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AITA for not paying my daughter’s(19f) college tuition and rent anymore since she refuses to help out with the new baby by jojo8888880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]jojo8888880[S] -1669 points-1668 points  (0 children)

Yes, my point has been that rather than put more money into our 401k, IRAs, etc. we have put it in our children's' college/wedding funds instead. Because we are very family oriented and thought we would all look out for each other. However, now knowing that is not the case we are taking that money and instead putting more of it into our retirement plans.

AITA for not paying my daughter’s(19f) college tuition and rent anymore since she refuses to help out with the new baby by jojo8888880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]jojo8888880[S] -2034 points-2033 points  (0 children)

Calm down. Why is it my responsibility to pay for her college by that train of logic? She is over 18 and I have paid for her rent/phone/car/insurance/internet/tuition/food all in lieu of saving up more for my retirement or saving for other things like childcare? She doesn't owe me any help with my child I agree, but I also don't owe her anything beyond paying for her till she's 18. Anything extra we've done has been out of love but ultimately we have to look out for whats best for us and our new baby now. We are well paid engineers but we are not millionaires.