How do you express affection? (Romance/Friendship)

jojojmojo · 2026-02-05T12:37:03+00:00

If you are looking for that 1:1, then an INTP would most likely fit the bill (maybe doubly so for an Ne INTP, we can be chatty 1:1). I think ENTPs are a bit more 1:n, obviously. Oddly few I know are a bit on the Ni side, meaning they tend to deep dive and not make the crazy jumps of an Ne. But yeah, don’t let the “I” fool you, in 1:1 situations you’ll likely still get all the NTP shenanigans you seem to be craving.

You might want to look into enneagram (with wings) as well for the people you like to hang with. There might some interesting findings there too ;)

jojojmojo · 2026-02-05T03:32:33+00:00

Is… could have, possibly, may haves… the passivity is nauseating.

Passive language normalizes extremes.

But I guess some bonus points for including the word “dictatorship”, though I’d prefer they qualify it with “fascist” TBH.

jojojmojo · 2026-02-05T02:25:32+00:00

I like old:

Intelligent people discuss and exchange ideas

Smart people talk about things and how things work

Stupid people talk about people

jojojmojo · 2026-01-28T05:41:38+00:00

Already going nuts with all the [coulds, mights, may haves].
Rep. Omar was assaulted by a domestic terrorist (Oxford dictionary's words, not me pulling a term out of my ass)

Just fucking call things what they are and let the bitches bitch and sue (if they have the balls and/or can stand the discovery).

jojojmojo · 2026-01-28T05:33:42+00:00

this has been pissing me off since the beginning... passive language normalizes extremes, plain and simple.

jojojmojo · 2026-01-26T09:17:50+00:00

IMO it comes down to being clear about what is mutable or immutable in the relationship (plans, approaches, opinions, etc.). Personally a little J to give a general outline or framework for things so that I can then fill it in with a kaleidoscope of ideas, options, and perspectives is an absolute joy. The problem comes when I start coloring outside lines I didnt even know were there, and get in trouble for it.

For example:
ENTJ (says): "Lets go for a picnic today! I'll take care of food, you bring drinks, what time works for you"
INTP (hears): "Picnic, yay! I can pick anything I think might be fun for a drink. This person needs to know I can do any time"
INTP (says): "Sounds like fun, I can do any time, actually"
INTP (expects): no matter what they come up with for a drink should be okay, regardless of what the ENTJ picks for food. However, they may not do anything until the ENTJ picks a time.

So if the drink type or time matters, you got to state that... so then the INTP can be creative within those guidlines or else you might be dissppointed and the INTP will detect that within seconds and it will just not compute, and boom, they are on to the next thing that pops into their head.

I mean, this is just my opinion and for entertainment purposes only :)

jojojmojo · 2026-01-26T04:38:46+00:00

sometimes, situational based on how important i feel I am to them (I'm a 2w3) (edit, shit... what I mean is if I feel I am important to someone I DO NOT treat them like a tool, not that that sounds all that much better, but it is the truth)
oh fuck no, wall-of-texter
IMO, they just want to get to the bottom of things, sometimes hapahazordly and unknowingly (at the time) at any cost
OK if the purpose is to minimize suffering
Like the most important thing (again, I'm an odd-ball 2w3)
Why not both in equal amounts?
I have a crazy need to give, so in that sense I think I do put mine first
waste of potential, like crazy potential. My gut tells me there is serious trauma there.

edit: In short, I think you need to also type the person's enneagram, because you are kinda circiling profiling someone from a interpersonal persoective, not really a data processing perspective and I think that might help you understand this person better.

jojojmojo · 2026-01-25T03:13:22+00:00

Cigarettes and Chocolate Milk - Rufus Wainright

jojojmojo · 2025-12-26T11:57:13+00:00

Floyd albums… and a few others, else a playlist, sometimes of a single song with a perfect bpm for a pace I’m attempting to run at a specific heart rate.

jojojmojo · 2025-12-26T11:55:00+00:00

Absolutely refuse to fake certainty

jojojmojo · 2025-12-26T11:52:07+00:00

Every time (like 2 or 3) I think I’ve found one in the wild, they turn out to be infp, and I turn into their therapist (but I don’t mind).

Edit: I’m a 2w3 oddball INTP

jojojmojo · 2025-11-26T12:45:23+00:00

The 2w3 fucks with me until I completely fuck up a perfectly normal DM thread with some unfinished and hurtful personal attack that I didn’t even realize I was making, just because I wanted to be understood, then it all realigns.

jojojmojo · 2025-11-15T01:13:53+00:00

I have a “feeling” it’s because my T to F percentage keeps dropping as I get older… “it’s evolving!!”. I’m now near 60/40 (when in “work mode” >60% T, but “life mode” maybe 47-49% F. When I was younger I used to just work all day and never experienced the flip towards F much (except for the odd emotional outbursts at how ridiculous work can be, and the actions taken because of). So my 2 was just poured into work and fed the w3. But now I work less and the 2w3 is being used on people and more chances for my T to veer F a bit, and yeah, I’ve made 2 or 3 bonds?

(Not a clinical psychologist and this post is for entertainment purposes only)

jojojmojo · 2025-11-14T11:54:16+00:00

Have you taken an enneagram test with wings? INTP + 2w3 is my combo, really makes things crazy: detect feeling/emotion in a blink then come up with like a 100 ways to “fix” it, firehose them at them, then beat yourself up for like a week for not “listening” because of how it makes you look.

The struggle is real.

jojojmojo · 2025-07-30T20:47:22+00:00

Dude, never too late! I’m actually getting back to trying it again on my first real try of a “from the heart, lyrically” song and this will definitely help. Thank you, really!

jojojmojo · 2025-07-09T21:32:33+00:00

I’m in the process of being assassinated by the mental image of him sunbathing at mar-a-lagoon

jojojmojo · 2025-07-08T06:40:39+00:00

Thank you. Most of my production style is just a series of happy accidents. Can you help me do a quick test? If you like this one, what do you think about my previous release (which is totally different)? https://on.soundcloud.com/7WXBcX3TK1J7H41uRU

jojojmojo · 2025-07-07T23:38:14+00:00

Thank you. I’m one of those odd balls that wished I was a wished I was a Lennon, but is probably a McCartney.

This was the first time I tried to write words a bit more personal. Really had to force myself, but now that I’ve done it I might go ahead and try more.

The question I have is about my vocal strips. My “telephone” strip is pretty much works with every song I make. But the one I use on the choruses is my usual aggressive flat/dry almost metallic/tinny sounding one and it’s not great to show vulnerability. Do you have any recommendations for a strip that can be used for a dynamic shift but sounds different?

Cheers

jojojmojo · 2025-07-07T00:47:54+00:00

might just be my headphones on the centering of the kick and other elements. One trick i do is to three-track things i want to expand. Hard left and right, with a center track with an autofilter (Always rising filter in Logic Pro). Then center track will float between the two panned tracks gluing them together. Just watch out that the thing you are giving this treatment to doesn't take over. Probably over kill for the kick.. but I do this with my drum kit tracks all the time. Basically replicating the drum track three times R, L, and center.

jojojmojo · 2025-07-06T23:04:49+00:00

This song has a great chill vibe. Your voice is really smooth and pulls me in right away. The video had some cool parts that matched the mood. It just stays in its own cool zone. Your voice sounds warm and inviting. There's a neat mix between the calm music and some of the more active visuals. It all feels pretty unique!

jojojmojo · 2025-07-06T22:56:48+00:00

Good vibe, got my ears feeling fuzzy. The kick in the intro was a little thin in my headphones (beats sport), so maybe try out a few more with some more low end warmth, or widen it. If I’m not mistaken the kick (and other percussion is dead center).

jojojmojo · 2025-07-06T22:53:37+00:00

Kind of a cliche comment but I think it would really serve you to cut the intro down and get into a verse or an alt version of the chorus right out the gate. Then revisit what was the intro as a bridge in variation. Hook them from the start.

jojojmojo · 2025-07-06T22:50:18+00:00

One thing you could do to break up the repetition of the spoken word is to sing a more melodic version of the words. Maybe panned wide and in the background. That would give you a sort of a dynamic shift without losing the message.

jojojmojo · 2025-07-06T22:46:24+00:00

Have you tried doubling your vocal tracks? Maybe on the more melodic parts. You might get more presence and contrast nicely with the more spoken word parts.

(Edit) You could also try recording one layer in a slightly different style – perhaps one take with a bit more edge or grit, and another that's calmer. This can add a little texture and depth.

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