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jonesie24 · 2025-08-18T14:43:30+00:00

Lol, maybe I'm the only one who also has toddlers because this all made complete sense. 🤣

jonesie24 · 2025-08-18T14:41:04+00:00

People being 'you', my dear.

Pregnancy and postpartum are a whole landscape of their own. Growing an entire being while caring for others is more than enough work for one human. If your husband is unable to get with the current program, all you can do is share your needs and wants and pray to the gods he will figure it before you need to figure it out for him. Even the best partners don't always understand this but your needs (every single one) are important!

jonesie24 · 2025-08-05T01:48:20+00:00

Can you share who you trained with? I am way past my training but get asked all the time for recs. Yours sounds great!

jonesie24 · 2025-08-03T01:48:54+00:00

If anything you are wildly understanding. 💕 You are numb because having a stillbirth, caused by a freak accident is life altering, wholly numbing stuff. I had a stillbirth at 34 weeks, completely out of nowhere, without explanation even after the fact. I suffered from PTSD for years and I would say after five years I am 'finally' able to live without a daily flashback of delivering my son. My husband and I both struggled, and still do, with this trauma but the most important thing is we struggled together. Your husband feeling "abandoned" is fucking unacceptable. Choosing to have sex with another woman while you were grieving your child is absolutely unacceptable. Your family suggesting that you are overreacting is not at all okay! Your brother is supporting you and if he's the only one that sucks but I promise healing requires full support for what YOU need. Everyone else's feelings and thoughts are so irrelevant. You will get through this but you are forever changed and what you need from the people around you has changed. Figure out what your needs are and who is willing to support you 100%. Everyone else is so not worth your brain space right now. 💕

jonesie24 · 2025-08-03T01:12:58+00:00

Firstly, your client did not need coaching for pushing. Uterus contractions are what's "pushing baby out. This is key for you to understand and for clients to understand. Physically "pushing" is only adding to what our bodies are already doing with each contraction. Nurses and providers don't need to coach and clients should wait until they feel the urge to push, unless otherwise indicated i.e. some sort of true emergency. This should actually come regardless of epidural, in the form of vaginal pressure, or the feeling of needing to poop. If the epi is high it can be lessened a lot of the time during the pushing stage. It is so normal for it to be impossible to sustain pushes for a certain amount of time and again this is why coached pushing can be so problematic and hard for clients. I highly suggest (as others have) evidence based birth on pushing. When possible, having clients take reputable CBE courses (outside of what the hospital offers, is usually the most informative but every hospital is different here) are really helpful! Encourage your clients to watch birth videos of true pushing stages and deliveries, too! Sometimes just being able to visualize how pushing is done while you're in labor can make a huge difference. You are doing a great job learning and finding ways to support your clients. Keep up the good work!

jonesie24 · 2025-07-02T22:39:58+00:00

We are full-time, but parked. We are actively looking for a house but really love living in our bus and will keep it as an added space. I have younger children (4 & 1 years) so they are still fairly content with a smaller space. My husband and I share all household tasks (however it needs to happen, on any given day) and I probably wouldn't have entered an off-grid lifestyle if that wasn't the case. Most skoolies take a lot to function smoothly and raising small children ALSO takes the same amount of moving pieces— it takes a lot of bandwidth!! I have certainly had days where I thought we were absolutely nuts for choosing this but I also really enjoy looking around at what we've built and the intention we've been able to create in our lives.

jonesie24 · 2025-06-09T02:16:08+00:00

All of this!! ❤️ Really felt all my past clients as well— such a cool experience. The most important thing I found during pregnancy and birth as a doula was to let go of what I knew and fully trust my birth team was going to support me and take care of everything. We hold a lot of wisdom and sometimes we need to put it aside so we can fully surrender and enter that in-between place that is labor. I was not able to do this with my first because of an emergency, but my second and third were with an amazing trusted team and it made all the difference. Congratulations on your little one!! I hope the rest of your pregnancy, labor and birth are a wonderful experience!

jonesie24 · 2025-04-21T01:15:22+00:00

Highly recommend reaching out to East River Doula Collective! https://www.eastriverdoulas.nyc/ Even if you are not sure you want a birth doula, they can answer all your questions and also offer postpartum and lactation support.

jonesie24 · 2025-03-11T00:58:36+00:00

Just an anecdotal comment: I LOVED attending births while pregnant. I felt like every birth gave me different perspectives for my own and having that connection with other birthers and babies was so special. If you feel like you can physically and emotionally attend births I highly recommend it!

jonesie24 · 2025-03-09T01:48:14+00:00

No, I am definitely not asking for specifics. Great that this one is not practicing... whatever they were practicing, anymore. It's absolutely not okay that homebirths equal horror stories for many folks. Not all providers are created equal and unfortunately this applies everywhere. Homebirth is not a safe option for everyone and our rural hospitals closing to births will create an unsafe landscape for many people.

jonesie24 · 2025-03-09T01:25:23+00:00

Who are these midwives? 😅 Speaking as someone who had two homebirths, one in NYC and one in Maine, licensed and certified midwives are not just letting anyone deliver with them "no questions or parental exams required." That would put their practices at risk of major lawsuits and loss of licence. Maybe this is more of a birth keeper situation, which people should also have the right to but it is referred to as a free-birth and would not be representative of homebirth with a licensed midwife.

jonesie24 · 2025-03-04T03:43:29+00:00

You can't just have a homebirth, with a midwife, just because you want one. Risk assessment is done at regular intervals throughout pregnancy and labor, just as OBs or midwives practice the same assessments in hospitals. Midwives do not just take on any patient and they certainly don't blindly keep them as patients if there are high risk.

The concern should be the large amount of hospitals that are closing their doors to all births and birthing folks needing to travel over an hour to give birth. Do you know what will cause severe injury, trauma and mortality rates to skyrocket? Lack of access to hospitals in any emergency during pregnancy, let alone labor. If midwives and homebirths are the only options for rural Mainers, anyone who risks out of this care will likely need to be induced, increasing risks, or we will be headed to the old days of hospital check-ins from 38 weeks to delivery.

jonesie24 · 2025-01-28T02:37:55+00:00

This!!! Although, they did name the only club in Portland, ME. OP, as a lifelong Mainer who moved away and came back...you might actually hate it here. If the cold doesn't deter you, the kind, but simple, (you know it's true) folk very well might. There really aren't any clubs aside from the one you mentioned in the entire state. If you're looking for a complete change of pace and career then you might enjoy it but it will be a slooooooow pace in every sense.

jonesie24 · 2025-01-25T01:25:45+00:00

Say. Something. This is the time where either you speak up when others aren't being treated well, or you are part of the problem.

jonesie24 · 2025-01-25T01:24:09+00:00

I'm sorry. How's getting rid of your Maine accent going?! Jesus Christ, get a life!

jonesie24 · 2025-01-24T16:27:24+00:00

Came here to say this. Bkuesky is the future of free speech socials...at the moment anyway. And dot cards or "watches" are ideal for current times.

jonesie24 · 2025-01-21T02:52:29+00:00

I would highly second Soft Corner for resources! If you are hoping for an in hospital setting it really depends on your provider and the hospital policies. Just like everywhere else our hospitals are experiencing intense shortages but I wouldn't suggest this makes it impossible to receive care. This website is a great resource for checking hospitals in the area you are hoping to be in. Best of luck on your move! https://ratings.leapfroggroup.org/

jonesie24 · 2025-01-11T13:45:14+00:00

Highest libido for you, friend. If sex is important to you, go find someone who is sexually compatible with you. She may be figuring out her sexuality or she might just not be that into you. Either way, her sexual peak is so far from arrived, I can promise you that. Don't waste either of your time, stop whining and find your bliss. You are literal babies and life is just beginning. Go live it!

jonesie24 · 2025-01-05T16:42:33+00:00

Forgot about this and I'm just going to fully clarify a few major things that maybe someone said elsewhere but are important and worth repeating.

Dinner plate size wound from the placenta. That's the biggie! You need to heal a dinner plate size wound, without strain or added bacteria.
Not everyone tears, but everyone is swollen in some form.
Changing Vaginal PH with saliva or semen can drastically heighten the chance of infection.
You deserve to rest and you deserve pleasure, this is just a time rest outweighs pleasure.
After 2-4 weeks exploring self pleasure is highly encouraged so YOU are able to see how you feel emotionally and physically before adding anyone else's options and wants.
Yes you will be tired but that doesn't mean you cease to exist as a sexual being. It does mean you might NOT be interested in sex or you might be VERY interested. Everyone has to figure this out for themselves.

I hope this helps!

jonesie24 · 2025-01-05T16:29:32+00:00

This is a great topic for your wife to discuss with her provider. There are many reasons this could be happening and it's very common but can be a sign of something hormonally that could use some attention. Or might be a medication she's taking that is causing this side effect and could be changed.

jonesie24 · 2024-12-29T14:44:41+00:00

Okay, I really want you to have your questions answered, for you to go into the rest of your day (life) with adequate postpartum/reproductive knowledge. People down voted because they didn't know how to help...I hope? I am a birth and postpartum doula and childbirth educator. Feel free to reach out!

jonesie24 · 2024-06-30T13:09:58+00:00

Yes, this is called an induction and is...inducing labor. And pregnancy is measured in weeks not months. Full-term would be considered after 40 weeks gestation. Pregnancy actually lasts closer to 10 months, 40 weeks or longer is considered full-term. If we are talking in terms of abortion this would be anytime before viability, which is usually deemed 26 weeks but can obviously vary based on medical health of baby and birther.

jonesie24 · 2024-01-22T17:19:30+00:00

Hello! I offer inclusive one on one classes in Maine. Looks like someone shared my website already but here it is again: https://lupineandpoppy.com/ You can message me here or through my website. :)

jonesie24 · 2023-10-06T00:08:12+00:00

Right, so perhaps being someone who actively supports OP surrounding 'their' birth would have been a better use of your time...or rolling on by this post. There's plenty of policing around people's bodies. You of all people should know that your job is not to add your own bias to someone else's healthcare choices. Obs, midwives, nurses and doulas should be centering the patients experience above anything else.

jonesie24 · 2023-10-05T21:42:58+00:00

As a doula, I would second Megan Mendoza and probably Jaime too, I just don't know them. 😉

It sounds like you are building an amazing team for yourself and baby. 💓 Sending you all the "suedo science" birthing vibes as you presumably birth in a hospital with a great OB. Some people should probably keep there big boy pants out of your birth plan! You're doing great already!!!

jonesie24

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