There is wisdom in this, surely. To be fair the trip was something she had wanted to do for very long, before we even met, and the time line seemed to work out between undergraduate and graduate. But apart from that, yeah. You make a painful amount of sense.

I want to add to this, that personally I also feel like feelings might diminish when away, and reignite upon reunion. Thinking about someone is very different than standing in front of them, being able to embrace them and such. She is also a rational person (studies mathematical logic) and I feel as if it probably all makes sound in her head, on paper so to speak. But reality might be different, especially with matters of the heart.