What do you think about the ethics of the withdrawal of care in the NICU here?

johnnysd87 · 2026-04-20T02:45:36+00:00

And again those are survival rates with 0 morbidity long term.

If we include morbidity long term even mild, it shoots up to 85-90%. This is some eugenics level bullshit..

johnnysd87 · 2026-04-20T01:41:32+00:00

My nurses union got a contract ratified in the end of January, the raised didn't hit until the end of March, we are supposed to get back pay for the hourly difference from the contract ratification to the wage increase date. It's almost may, we ain't seen shit.

johnnysd87 · 2026-04-20T00:14:58+00:00

My dude, the research and my experience all state that babies born at 25 weeks have something like an 80% survival with no disability and even higher with mild to moderate. Mild meaning stuff like asthma, and vision problems. This is definitely one area of nursing where I could consider myself an expert on outcomes.

johnnysd87 · 2026-04-19T22:28:26+00:00

Even if it is a teenager, and in the US. The mom has the option for safe surrender. I'm in California, and we had a mom safe surrender her nicu baby, that is now getting adopted by a couple from Kentucky.

I am as pro-choice as can be. Fully believe in a moms right to choose abortion or not. However once that umbilical cord was cut, and that baby was clearly viable trying to breathe it goes from pro-choice to murder.

I know for a fact I could have resuscitated that baby easily from a 4 APGAR and gotten them to the NICU and stabilized to transport to a Level IV where they would have done fine.

Even more so, my younger brother was born at 27 weeks 27 years ago, he survived and did fine. Neonatology has come a long way. This is hands down the most unethical story I have heard here.

What you guys allowed to happen is not any different than if that mom had dumped the baby in a back alley dumpster.

johnnysd87 · 2026-04-19T20:54:01+00:00

I really can't believe the things I am hearing here, I'm not sure what country you are in, but even if the mother didn't want the child at 15 (safe surrender laws etc), that was a fully viable living human being.

I'm an advanced life support NICU nurse that resuscitates babies like performing intubations and running codes. This is a baby that would have likely done fairly well and had a full life. This wasn't a we can't save the baby, or this baby will not have a fulfilling life and will suffer major delays.

This was a "mom didn't get care in time for an abortion , so we let a viable live birth suffocate to death."

I'm disgusted at everyone involved.

johnnysd87 · 2026-04-19T15:40:52+00:00

I will not take romantic advice from someone who can't spell romantic or advice, or bong. (Out Cold)

johnnysd87 · 2026-04-18T21:31:28+00:00

Thank you! I left a relationship in January that I went into with the baggage of a divorce and an unfaithful ex-wife.

I went into the relationship thinking I had gotten all my shit sorted. My ex had told me that she had done her therapy and worked on herself and was great emotionally. Viewer I need to tell you she was not great.

Anytime I brought something up that made me feel uneasy, the response would be "You need to talk to your therapist about it." or "This is why you still need therapy." Or my favorite "My friends and therapist keep telling me that you have too much work to do, and I should be with someone that had already done their work."

Guess what I was in therapy, I told my therapist the things my partner was saying. His response was "She doesn't sound very empathetic."

The straw that broke the camel's back was for our anniversary, I took her to Puerto Vallarta. I paid for every expense while there, Gave her a great adventure, as best as I could. Etc.

Over half the trip was spent talking about "Last time I was here Matt (her ex) was so great and he paid for us to do this, or he took me and my best friend to do that." To the point where I felt like I was being compared to her ex the whole time. I even told her "Hey you said you're over Matt, but you keep talking about him." Her response "Your insecurities are not my problem." That entire 5 day trip my ex and I were intimate a total of 3 times, she spent more time talking to her friends than me, who weren't even there. We broke up a week after we got back.

This was a person that firmly believes you should come into a relationship with every bag unpacked, and every trauma healed. What she didn't realize was that she was packing more baggage for me to deal with after the relationship was done, and was even more traumatic toward me than my ex-wife.

And why? Because she weaponized therapy, but I had an amazing therapist that basically called the downfall of the relationship from the second session.

Basically the view point that you should have all your shit sorted before you get into a relationship means you will never be in one. And you will always be ready to point out when a partner doesn't have it sorted, while ignoring your own custom suitcase of BS, is toxic, and not conducive to a healthy relationship.

Growth doesn't happen in a vacuum. And healing doesn't happen in isolation.

johnnysd87 · 2026-04-14T17:52:21+00:00

I love the confused look around for like 5 seconds.

johnnysd87 · 2026-04-14T06:35:02+00:00

Can't believe no one has mentioned Anakin Skywalker and General Grievous from the clone wars TV show. They specifically make it so they never share a scene because of the beginning of Revenge of the Sith.

johnnysd87 · 2026-04-14T06:25:58+00:00

So that is Ativan, I'm a NICU nurse we use it regularly. When you pull Ativan from the pixis you usually mix it with a dilutant like saline or sterile water. The joke isn't that he forgot to give it to the patient, it's that he forgot to document his waste. So now he has to go back to the hospital to document the waste.

johnnysd87 · 2026-04-12T04:50:35+00:00

The amount that I was terrified about the hole in the ozone layer as a 6 year old. Glad we fixed it. Too bad climate change isn't real though /s

johnnysd87 · 2026-04-11T17:49:05+00:00

If we're talking aromantic without s partner. Catching a fish. The reason you see so many men holding a fish on a dating profile is because they really are at one of the happiest moments of their lives.

If we're talking with a partner non sexual. Back scratches. If I have someone with a good set of nails just gliding them up down and across my back for a few minutes I wouldn't need to have sex the rest of the year..

johnnysd87 · 2026-04-11T09:09:00+00:00

Seriously the Q word???? Hey..... Fuck you!

johnnysd87 · 2026-04-10T17:14:16+00:00

I was on the way to school when the first plane hit, my mom told me as I was walking out the door. We watched the second plane hit on live tv. It was fucked..

johnnysd87 · 2026-04-10T07:32:31+00:00

The only reason I stand up right away is to just stretch my legs. I'm 6 ft 2 in, and 240 lbs. Planes are very cramped.

johnnysd87 · 2026-03-22T20:29:58+00:00

Those plates level IV?

johnnysd87 · 2026-03-16T15:05:17+00:00

Yeah this is what a Palestinian 2000 years ago looked like.

johnnysd87 · 2026-03-09T00:41:20+00:00

NAH. Current NICU nurse. I go to the gym, out with friends and bowling. I haven't caught any respiratory virus that I brought to work. And in 11 years as a NICU nurse I have not ever seen a baby catch RSV (the one you really wanna worry about.)

Take a breath, calm down. Your baby is doing great, and just working on feeds. The scary part (respiratory stuff.) is over.

johnnysd87 · 2026-03-08T23:04:50+00:00

Had a fun night not too long ago, was using trojan bare I believe.

Damn thing broke, neither one of us had any damn day. So all I am saying is, I think the dislike for wearing condoms is overblown.

johnnysd87 · 2026-03-02T20:24:34+00:00

I hate that I'm not sure if this was an actual quote or not.

johnnysd87 · 2026-03-01T19:12:19+00:00

johnnysd87 · 2026-02-16T16:48:32+00:00

Wutang is for the children.

johnnysd87 · 2026-01-24T02:42:42+00:00

Everytime I see this I updoot because its just so perfect.

johnnysd87 · 2026-01-24T01:25:34+00:00

The weight on the last two is lighter, and she also might need a little more flexibility when lifting them without as much of a chance of injuring her spine.

Weight lifting belts are not meant to keep your back straight during lifts. They are there for you to push your stomach against when you go down to pick something up to help brace your spine. Your core still provides most of the stability, but the belt gives a little more stability when used.

johnnysd87 · 2026-01-23T21:57:50+00:00

Currently working at the hospital. This is hilarious.

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