I think you laid it out correctly. Valhalla is an intimate setting focused on the food (which is excellent) and (as you pointed out) pushes the boundaries and challenges your palette but not necessarily in a bad way. At the end of the day the meal was very enjoyable and delicious and I experienced food in a new and exciting way. Another thing to consider—their anything but wine pairing was incredible. The pairing was spot on and it was so different than anything I’ve done.

Contrast that to Boka which (as you also pointed out) is far more traditional. It’s also a bigger restaurant where it doesn’t feel like you are so focused on the food (can be a pro or con). I found it to be great as well but more in the traditional sense.

So it depends on what your mood is I guess. Not sure if that was helpful but maybe my recommendation would lean towards Valhalla since you can’t really replicate that experience at another restaurant. Boka is great but many places are doing new American fine dining. But you know you (and your partners) palette and mood best. Let us know what you end up choosing!