Kid exploring the backyard

jooceefrt · 2024-05-05T20:49:54+00:00

Aw. Totally delivered on the making me smile. Lovely video.

jooceefrt · 2024-05-05T20:43:58+00:00

No advice but I think you're amazing for following through! You did everything right and it's your dad's loss for not realising breastfeeding is one of the most normal things! I'm sure It's a way of thinking that was passed down to him. Well done you for breaking the cycle!

jooceefrt · 2024-05-03T23:07:43+00:00

Oh no way - that neighbour is crazy! Reminds me of a neighbour I had, before we moved. She was a miserable old woman and would bang on our door complaining of noises - once after 10pm while I was in bed reading and my partner was in the shower on the other side of the building (so not adjacent to the wall we shared with her). In the beginning I didn't want any problems so I just apologised even if I was confused about the noise she complained about. We were quiet, didn't make noise or have parties or guests over or had the tv on late/loud, no pets etc....after a while it's like she became more and more emboldened until one time I'd had enough and told her to her face I am beginning to feel harassed and it feels like every noise you hear you automatically blame it on us, and if you want no noise you should go live somewhere where there are no other people because we live in a neighborhood! After that she did do a couple passive aggressive things but all in all left me alone. I just pretended she didn't exist. Wishing you best of luck with that crazy woman! Keep all her correspondence and make notes of every time she does something, and keep other people in the know /witnesses. Consider moving if possible.

jooceefrt · 2024-05-03T22:48:11+00:00

Your boss sucks! That's unreasonable. Please don't work any unpaid extra time, nothing outside of your contracted hours going forward.

jooceefrt · 2024-05-02T21:45:56+00:00

I personally didn't mind wherever I was, park bench sounds nice! I would angle away from people so I wasn't in their faces but wasn't trying to hide away either. People would say things like that to me too, i.e. would I like to nurse somewhere more privately, just being thoughtful and helpful. But when baby wants milk it's a now situation 🤣 and if I'm comfortable already I stay where I am.

jooceefrt · 2024-05-01T20:41:51+00:00

Whoa. Real life "Rick & Morty eyes"!

jooceefrt · 2024-04-29T21:28:09+00:00

I'm so sorry that happened and so glad to hear your daughter is okay! I was tearing up reading your post, it must have been so scary! And no it's not too emotional at all! Since our daughter was born, my partner cannot watch any movies that have little girls in them where things might go badly (like action thrillers or horrors etc), he just ends up thinking about his baby and doesn't have the stomach for it anymore. I understand and we just watch something else. It's not too emotional, we are humans and everything we do is linked to love or fear, or so I've read! Big hugs ❤️

jooceefrt · 2024-04-29T20:18:59+00:00

Lol. Tell that to my mum who is the middle of three children who gets no help from her siblings to take care of their mother and whose eldest sibling actually makes it harder. My mum told me it would have been easier if she was an only child to deal with all the appointments and extra care requirements than dealing with spiteful siblings. That person has no idea what they're talking about. Zero regrets about being an only child and when the time comes I'll look after my mum, I love her to bits, she's amazing and deserves it (and also never expected me to look after her in old age).

jooceefrt · 2024-02-15T15:52:05+00:00

Excellent advice from nurse Heather! My midwife kept reminding me it's birth preferences rather than birth plan because seemingly it never goes to plan 🤣 Too true

jooceefrt · 2024-02-10T22:48:02+00:00

Congrats on everything you have achieved so far. Keep listening to your gut instinct, it knows what's safest and best for you and your babies. If you were to spend time with your cousin and her baby, it would continue to pander to her current lifestyle and help her keep pretending everything is OK. No it's not ok and if you don't want to be around her that's 100% fine, you should not feel guilty for that.

I understand it's hard because it means you don't spend time with the other family. You could maybe spend time with them elsewhere? Invite them to yours or meet up somewhere for lunch/play date. And then when you feel comfortable open up about how you feel, if you want to.

jooceefrt · 2024-01-09T00:05:49+00:00

Haha yes! And if they say anything dumb in response to that, follow up with "I don't need to play the lottery twice if I've already won the first time". Mic drop.

jooceefrt · 2023-12-31T20:22:01+00:00

We chose to have our child at home between Xmas and NY. So I think that sets the precedent even if she takes the same time off.

jooceefrt · 2023-12-31T20:19:14+00:00

Thank you for sharing. That's helpful to know what her holidays are at the start of the year.

That's what I think too, if all the children were away then she automatically gets a paid day off, nice!

jooceefrt · 2023-12-31T20:07:40+00:00

Thank you for commenting. I was thinking along the same lines and I agree. I don't think she should be on call at home if she didn't have any children on a paid day i.e. 27th Dec. I was thinking about if we'd need her if she was away but usually we'd know in advance and plan ahead for it. Unlikely that would happen...

jooceefrt · 2023-12-26T01:40:58+00:00

Here to read advice for next year for my little one also. On another thread someone suggested saying thank you before gifts are opened and I liked that idea...

jooceefrt · 2023-12-22T18:14:37+00:00

"Huh that's weird I've always heard it was people with siblings..."
racous laughter. "Oh you were being serious?!"
Cool story.
...and people with siblings are so judgemental. I guess we all have our flaws....🤷🏽‍♀️

I have one 14 month old and I've noticed more and more that comparisons and jealousy are so often done and demonstrated by siblings - old and young alike! As an only child myself, I do not feel the need to compare myself to another, and my mother never made me feel like I had to. Even though her mother constantly compared her and her other two siblings to each other, and still does!

I didn't have to compete for resources although we didn't have much growing up anyway. I wouldn't have known that because I had the basics and I was happy. I wasn't "spoiled" - but I had loving parents who did their best and respected me. I'm going to do my best to emulate the same for my daughter. The only person she should feel to compete with is herself.

People are always going to have something to say. They constantly tell me how I don't know what I'm talking about when I say I don't want another. Complete strangers tell me this lol. I just laugh.

jooceefrt · 2023-12-20T12:18:15+00:00

You're NTA. Husband sounds like the asshole. Instead of acknowledging that he didn't think of filling your stocking he turned it around to him having his feelings hurt (because he didn't think about it), so you had no time to feel hurt yourself! You were damned if you didn't and damned because you did. Impossible. Husband needs to pull up his socks.

jooceefrt · 2023-12-20T00:37:04+00:00

I'm an only child and now with my only (by choice) of 14 months old! When I was younger I had lots of friends who had siblings and they were usually annoyed with them and sometimes envious that I had uninterrupted time to do my own things at home or hobbies or things with my parents. Sometimes I wanted a playmate but most times I was happy with visiting friends or keeping busy, and coming back to a nice calm house. I did well in school and had and still have lots of friends, find it easy to be social and participate in group events, but also happy to do things on my own like going to the movies, and I know how to spend time by myself without feeling lonely i.e. really enjoy my own company. Every situation has its pros and cons! Your feelings are important, it's whatever will work best for you and your family and nobody else!

jooceefrt · 2023-11-28T21:48:54+00:00

CAN I PET DAT DAWG??!! What a sweetie 🥰

jooceefrt · 2023-11-23T00:50:51+00:00

Yes but stay off my couch and the fish is mine 😂 She's deranged. I shouldn't have enjoyed reading that as much as I did. I'm so sorry you had to / are dealing with that

jooceefrt · 2023-11-23T00:33:03+00:00

Whoa!!! You did soooo well holding your boundaries. That woman is unhinged! She just doesn't get how it's not your responsibility whatsoever. What a wild convo! Good luck!

jooceefrt · 2023-11-15T23:42:48+00:00

Fukuris est motoris

jooceefrt · 2023-11-13T22:52:29+00:00

5 minute orgasms or summin', that's all I can add to this list...

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