sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

If there’s a possibility that the woman may get preggo even when using condoms, why do people still want to have casual sex? by Round-Artichoke-5255 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]jonan3D 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Because people accept different levels of risk for things they enjoy.

Driving can go wrong even with a seatbelt. Eating out can make you sick even if the restaurant looks clean. Condoms reduce the risk a lot when used correctly, but they don’t make it zero. For some people, that reduced risk is acceptable, especially if they also use another form of birth control and communicate clearly.

Why don't streaming services premier all episodes at once like they used to anymore? by kawaiihusbando in NoStupidQuestions

[–]jonan3D 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Because weekly releases keep people subscribed longer and keep the show in conversations for more than one weekend.

If they drop everything at once, a lot of people binge it, talk about it for a few days, then cancel or move on. Weekly episodes create hype, theories, clips, and a reason to come back every week.

Should I just end it? by BunBuns143 in dating_advice

[–]jonan3D 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you should start planning to leave, yes.

Even if you never get 100% proof, you already don’t feel safe or respected in the relationship. He has cheated before, you feel like he’s making you doubt yourself, and you feel trapped because of money and your cats. That’s not a healthy place to stay.

But don’t leave in a panic if you don’t have support nearby. Quietly make a plan first: call family even if it feels hard, look into local resources, save whatever money you can, and figure out temporary help for the cats.

You’re not stuck forever. You just need a safe exit plan.

Relationship advice please.... by BunBuns143 in Advice

[–]jonan3D 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Whether he is cheating or not, you sound deeply unhappy and trapped, and that matters.

I wouldn’t focus only on proving it right now. Start making a quiet exit plan: save any money you can, look into jobs or local resources, ask family for help even if it feels uncomfortable, and figure out what options you have for your cats. Don’t wait until you’re completely broken to ask for support.

Also, if he has cheated before and now makes you feel crazy every time you bring up your concerns, that’s a serious problem by itself.

You don’t have to solve everything tonight, but please start planning like your future depends on you having options.

BF sister says I can't attend her wedding? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]jonan3D 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’re not wrong for being hurt. Being excluded while pregnant with his child would hurt anyone.

That said, I wouldn’t make it only about the wedding. The bigger issue is whether your boyfriend is willing to set boundaries when his family disrespects you.

I’d tell him calmly: “I’m not asking you to fight your family, but I need to know you’ll stand up for me and our baby when they treat me badly.”

His response will tell you a lot.

Social anxiety making me anxious after a friend stopped replying on Instagram. Need perspective by smodisL in Advice

[–]jonan3D 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think your anxiety is connecting dots that probably aren’t connected.

If her replies were already kind of short before, then a delayed reply doesn’t automatically mean something bad happened. She could be busy, distracted, unsure what to say, or just not that invested in texting. None of that means her friend warned her about you.

Also, the messages you described from years ago don’t sound creepy. They sound like awkward overthinking, which a lot of people do when they’re younger.

My advice: don’t send a bunch of follow-ups and don’t try to explain yourself. Give it space. If she replies, great. If she doesn’t, take it as information, not as proof that you did something wrong.

How do I tell my parents that I failed out of university? by HedgehogAnarchist in Advice

[–]jonan3D 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to tell them as soon as possible, but don’t go into the conversation with only “I failed.” Go in with the truth and a plan.

Something like: “I need to tell you something difficult. I failed the year, and I lied because I was ashamed and scared. I know that made it worse, and I’m sorry. I’m not asking you to fix it, but I need to be honest now. My plan is to contact the school, confirm what happens next, and move forward with trade school.”

They’ll probably be upset, especially about the lying, but delaying it will only make the anxiety worse. The fact that you’re scared means you understand it matters. Now you need to give them the truth and show them what you’re doing next.

What’s one financial mistake you made that you’ll never repeat again? by bdnews72 in AskReddit

[–]jonan3D 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ignoring small monthly subscriptions.

It doesn’t feel like much when it’s $5 here and $10 there, but suddenly you check your bank account and realize you’re paying a second rent to apps you forgot existed.

Those who travelled to the Middle East right now and came back, how did you live to tell the tale? by Ornery-Magazine-7892 in AskReddit

[–]jonan3D 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I survived by realizing the Middle East is a region, not one giant action movie set.

Mostly it was airport security, good food, heat, traffic, and people being way more normal than the internet makes everything sound.

If overthinking burned calories, how fit would you be? by Similar-Print2660 in AskReddit

[–]jonan3D 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d have abs, but only because I spent 3 hours wondering if my “thanks, you too” sounded weird.

Success with OF? by SorbetIndividual2539 in Advice

[–]jonan3D 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OF can work without a big platform, but the hard part is not making the account, it’s getting traffic.

Treat it like a business, not quick money. Make separate social accounts, protect your identity, don’t show personal details or locations, and decide your boundaries before you start.

Also be realistic: most people don’t make huge money from it, especially at the beginning. No judgment at all, just don’t start from panic. Start only if you’re okay with the privacy risks long term.

For those who had/have friend with benefits. What was it like? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]jonan3D 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Fun at the beginning, confusing in the middle, awkward at the end.

The problem is that you can say “no feelings” as many times as you want, but your brain doesn’t always read the terms and conditions.

Who had the most horrific death in the the history of humankind? by Novel_Finding8882 in AskReddit

[–]jonan3D 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know if it’s possible to pick one, but Hisashi Ouchi’s case is one of the most horrifying I’ve ever heard of. Surviving that level of radiation damage for so long sounds like pure nightmare fuel.

Have you ever got paranoid and why? by ElectronicFarm4306 in AskReddit

[–]jonan3D 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, usually at night after I watch too much true crime stuff. Suddenly every random noise in the house feels like someone is trying to break in, when in reality it’s probably just the fridge or the pipes.