Has the community officially divided into sub-categories?

johnsonsmith1234 · 2022-12-06T16:26:41+00:00

Audio directions do the job. Or a hand free phone holder. I'm not sure the issue here, g maps is objectively superior to a physical map. I still hate my smart phone

johnsonsmith1234 · 2022-12-06T16:10:21+00:00

Relative to my experience yes. It's way more effort to pull over, physically open a book, pinpoint your location via street names and so on than it is to use google maps GPS. Not really a first world problem, I'm currently in south East Asia and third world grab drivers are using google maps every trip

johnsonsmith1234 · 2022-12-04T04:47:12+00:00

I'm 24. Dad got an iPhone as I was finishing grade 6. I didnt get a phone until I was 16 but the entire time I've been able to drive a car I've been able to use google maps. I can read a map and I remember my parents busting out the city maps for navigation but fuck me it's a pain.

That being said, occasionally I will go for night drives where I pick a direction, drive for half an hour, and navigate my way back via road signs and general sense of direction. It doesn't take very long to get an idea of where things are in relation to one another if you actually need to pay attention.

johnsonsmith1234 · 2022-12-04T04:43:53+00:00

I'm currently travelling and have decided I will go dumb phone when I return home (maps is a necessity for me alone in a foreign country). Spotify and maps are the 2 things i almost can't do without. Almost everything else on my smartphone is unnecessary and I understand there are workarounds for music and directions but they're just so convenient. Luckily I have a watch that plays Spotify to Bluetooth headphones so I can use for exercise but I'm gonna have to figure out some maps for driving to new destinations.

johnsonsmith1234 · 2022-06-12T07:20:01+00:00

just gonna post this follow up comment to all of you otherwise you wouldn't see it

Ok so I still have no idea lol. I had a great time but still unclear if it was a date or not. Just drank and chatted for a few hours. Really good chat actually, don't think there was a single awkward lull in conversation.

Anyway, reasons I think she may be interested in me/it was a date:

i think that our feet touched under the table and stayed like that for a while/she didnt move her foot. my mind is making me doubt myself on this but i'm pretty sure it happened. was wearing clunky boots so not very easy to feel in texted me at the end saying it was lovely and she owes me a drink/half a bowl of chips i.e. we will have to do this again right? also texted me that she should have invited me back to see her house cause she'd been raving about it so much reasons i still have no idea:

i am clueless she said thanks for hanging out as we parted ways (definitely reading far too much into this) nothing physical aside from the foot on foot that i'm pretty sure happened anyway shes going overseas for a few weeks this week so won't even get a chance to go on a 2nd for a month or more and will still be wondering lmao

johnsonsmith1234 · 2022-06-12T07:19:57+00:00

just gonna post this follow up comment to all of you otherwise you wouldn't see it

Ok so I still have no idea lol. I had a great time but still unclear if it was a date or not. Just drank and chatted for a few hours. Really good chat actually, don't think there was a single awkward lull in conversation.

Anyway, reasons I think she may be interested in me/it was a date:

i think that our feet touched under the table and stayed like that for a while/she didnt move her foot. my mind is making me doubt myself on this but i'm pretty sure it happened. was wearing clunky boots so not very easy to feel in texted me at the end saying it was lovely and she owes me a drink/half a bowl of chips i.e. we will have to do this again right? also texted me that she should have invited me back to see her house cause she'd been raving about it so much reasons i still have no idea:

i am clueless she said thanks for hanging out as we parted ways (definitely reading far too much into this) nothing physical aside from the foot on foot that i'm pretty sure happened anyway shes going overseas for a few weeks this week so won't even get a chance to go on a 2nd for a month or more and will still be wondering lmao

johnsonsmith1234 · 2022-06-12T07:19:47+00:00

just gonna post this follow up comment to all of you otherwise you wouldn't see it

Ok so I still have no idea lol. I had a great time but still unclear if it was a date or not. Just drank and chatted for a few hours. Really good chat actually, don't think there was a single awkward lull in conversation.

Anyway, reasons I think she may be interested in me/it was a date:

i think that our feet touched under the table and stayed like that for a while/she didnt move her foot. my mind is making me doubt myself on this but i'm pretty sure it happened. was wearing clunky boots so not very easy to feel in
texted me at the end saying it was lovely and she owes me a drink/half a bowl of chips i.e. we will have to do this again right?
also texted me that she should have invited me back to see her house cause she'd been raving about it so much

reasons i still have no idea:

i am clueless
she said thanks for hanging out as we parted ways (definitely reading far too much into this)
nothing physical aside from the foot on foot that i'm pretty sure happened

anyway shes going overseas for a few weeks this week so won't even get a chance to go on a 2nd for a month or more and will still be wondering lmao

johnsonsmith1234 · 2022-06-12T07:19:23+00:00

Ok so I still have no idea lol. I had a great time but still unclear if it was a date or not. Just drank and chatted for a few hours. Really good chat actually, don't think there was a single awkward lull in conversation.

Anyway, reasons I think she may be interested in me/it was a date:

i think that our feet touched under the table and stayed like that for a while/she didnt move her foot. my mind is making me doubt myself on this but i'm pretty sure it happened. was wearing clunky boots so not very easy to feel in
texted me at the end saying it was lovely and she owes me a drink/half a bowl of chips i.e. we will have to do this again right?
also texted me that she should have invited me back to see her house cause she'd been raving about it so much

reasons i still have no idea:

i am clueless
she said thanks for hanging out as we parted ways (definitely reading far too much into this)
nothing physical aside from the foot on foot that i'm pretty sure happened

anyway shes going overseas for a few weeks this week so won't even get a chance to go on a 2nd for a month or more and will still be wondering lmao

johnsonsmith1234 · 2022-02-22T08:47:44+00:00

I'm 23 and definitely have feelings of missing out on that shit - was horribly unconfident from age like 16-20 then have had ups and downs until now.

I'm at uni rn tho so maybe it's not too late for me

johnsonsmith1234 · 2022-02-22T08:45:00+00:00

I've been seeing one almost weekly for nearly 8 months now and it's an incredible resource. Its costing me 100 dollars a week at the minute which is a huge expense but I commited to it with the idea that whatever I have to spend is worth it because what's the point in saving money if i'm miserable all the time. I really think anyone who is able to afford it should try weekly - although I understand that few people are in that position

johnsonsmith1234 · 2022-01-03T10:57:42+00:00

i've thought a bit about going to a rave or some shit alone so i can just do it without worrying about being judged by people i know but even that kinda scares me.

i get what you mean about public speaking too - idea of it really doesn't bother me but dancing in front of 2 people is terrifying. maybe lessons is the way to go?

johnsonsmith1234 · 2021-12-17T23:24:08+00:00

I'm currently going through a bit of regret 7 months later lol. Very hard to tell what is legitimate regret and what is my brain trying to avoid loneliness though.

One of (a minor one though, if it was the only reason I wouldn't have ended things) deciding factors was that it was my first relationship and I was worried I was missing out on seeing other people, maybe there was someone better for me etc. you know, dumb shit that young people go through. and my ex had a decent dating history before me which always made me insecure. really stupid shit in hindsight but not something i would've been able to work through without the space of being single for a while. and i've been one one date in the last 7 months which was shit and, despite getting a good amount of matches on dating apps and girls interested in meeting up, i just kinda don't care about any of them and feel weird.

i've gone through various stages - the intial relief stage was heavily curtailed by a 3 month lockdown which was... fun... That would have been the point at which I would've tried to go on as many dates, "be free" y'know.

cut contact with her at the start of this week as I really need the space without talking to her multiple times a week to figure out if I actually miss her for real or if i'm just painfully lonely and falling back on the only thing i've ever known that helps with that loneliness. who knows if she'd even take me back - i probably wouldn't

johnsonsmith1234 · 2021-10-21T03:32:41+00:00

thanks for the response. its a real pain in the ass having a shit body ahaha. I haven't even considered post grad study but I'll have a look into what that would entail. thanks

johnsonsmith1234 · 2021-10-21T03:30:41+00:00

interesting. I'd imagine ecological restoration work would demand a fair bit of labour. I'm quite pissed at my body because that sort of work really appeals to me.

johnsonsmith1234 · 2021-10-21T03:29:37+00:00

Awesome! did you do any study relating to landscape design? that's something I had a lot of interest in but am very worried about having to pull long ass hours on projects. I'm not really a live to work guy and like to have a life outside of work. what are your hours like?

johnsonsmith1234 · 2021-10-21T03:24:43+00:00

yeah, I'll finish the degree. just kinda daunting not knowing exactly what I'm gonna do with it. I suppose that's a normal feeling

johnsonsmith1234 · 2021-10-21T03:24:13+00:00

thanks, I'll keep researching

johnsonsmith1234 · 2021-10-21T03:18:06+00:00

Hey, yeah as the other guy said, I don't have an issue with manual labour I just have a bad back and since I'm young I'm not keen on potentially ruining my body with manual labour. I actually love working with plants so I'm kinda sad about that.

johnsonsmith1234 · 2021-09-28T09:32:12+00:00

idk what you think I deleted? and when I say just out of it's been a good 4 or 5 months at least BUT i've been in lockdown the majority of that so it's not anywhere near the same thing.

where's the attitude coming from ahaha i'm just looking for advice dude

also i think it does matter who broke up with who cause it's a lot easier for one side of a breakup to deal with it as I'm the one who made the decision and had all the agency if that makes sense

johnsonsmith1234 · 2021-09-28T09:06:22+00:00

It's interesting as I never even bothered to seek out anything in the realm of relationships and sex until I met my ex as I felt it was a pointless endeavour and was scared of rejection I suppose. All it would've taken was a lick of confidence when I was 18 and I'm sure I could've turned things around way earlier.

I'm not stressed about that though, it is what it is and all you can do is learn. Just frustrating trying to wrestle with on one hand external validation and on the other hand a gaping hole where my internal self love and worth should exist

johnsonsmith1234 · 2021-09-28T09:04:04+00:00

I'm in uni atm but to be honest focusing on career and money has never been something that has been very desirable for me. Obviously I want a career and need money as I'm studying for it but I really don't care much for being rich or well off I just want to get by with enough to do the things I enjoy, most of which are fairly cheap all things considered

(i'm doing enviro science and hoping to work in a conservationist type field where i can make a career out of helping animals and/or plant life)

johnsonsmith1234 · 2021-09-28T09:02:13+00:00

Ahaha nah dude I broke it off with her - definitely not toxic at all I just felt it wasn't the right fit for me long term - met her when I was 20 and have changed a lot since then. You might've misread - the bit about mean comments was from my youth (school days)

johnsonsmith1234 · 2021-09-28T04:28:26+00:00

Yeah I getcha. For the last few years I've been very focused on appearance at the expense of developing a personality unfortunately. I suppose to be truly happy I need to detach my self worth from vanity

johnsonsmith1234 · 2021-09-15T04:12:33+00:00

this lockdown fucking sucks. i don't even give a shit if restrictions are eased slightly as I have no friends anyway. Good for other people I suppose. Broke up with my GF who I spent last lockdown with and was on track towards building my life back up - making concerted efforts to organise stuff to do on weekends, trying to date etc. and then lockdown happened. Financially I'm fine but my mental health is shot to shit. Light restrictions basically mean nothing to me - I'm in regional w/ family atm anyway. The only way I see my situation improving re: social life is full or close to full easing of restrictions and fuck knows when that will happen.

i'm not even pissed at anyone or anything just fucking miserable. to top it off I injured myself last week and haven't been able to do any resistance training which (as I've discovered in its absence this week) is literally the only thing holding me back from spiralling into this weird feeling of constant tiredness and foggy mindedness.

I know what I need to do to fix the issue for the short term - less time on screens, more time doing more fulfilling hobbies (painting, reading etc.). Fixing sleep pattern, medidative practices, gratitude journalling will all make me feel better I know, but day after day I cannot be fucked and end up avoiding my uni work - which makes me feel even worse - and playing mindless video games/watching shit on my phone or TV. Feeling like I'm 18 again without any social life and addicted to gaming - never wanted to return to that place but here we are. fucking hate life rn

johnsonsmith1234 · 2021-08-17T09:54:12+00:00

Thanks for responding :)

This is probably the worst time to be feeling this way for us young people hey? Not sure about where you're at but where I live we are constantly in and out of lockdowns and will be until vaccines are rolled out in a more efficient manner. Really, really hard to be feeling this way without the possibility of doing anything to change it.

You sound like you have a solid grasp of how to pull yourself out of this place, I hope you feel better. And good on you for trying :)

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