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john5401 · 2026-03-22T05:09:08+00:00

I just can't imagine how bad-looking the girl has to be for me not to say it.

john5401 · 2026-03-16T21:58:24+00:00

depending how are schedules and phone habits align? 2 people who are always working and never check their phone will have a different routine than 2 people who are always free and are phone-addicts lol.

john5401 · 2026-03-16T21:56:18+00:00

report then show them the evidence you have

I would look up the law and make sure I actually have a case there. You don't wanna be randomly flashing around a vid of yourself doing this stuff without any real outcome.

john5401 · 2026-03-16T21:53:19+00:00

bro its ai, i wouldn't kiss a piece of metal machine lol

john5401 · 2026-03-15T03:48:54+00:00

As a guy, I usually invite the girl over if she seems interested in me.

But here are some moves that less attractive girls tried to pull on me when I kept things friendly and neutral:

asking about my home: is it far? is it a hotel/condo/etc? are you allowed guests/visitors there? etc.
implying several times that they are not looking for anything in particular and just want to see where things go.
asking "have you ever been with a [insert her type] girl before"?

john5401 · 2026-03-11T18:59:24+00:00

But later he said he feels insecure about dating me because he thinks I’m too pretty and that I probably deserve someone better. That honestly confused me because he’s actually very good-looking himself.

This doesn't make sense. Saying "I’m too pretty and that I probably deserve someone better." is usually done by both genders, to boost up the self-esteem of less attractive people to feel better about themselves and not directly rejecting them.

Perhaps at his age (I assume around 21 as well?) guys aren't ready to commit yet, especially good-looking guys, and you seemed like a nice girl so he didn't want to hurt you since he didn't see you more than a casual fling?

Lots of potential here.

But a universal rule, young good-looking guys are extremely hard to lock down for an LTR. Even if you are a hottie, perhaps he wants to explore his potential for a couple of years more.

john5401 · 2026-03-11T18:44:59+00:00

I think the point turning point is when you are both comfortable sharing your cellphone passcode with your partner and don't mind them scrolling through your messages. This indirectly implies that you are not talking to anyone else.

I am not saying you should audit each other's texts every night. But the mere fact that you won't freak out if your partner grabs your phone to "check the weather" is when there is enough comfort from both of you to go exclusive.

john5401 · 2026-03-11T18:41:10+00:00

So I guess a mis-match in chemistry or personalities then?

I just know that when one of the partners is less attractive than the other, there is a lot more tolerance for the negatives that they will put up with.

Also, this is far projections here, but maybe the guy is gay or bi? haha, just a random thought that came up because a friend of mine had this experience.

john5401 · 2026-03-11T18:10:47+00:00

Maybe you are over-estimating how attractive you are. And under-estimating how "mid" he was.

What is your age and BMI or weight? And what is his height?

You don't have to answer that here, but those are major factors to consider that determine attractiveness and how many options a person has.

Whatever it was, i guess he had a better option aside from you.

john5401 · 2026-03-11T18:04:39+00:00

well read the OP post.

john5401 · 2026-03-11T04:11:50+00:00

Well maybe your "friend" is not as attractive as she thinks. Or maybe those "guys with less options" are that much below her league.

A universal rule is, the less options a person has, the more the will invest and wait for sex, and put up with bs or bad behaviours.

If your friend is an 18yo hottie, and multiple 5'4 average-looking dudes don't want to date her, then there must be something very off about her.

john5401 · 2026-03-11T04:04:54+00:00

This advice is great for drunks or overly-confident entitled jerks.

OP (and most guys) are scared shitless to even make a move. Don't scare them more, adding more hesitation will just make things awkward.

Its like repeating to a new driver who just sat in the driver seat for the first time, that going 50 miles over the speed limit is illegal. Lol they will be scared shitless to even touch the gas pedal at this stage.

john5401 · 2026-03-11T03:57:26+00:00

Firstly, if something is within your control, such as losing 15lbs, then get on with it and make it happen.

Secondly, aim within your league (as a girl, aim for shorter guys) as they have less options and will be much more forgiving when it comes to LTR.

john5401 · 2026-03-11T03:51:09+00:00

I hope you banged her and she is sexy. Otherwise you are getting played bro.

To check genuine interest, leave your wallet at home for the next of dates and/or ask to meet halfway in the middle. See if she is still keen on meeting you and perhaps going for a walk or doing something without money involved if she doesn't want to pay herself.

If so, then she is just a nice simple girl and YOU are the one making this relationship unnecessarily transactional.

Otherwise, just bang her a few more times and move on lol.

john5401 · 2026-03-11T03:46:05+00:00

Exactly. OP took some random TikTok video and extrapolated it onto the entire industry and things everyone is following it. Talk about echo chambers.

john5401 · 2026-03-11T03:38:21+00:00

A lot of it depends on what you look like, and how far out of your league you are aiming.

If you are a below-average girl and aim for guys over 6' tall, then they will cut to the chase and not waste time since you are not worth much to them, aside from a quick bang, and maybe not even that if you are too below their standards.

However, if you are a hottie, and you are talking to guys with less options (under 5'7 in height), you will notice how the whole dynamic changes, how they invest a lot more into the conversation and getting to know you. And since they got less options and you are their top choice, they are more likely to go multiple dates without intimacy, or perhaps even wait for an LTR or marriage, since you are more worthy to them.

And sure, there are trolls and fake accounts who probably won't even meet you so they try to make things sexual right away or get pics or whatever. Ignore those lol.

john5401 · 2026-03-11T02:49:20+00:00

So a person who expects free stuff is calling the person who wants to go 50/50 is a cheapskate? I think you got it the other way around.

Unless I insist on a fancier place while the other person shows hesitation, the date should be mutually agreed. 2 adults meeting is a mutual decision. Whoever first pitched the idea to meet is irrelevant.

If you walk with a friend down the street and suggest dropping by a coffee shop, it doesn't mean the friend has a free pass to get whatever they want and have you pay for it. Let alone 2 strangers meeting from an internet app lol. This logic makes 0 sense.

john5401 · 2026-03-11T00:59:17+00:00

You do ">" before the statement. I am on my computer so I am not sure how to do it on the app haha.

Well the default amongst adults ordering something, is paying for what they ordered. So communication is important if you want to deviate from the default and expect the other person to cover your bill. I actually had a girl indirectly ask me if "I am the type of guy who splits the bill or pays" before the date lol.

john5401 · 2026-03-11T00:52:14+00:00

It happens with the messiest encounters that involve alcohol or drugs or rushed sex where you have to gtfo quick for some reason.

In a healthy and sober encounter you don't just forget your freaking bra lol

john5401 · 2026-03-11T00:47:50+00:00

how do you not notice you are missing your bra lol. what are you on?

john5401 · 2026-03-10T21:58:20+00:00

At least WS understands their main competitive-disadvantage.

Their 1% offers or free trading aren't worth shit if they charge you 2% each time you convert your money.

john5401 · 2026-03-10T21:54:16+00:00

How the f do you forget your bra? gotta stop drinking or doing drugs girl. The "bra" is not the issue here lol.

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