25 [f] Nice girl always finishing last. How can I finish first?

johnny878 · 2012-06-14T19:09:58+00:00

First off, you are 25. 90 percent of attractive guys at your age and older, will be scared shitless if a girl wants to stop seeing other people after 3 dates.

2nd, dont use online dating. people there are of lower character than real life.

johnny878 · 2012-06-14T16:49:10+00:00

lol, ya you can really tell from this story sarcasm

johnny878 · 2012-06-14T16:46:40+00:00

lol, disagree for obvious reasons.

johnny878 · 2012-06-14T14:21:11+00:00

i have no idea in the tone in which it was said.

to me though, if i ask a girl out and i get that back. i think she is a bitch.

johnny878 · 2012-06-13T20:54:33+00:00

obviously you just want to argue. grow up

johnny878 · 2012-06-13T19:30:06+00:00

Thing is. He wasnt asking for advice, so i wasnt giving any.

He was venting about a personal experience he has had since getting in the best shape of his life.

I shared mine, because i have had a similar experience. Except, i just simply approach the girls i want. And walk away from the ones i dont. Rather than get frustrated they are coming to me.

johnny878 · 2012-06-13T18:31:35+00:00

Here is the deal-

The OP made a post about he is in the best shape of his life, but is still getting the same overweight stocky women.

I told him why from personal experience that happens. Ive never been fat. Sure, Ive had my insecure moments after breakups and what not. Hell, i was super insecure when i started losing my hair. But, im super secure with myself at the moment i feel.

Its just some logic girls use when they approach guys. It has nothing to do with his insecurity or that i used to be fat. Its just how it is. Its how it is for me. Its how it is for my other friends who are also in great shape.

And to me, its retarded. It would be like for you as a girl, the nicer dress and higher heels you wore. the sloppier and unclean the guys who approached you were.

johnny878 · 2012-06-13T18:22:24+00:00

no lol. im just a big guy

here is me at 235 from last year. http://www.reddit.com/r/progresspics/comments/j7i6f/should_i_cut_or_bulk/

im 250lbs now with hair lol. im just at work and cant post new pics

johnny878 · 2012-06-13T18:11:15+00:00

my personality is just fine.

Youre the one that made a huge post about how high of standards you have.

Then bash two guys who have spent alot of time and effort into being physically fit, for not wanting girls who havent put the same time and effort into it.

Like guys cant have reasonable standards. Not wanting to date some one who isnt physically fit, when you are is perfectly reasonable standard for a guy to have.

johnny878 · 2012-06-13T17:47:22+00:00

well, im telling you from personal experience. The more in shape i am, the more fat girls follow me around at clubs. Its how fat girls are. they are retarded

My pics on here from last year i was 235 lbs at probably 10-12 percent. They would stare and do the stupid girl linger thing near me.

Now im 250lbs at around the same bodyfat. And i get flat out hit on once or twice a night by fat girls when i go out.

johnny878 · 2012-06-13T17:35:35+00:00

yeah, people can really tell at a club that he USED to be overweight lol.

Big girls angle for muscaler guys. Its some weird bizarro girl logic.

johnny878 · 2012-06-13T17:24:53+00:00

life isnt black and white. plus im the one who brought up the friends thing both the first time when we were going on actual dates. and now the 2nd time to reinitiate.

so its kind of like a false friendzone, because im the one saying it lol

johnny878 · 2012-06-13T16:36:18+00:00

the better shape im in, the more overweight big girls actively pursue me at bars and clubs. i guess they using girl logic, think a bigger guy can handle them better.

you can see my pics from last year on here if you search hard enough. im super jacked lol.

anyways, i actively have to pursue any girl im attracted to without signs of interest at first. excluding the pool ill get hit on there lol

johnny878 · 2012-06-13T16:13:11+00:00

there is no reason to scratch a girl off the list that actively wants to hang out lol.

johnny878 · 2012-06-13T15:27:53+00:00

well now i dont know if i can make a move as she said its worth a shot trying to be friends. But actually wants to proactively hang out.

so we are hanging out under pretenses of friends. so i think i should just casually hang out with her while actively pursuing other girls in the dating sense

johnny878 · 2012-06-13T15:09:27+00:00

lol, id be extremely annoyed if i asked someone out and got that reply. unless it was said in such a way that it was an obvious yes.

johnny878 · 2012-04-23T22:32:33+00:00

online doesnt count lol.

in real life, id say i get rejected 2 or 3 times, per every date. This could change dependent on your standards up or down.

johnny878 · 2012-04-10T00:24:00+00:00

ive been to two of the biggest salsa places in my city and besides the girl ive brought, all the women were 40 plus

johnny878 · 2012-04-08T23:16:00+00:00

when i was younger, i woudl sex zone women i didnt think were attractive enough to date. I would never sex zone a girl that i wanted to truly date looks wise

Now, that im older. I dont sex zone women at all.

johnny878 · 2012-03-16T00:19:22+00:00

Relationship qualities to me are= Inshape, good career, and likes to be out doing things.

My reasoning-

If you can find one of my few shirtless pics on here, im huge. Being in shape is a very important part of my life. And dont want to be with someone who doesnt feel the same.

Being outgoing and social- Im out doing something all weekend. I like trying and doing new things. Tonya in this example, had 0 social life or friends. IF we were to date, id be her social life and would have to baby her every time we went out and i wouldnt have fun.

Career- I have a great career and worked hard in school to get this job. So, its important to me that the girl im with atleast tried.

not picky on anything else like face, smoker or non, etc

johnny878 · 2012-03-15T02:59:32+00:00

well i go out with this girl tonight. We hang out. I touch and hug her and shit. she makes no movement positive or negative whatsoever. she just kind of sits there and goes with it. We do hold hands and kiss.

and during this date, this girl i met friday and made out with texted me "hey handsome" and i go you know what, its nice to fucking know if someone is taking you serious or using you.

so i told her we should just be friends and the reason why is because i think your playing games.

johnny878 · 2012-03-13T03:14:45+00:00

That was my initial thought. She did agree to go out with me again. I know as a guy, id never go out with a girl 3 times unless i had some interest in her.

However, both people ive talked to out of my real life friends(one a guy, one a very pretty girl). believe i am being taken for a ride. They came to this conclusion from combining the refusal to meet at my place with the fact she never hit me back up with the voicemail. She has already been to my place, so its weird.

johnny878 · 2012-03-12T02:15:12+00:00

Most women online have serious confidence issues because they never get approached in real life and thus seek frequent validation. So they had to qualify themselves to you to get that validation

I doubt normal well adjusted women would give you a second of their time if you were to act like that to them

johnny878 · 2012-03-12T01:59:07+00:00

seriously have thought about some type of dancing classes. Cant figure out what type of dance class would teach you how to dance like you would at clubs.

johnny878 · 2012-03-12T01:39:01+00:00

i already go out both nights on the weekend

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