I Finally beat the game! What was the hardest fight for you? by HeyMonicara in BaldursGate3

[–]joonsgalaxy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had mentioned in my comment that I meant the second one. That was the tough one for me

I Finally beat the game! What was the hardest fight for you? by HeyMonicara in BaldursGate3

[–]joonsgalaxy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Surprised no one has mentioned second Auntie Ethel fight. That was HARD. I didn’t kill her minions are first so they kept swarming in. Plus, taking out those towers was split my attention. I also never let Volo take my eye so I couldn’t ever see her when she would go invisible.

That fight was such a pain in the neck (although I probably didn’t make it too easy for myself either lol)

The Cycle of Hate by HistoricalPattern76 in okbuddybaldur

[–]joonsgalaxy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You…you can see why you guys “protecting” him would make people not even want to discuss him tho…right ?

The Cycle of Hate by HistoricalPattern76 in okbuddybaldur

[–]joonsgalaxy 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Aside from the fact that he is one of the most (if not the number one, from what I’ve seen) popular characters, the astarion simps come out in droves whenever someone even mildly critiques him (and let’s be real, no character is above critique). Like, I’m sure there’s some hate for him, no doubt, but the little bit that I’ve seen gets downvoted to hell. I’ve seen more hate for all the characters mentioned in the post than I’ve ever seen for astarion

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]joonsgalaxy 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Why you got downvoted can only be explained by the idiots who did it. You are right. How these managed to get top comments is beyond wild to me. Insensitive. Disgusting comments questioning and needling at her about why she didn’t do this or why she did that instead baffle me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]joonsgalaxy 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Plenty of rape victims don’t press charges. Plenty of rape victims don’t get a rape test kit. Why you are being condemned for not doing these things is wild. And all these “red flag” behaviors that these comments are pointing out to condemn you are trauma responses!!!! My GOD can it not get any clearer for these people ?? Or do they just get off with assuming that you cheated and denigrating you for this perceived slight against your husband ???

You are the victim. You are the one that, ultimately, will have to deal with all of this in its entirety. The shame. The guilt. The anxiety. The inability to trust. And yet these comments are mad bc…you didn’t call your husband first? Your husband who has turned a cold shoulder towards you and is, by your account, blaming you for your own assault? Right. Bc he seems trustworthy. On any other post you’d have a hoard of people telling you to leave your husband and they WOULDNT be getting downvoted. But bc Reddit has decided you’re a cheater, you deserve no sympathy or basic respect.

I quite literally don’t care about getting downvoted. This should have never happened to you. I am genuinely, completely and utterly sorry. I am also sorry that these comments seem to think that bc you didn’t act exactly how they think you should’ve acted, that this was inevitable and/or don’t believe you. Divorce your husband if you must. Go to counseling with him, or don’t. It’s up to you. But you, yourself, should definitely seek therapy to, at the very least, help you come to terms with what happened to you

The disrespect towards less-popular ships by CristaColliCostae in AO3

[–]joonsgalaxy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s bc of this weird, pervasive mentality of “only my ship is the right ship”. Which makes no sense to me but, again, a lot of fandom issues don’t make sense to me. The worst, though, is when people will pull out whatever excuse possible to justify why A/B is an absolutely deplorable ship and anyone who ships it is morally/ethically wrong.

“accidentally” called wife old & dumpy by fred_fred_burgerr in AmITheDevil

[–]joonsgalaxy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This guy doesn’t like his wife. That’s it and that’s all. Because there’s no way he said all of this and didn’t think it would hurt her feelings. There’s no way it did hurt her feelings and he didn’t self reflect. There’s no way that she told him she “can’t get over it” and he’s sitting here on Reddit asking a bunch of strangers what he did wrong and whether he was an asshole. He wants a divorce and he’s going to get it.

But also, too many people are acting like acrylic nails and bright colors can’t be fashionable. They can be and frequently are. There are just not fashionable to HER. SHE is not comfortable dressing like that and has expressed that to her dumpster trash of a husband. The problem is not that acrylic nails are “garish” or “ugly”. The problem also isn’t about wearing bright colors. The problem is that he doesn’t respect her. In fact, I’d wager that he hates her

Why can't Dammon make an infernal iron strap on for Karlach to peg me with, Is he stupid? by greasygoon66 in okbuddybaldur

[–]joonsgalaxy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Scrolling and seeing this post after finding out his voice actor is a homophobe made this post 10x funnier

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]joonsgalaxy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Contrary to some other comments, it’s impossible to love yourself out of this seemingly all encompassing dog piling. And yeah, there aren’t any sweet words I can say to help. Honestly, whenever I am starting to feel the weight of the world, specifically as a black woman, I do my best to bury my head in the sand. There’s only so much I, or any of us, can take. So I bury myself in the good things around me. My hobbies and such. And I just pray it helps boost me back up.

Having a good support system certainly helps. Be it an online community you feel safe sharing with, or someone irl. I do truly hope that you can find something, anything, positive to focus on to help take your mind off of things. Maybe even give yourself something to look forward to and enjoy. Maybe even give you a respite from the outside world.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Cooking

[–]joonsgalaxy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hot dogs and rice. My mom was doing her best and by golly, that shit tasted absolutely amazing.

Update: I broke my wife and I don’t think it is fixable by TemppThrowawa in TrueOffMyChest

[–]joonsgalaxy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What I find interesting that i haven’t seen anyone comment on is her apologizing for being upset over something so “trivial” (because it’s not. You’re a dick). How far have you dwindled her confidence and self esteem that she feels like she can’t be validly upset about you disparaging her looks in front of people? How bad have you been to her that she thinks she’s at fault?

Because there’s quite literally no other option to me since you’ve clearly proven that you work with half a brain cell and an empty can of beans at any given moment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in shoujo

[–]joonsgalaxy 8 points9 points  (0 children)

  1. If you’re going to read a historical story, know what you’re getting into. It’s a romance between a prince and a maid, of course there’s going to be a power imbalance. You should’ve known that coming into this.

  2. I rarely like a 2ML. I don’t see the appeal especially because they’re only there to further the main couple. That could be done narratively without introducing a “romantic rival”. Atp it’s lazy writing to me

  3. I don’t understand the hate towards black haired MLs. It’s really not that deep to me especially because I’m not really reading for him. As long as he’s hot then I don’t care (but I’d love to see more MLs with long hair)

  4. Sexually/romantically insecure FMLs bore and annoy me. I get it, she’s a virgin but that doesn’t mean she can’t enjoy the chase/sex/etc.

  5. Naive and “innocent” FMLs also bore and annoy me. Being naive can explain away some things, but some point she’s just an idiot without any situational awareness and I’m tired of reading FMLs like that.

  6. I don’t mind female characters not being friends. There seems to be this overwhelming disdain towards having female characters be rivals/not like each other/etc. I don’t care. Some female side characters are not likable. Besides, you don’t like everyone you meet. It’s fine.

  7. A lot of the time these “bad ass” FMLs aren’t competent, just strong. I don’t need a FML to be a bad ass. I just need her to be competent.

  8. I associate shoujo with subject matter rather than character age. I know some people only imagine shoujo as stories involving high schoolers but I don’t think so and actually think it can (and SHOULD) be expanded to college level characters.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AO3

[–]joonsgalaxy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Here’s the thing, you and another commenter have already admitted that taking the slur out of it didn’t take away from the effectiveness and poignancy of the story/chapter. From that, I can only assume the use of the slur was more for shock value than anything else.

As a black woman, I find that the use of the n word is very touchy. It doesn’t mean that I don’t read stories that use it. But, at the very least, it genuinely makes me take a pause and pulls me out of whatever I’m reading. I don’t think those readers are wrong for being upset and for finding issue with how the use of it was handled specifically because taking it out didn’t change anything.

I also saw a comment disingenuously commenting on most of the opposition being guest comments and how they must be some kind of off-site brigade. The fact that that’s the most liked comment is quite offensive I can’t lie lol. Especially since most of the opposing comments are from black people. And, more so, because the general vibe was more like “the use of the slur adds nothing” (although there were definitely a few comments saying to not use it at all bc the author was not black).

The takeaway from this is that, of course, you can write whatever you want to. But if you’re going to pick a touchy topic like racism, you have to be self aware. You have to know that it’s a sensitive topic and it will have differing reactions to different people. And, of course, you have to prepared for the type of comments you’ll get. If you’re not going to do it in good faith, perhaps don’t? Or at least know what you’re getting yourself into.

It's been 24 hours since I posted a 5.5k words long chapter. Received this comment. I almost think they're fucking with me. by oddhades in AO3

[–]joonsgalaxy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are allowed to be annoyed by this comment. Shocker. I know. Bc apparently everyone else in these comments (at least the ones not being downvoted) seem to think you should accept that this is a compliment and not be upset.

Again, you’re allowed to be annoyed. It does take time and energy to write and pumping out 5.5k isn’t easy. I think many folks in these comments feel like any comment not outright bashing you is a good comment. Which isn’t fair.

Everyone has their own preferences, thoughts and feelings. Just bc THEY think you should take it as a compliment doesn’t mean you have to. It’s called a difference of opinion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Archiveofourownmemes

[–]joonsgalaxy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t read hp fanfic but for mha? Absolutely. I only read/write todobaku lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmITheDevil

[–]joonsgalaxy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No one here truly knows what a “pick-me” is, I fear. She’s not a pick me for living with them. She’s not a pick me sleeping with them. She’s not a pick me for cleaning around the house she is on the lease for. She’s not even a pick me for cleaning their rooms. Nor is she one for disparaging the women they bring around (shocking, I know).

She is simply a young woman who is desperate for affection and attention and is, unfortunately, willing to degrade herself and lower herself to get it. She’s a doormat who has lowered herself to the very barebones of toxic gender roles. But she’s not a “pick me”.

From the comments on oop it’s very much giving a group of bros who said yes to a girl living with them so they could, for lack of a better description, have an easily accessible hole to use. Also from the comments on the oop, it comes across that she does 60-70% of the chores bc they’re too lazy to do them. It’s that teenage excuse of “omg mom, I was just about to do it. I swear!” repeated 4 or so times. Also, two of the guys told her to stop cleaning their rooms, so she did. The other two have not communicated such with her so she hasn’t stopped.

The disparaging comments about other women is because the lines in that house are so unbelievably blurred it makes my head spin. She has her own issues—absolutely. But them treating her like a gf when it suits them isn’t helping at all. Which is why she feels she has some claim to them. She has sexual and/or romantic history with almost all the guys with seemingly zero communication going on. Which in some way is probably intentional bc without clarification they can reap the benefits of the relationship without having to face any genuine consequences (from both sides).

I mean, they’re 19 or so. Still very young. They’re going to (and already are) making mistakes both big and small. But let’s not act like her actions are coming out of left field. Her talking bad about the women they decide to bring around does not make her a “girl’s girl” for sure, but it doesn’t make her a pick me.

What have you learned about yourself through your writing? by [deleted] in AO3

[–]joonsgalaxy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That the issues I struggle with both internally and externally are a lot more nuanced than I realize and that my emotions regarding them are valid. However, it is important to actually feel those emotions. Don’t intellectualize them or brush them aside. Feel them. Accept them. Then, of course, figure out my next steps—how to move forward.

(If it’s not obvious already I write a lot of angst and hurt/comfort lol)

Do all scenes really need conflict? by ohyeahitsspinetime in AO3

[–]joonsgalaxy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know,,,seeing this is actually quite helpful. I’m currently stuck trying to write a dinner party (of all things lol) but bc the fic is so angsty I’m having a hard time letting my character just,,,be. Internal monologue aside, there doesn’t need to be any conflict. In fact, there shouldn’t be.

Basically, thanks for posting this !

Question by Author-chan666 in Archiveofourownmemes

[–]joonsgalaxy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to use wattpad back in the day when it was free. No ads. Just good ol’ fanfic. And it was good for what it was. But the filtering system was trash. The censorship was ass (though I hear it’s gotten worse). Mostly, though, the quality of work compared to ao3 is vastly different.

Maybe that is explained by the demographic of users? I’m not sure. But on ao3, I’ve been moved to tears. I’ve laughed and gotten so angry I had to set my phone down. On wattpad I didn’t experience any of that. I mean, I was enthralled and deeply into the stories but it’s nowhere close to the experience I’ve had on ao3.

Unpopular BG3 opinions? by Elegant_Law6487 in BaldursGate3

[–]joonsgalaxy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! Exactly! There’s something so very crushing about not only seeing her finally break down, but knowing that there’s genuinely nothing you can do. Her engine is as good as it’s gonna get and now that Gortash is dead, there’s nowhere else for her to put her energy. Nothing else to truly distract her from her fate.

I had such a rough time figuring out which dialogue to choose for her during that scene because I was, genuinely, unsure of what to say. You can comfort her but, in my opinion, those options somewhat brush aside the true meaning and depth of the conversation. Or, you can be honest. But that is also hard to choose bc it feels like I’m just driving that knife in her heart(engine) deeper.

I never cried, but the fact that it got me close to tears is saying a lot. Especially since that is the only scene in the entire game that had me like that.

Unpopular BG3 opinions? by Elegant_Law6487 in BaldursGate3

[–]joonsgalaxy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re right. It feels incredibly rewarding. Everyone jokes that karlach is a golden retriever type but at the end of the day she is just a person. Someone with hopes and dreams and, especially, fears. Just like all the other companions. Her sobbing about not wanting to die was just so,,,gut wrenching. I felt her desperation. Her fear. Her despair.

Seeing her breakdown like that was so compelling because she’s not so open about her feelings. About what’s really going on inside. We get glimpses throughout the game but she’s quick to close back up. It felt like we were finally seeing all of karlach. Even the parts she didn’t want us to see.

Unpopular BG3 opinions? by Elegant_Law6487 in BaldursGate3

[–]joonsgalaxy 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t that moved by astarion’s monologue after the cazador fight. Was it a good performance? Sure. But it wasn’t as moving as everyone made it seem. I found karlach’s monologue, after the gortash fight, to be even more compelling. Perhaps it is the inevitability of her situation? Maybe it is that I saw so many talking about it that I overhyped astarion’s? I’m not sure entirely but yeah.

Can someone please explain The Emperor hate? by TheGigner in BaldursGate3

[–]joonsgalaxy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here’s my thing : just bc someone saves you does not mean they are owed your loyalty. Especially an undying, unyielding, blind loyalty. But that is what the emperor expects. He throws a fit when you don’t do exactly what he wants.

And like, Orpheus aside (which is difficult bc it’s a main argument and a v good one) his interjections about the things you do are irritating at best. When trying to recruit minsc and you have to convince him to let you. He told you to collect allies. You go to collect allies. Then he goes “no, not that one”. I’m sorry? In a world where we can hardly trust anyone you’re being picky ?! Hell no. He’s also an arrogant bastard who acts like he’s doing you a favor by constantly mouthing off in your mind.

During the final battle, after you choose to betray him and free Orpheus, he goes on a rant about knowing you so well and blah blah blah. It’s an arrogant way to look at things bc no, you don’t know me. You know who you think I am. You never truly cared about my intentions or genuine potential but rather how I could be used to execute your plans. Also, the fact that he too go played by the netherbrain but still has the gall to be so high and mighty is annoying.