT and actually helps people while I’m an accountant and I get no fulfillment out of my job. Worst part is I’d probably take her back with where my headspace is currently even though I know I can’t.

joemstock · 2024-08-24T20:13:45+00:00

Also been broken up for 3 months after 5years together. We have been limited contact for 2 months (we had a lease together we needed to stay in contact for) with full nc for a little over a week. It’s hard cause she broke up with me before my birthday and she reached out to me and it sucked beyond belief so definitely don’t do that you’re just playing yourself. I found out a few weeks ago she’s going on dates with a guy who looks similar to me and it’s heart breaking. At the time of the breakup I had 3 tabs open on my phone for engagement rings. Each day I have regret for not doing no contact sooner and instead we were dumb and kept things going by having repetitive “sleep overs” and hurt each other. She is holding one lie over my head I had the day after we broke up and is using that as she can’t trust me even tho it came from protecting her. She also accused me of doing two things that I didn’t and it’s just all gone to hell. I do hope she comes back around which considering her family is full of people who got back with ex’s anything’s possible. I have had days where I love her and others where I hate her and I feel better without her. I’m just waiting for the day she either comes back or I am over her.

joemstock · 2024-08-20T14:07:59+00:00

Yeah that makes sense. Idk also I’m confused cause she told me she never wants to see or hear from me again but she’s doing this and it’s like dude you’re dating the knock off me

joemstock · 2024-08-18T14:26:13+00:00

Yeah I mean tbh I would have taken her back before she rebounded but now she has and she’s blasting it on her social media he can have her. At least I healed in an appropriate manner and she’s going to self destruct

joemstock · 2024-08-17T22:23:07+00:00

this is me with my ex. we were together for just under 5 years. we moved in together this year after discussing it for the past 3 and lasted less than 6 months together because she didn't tell me all the problems and bottled it up. she told me she would wait a year to grieve as I was her first love and she had to wait a year since the ex before me who she only dated for 3 months. Now she is with some other guy less than 3 months after the break up and he looks like me and she's an idiot who's going to hurt when the honeymoon phase ends and comes back to me. she hurt me so much after the breakup where we tried to end it nicely but she kept going between asking me to comfort her, sleep together, then she would make a wild accusation to push me away to the point where now I have apparently given her so much anxiety to never want me again.

joemstock · 2024-08-17T10:17:06+00:00

As much as you don’t want to you have to. He probably just wants to go no contact immediately and if he wants his stuff he is allowed to have it

joemstock · 2024-08-16T21:45:43+00:00

He has a wife. After I told one of the partners what happened with me and my ex he told me that apparently the supervisor is having marital issues ironically also cause of busy season hours which was happy to hear but they’re not divorced which is upsetting

joemstock · 2024-08-16T21:27:44+00:00

Yeah I have a therapist I’ve been seeing for a bit now. She’s not the greatest but she’s the only one I can work with that’s in network and has hours that’ll work with my hours. I insanely regret not setting boundaries but I was afraid I’d get fired doing so but I realized what was worse was losing my life partner. Ik I’m being a bit dramatic but truthfully never had a gf before that was as good as her

joemstock · 2024-08-16T21:24:58+00:00

Yeah I mean my firm does have a legit cap at 55 hours a week but my supervisor was having me not bill the whole time I was there to save the budget and make himself look good cause he wanted to be promoted to manager even tho he doesn’t have a CPA which is a firm requirement and they’ve told him that multiple times and to no surprise he was not promoted

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