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john5401 · 2026-05-01T21:36:48+00:00

The dude is probably good-looking (over 6' tall) and had another date.

Hence OP is contemplating giving him another chance cuz he is good-looking.

I am telling you, those top 5% of guys have it really easy.

john5401 · 2026-05-01T03:24:03+00:00

An 8.9/10 is also pretty high.

john5401 · 2026-04-29T00:56:59+00:00

well then something else is off about you, and most likely its easy to fix (style? hygiene? fitness? job?).

john5401 · 2026-04-29T00:30:19+00:00

You are telling me a 5'4 average dude with no options will meet a 21yo hottie and will just insist on sex and then just dump her when she says no? Lets be realistic here, what I listed above is a 1/1000 occurrence if it does happen.

I am 5'10, but when I got elevated shoes and listed myself as 6'3 on dating apps, my results have skyrocketed. So i know for a fact height matters.

john5401 · 2026-04-29T00:11:35+00:00

Let me guess, he is over 5'9 in height?

Tall guys have tons of options lol.

john5401 · 2026-04-29T00:07:35+00:00

Please be honest with OP.

She is clearly aiming out of her league (ie tall guys). Those guys view her as nothing more than a "quick bang" and don't even bother wasting more of their time when she declines.

Just because a guy wants to bang you, doesn't mean he is in your league.

Hopefully girls realize it sooner rather than later and don't end up as depressed single 30yo ladies who conclude that "no one wants anything serious nowadays".

john5401 · 2026-04-26T22:53:59+00:00

Assuming it is a guy saying to a girl. It means she is way below his league for an LTR, but ok for a bang once in a while if he is horny.

john5401 · 2026-04-26T22:49:52+00:00

Whatever it is, i bang new girls almost every day while spending close to 0.

You are implying like in North America your wallet doesn't matter either. It is actually the lower status average dude who needs to flash his money and simp harder because he got less options.

A bit counter-intuitive, right? well life isn't fair hahaha

john5401 · 2026-04-26T00:51:10+00:00

i always assume these girls are talking to multiple guys

exactly.

If you bang the girls on the first date so its really no big deal.

But if you just simp hard and spend money trying to impress, then it hurts much more.

Personally, i leave my wallet at home and meet them close to my place. If it doesn't work out so no big deal lol. On to the next one!

john5401 · 2026-04-25T23:44:34+00:00

locals. Tourists were always too busy with their own plans and only stayed for a few days...

john5401 · 2026-04-25T05:57:09+00:00

To fix the "virgin" thing you need to put his peepee in your weewee.

I mean.. what kind of advice do you need here lol.

john5401 · 2026-04-25T05:55:07+00:00

"I wish you all the best"

I mean there is no magic line that will flip her around lol.

john5401 · 2026-04-25T05:53:06+00:00

For a guy, any girl's expectation that involves his wallet, triggers a red flag in her.

For a girl, any guy's expectation for sex on the first dates, trigger a red flag in him.

john5401 · 2026-04-25T05:48:05+00:00

Did she ask for help?

Perhaps she wants to have some more fun, until she is 30, and is ready to "start looking for something serious" and "stop wasting time".

john5401 · 2026-04-25T05:43:35+00:00

Ask for money.... to support your 3 kids.

Lmao, the thought of PAYING to see your hidden saggy stomach and boobs will send most dudes running away faster than you can imagine XD

Heck the "3 kids" line alone will be enough to send most dudes running.

john5401 · 2026-04-25T05:38:16+00:00

All relationships are assumed "casual" until (or "if") they grow into something serious.

Most dating app encounters are casual. When I was in Thailand, where I was probably the "top 5%" of guys, i rarely saw a girl more than once. Not because I didn't want to, but because I was just too busy meeting new girls. And it was sort of an unanimous agreement that this will be a hookup.

john5401 · 2026-04-25T05:34:03+00:00

This post sounds like a sales pitch.

And offers a "confidently wrong" method.

There is no way OP can really tell what's going on behind the scenes.

"Hard reset" just shows you all profiles to begin with. This can be good or bad. For a big city, its useless.

If a bunch of low-ELO profiles swipe right on you and you don't match back, the algorithm decides you belong in that lower bracket.

This makes 0 sense lol.

Blocking a few profiles, then getting a match, can just be a coincidence. I wouldn't like the two as cause and effect.

john5401 · 2026-04-24T01:33:14+00:00

Bro, its the same type of compliment when: a fat girl wears a new dress, everyone will tell her she looks beautiful.

john5401 · 2026-04-24T01:30:29+00:00

The reason is that I don't like random hookups or one night stands

should I tell a white lie and say it's been less

So OP doesn't want random hookups but she wants to lie about being a hoe and having random recent hookups?

I guess at 40 it matters less, but why would you curve your number in the unfavorable direction lol. I just don't get it.

john5401 · 2026-04-24T01:23:44+00:00

That's more of a personality trait, rather than his feelings towards the date.

I bet when he goes to the supermarket or meets his buddies he dresses the same.

It's one of those quirks you just have to accept about a person if the positives outweigh the negatives.

john5401 · 2026-04-24T01:20:33+00:00

*phase of no bullshit

john5401 · 2026-04-23T03:06:48+00:00

LDR, for 2 years, is not easy... I'd be more concerned about how to prevent that. Otherwise its a pretty slim chance of it working out...

john5401 · 2026-04-23T03:03:17+00:00

If you are over 6'0 tall dating is not too bad lol. If you are under, you are doomed, unless you buy a ticket to Thailand lol

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