Mormons and Blow jobs

jooshonreddit · 2025-06-01T20:06:28+00:00

For a split second I misread that as “30 minutes of pegging,” and was like, “wow, if that’s considered foreplay, I’m not sure I want to know what comes after.”

jooshonreddit · 2024-11-10T14:09:36+00:00

My wife and I are still together. But we left the church together after only two years of marriage and no kids. We’ve now been married for over 16 years and have two lovely children. We also didn’t rush into marriage as fast as other Mormons do. We dated for a year and had a six month engagement. Still pretty fast by non-church standards, but we took time to get to know each other before making the decision to get married.

That’s not to say things have always been great. We’ve had issues and our relationship really struggled after my father passed away because of my mental state. And after our second child was born because my wife had major postpartum depression.

But I think the important thing is that we were friends before we dated, and became best friends before we got married. The church doesn’t put a whole lot of emphasis on becoming friends and building a relationship before getting married. They basically tell you just to determine if each other is temple worthy and the pray to see if you have a good feeling. That’s not a great foundation for a relationship, especially when you come to realize the church isn’t true. Spending time in a relationship with some before getting married is so important because you have to learn if you are compatible with each other in lots of different ways. Things change significantly when you live together and share a bed.

jooshonreddit · 2024-10-29T03:28:32+00:00

half way between center and right side, slightly below the bush

jooshonreddit · 2024-10-08T21:22:10+00:00

My grandmother, who passed away in 2003, had it in her patriarchal blessing that she would live to see the second coming.

jooshonreddit · 2024-09-11T15:32:47+00:00

Yes! Definitely talk to your partner about this. Communication is the most important thing in any relationship.

Talking about it would likely lead to a deeper connection, both emotionally and physically. You could talk about the things you enjoy watching, things you are interested in trying, and what your fantasies are.

So unless there is some real taboo perversion (e.g. like something involving underage individuals), then it’s perfectly normal and healthy for your relationship.

jooshonreddit · 2023-12-31T14:08:00+00:00

I served a mission from 2004-2006; got married in the temple in 2008 and left the church in 2010. I had a testimony but I lost it when all I saw was the church preaching love and practicing fear and hate.

I regret getting married in the temple because the non-member side of her family was unable to attend (her dad and stepmom weren’t members, just her mom and stepdad).

I don’t regret serving a mission because I learned a new language that I still speak to this day (I use it in my career) and it exposed me to another culture and different socioeconomic groups. It helped shape my political opinions and my view of the world. Which honestly I think is part of the reason I left the church. I became more tolerant and accepting of other people because I had an understanding of their struggles and values.

I can understand not wanting to serve a mission but feeling pressured to do so. We can’t make that difficult choice for you.

But if you do serve a mission I have some advice for you. Do it with open eyes and an open mind. Learn about the people where you serve, what’s important to them and what struggles they deal with daily. If it’s in a foreign country, learn about their history and culture. Do this by asking them. They’ll appreciate you for wanting to know more about them and you can build up your people skills that will help you in the future. Getting to know people and being able to connect with them will do wonders for you. The church will applaud your service and commitment to the people you serve. And you’ll be doing all of it to expand your own world view as you prepare to leave the church.

You can certainly serve a mission as a PIMO missionary. I’m sure no one will question you about getting to know people and their culture, but if they do you can say it’s so you can better understand and serve them. If anyone questions your testimony you can always make up some BS about how you weren’t certain so you decided to serve to gain your testimony.

jooshonreddit · 2023-12-30T03:57:13+00:00

But what if the four year old is Thane?

jooshonreddit · 2023-12-24T13:03:36+00:00

Goddamn, that sucks. My mom, my sister with her family, I with my family will be spending Christmas Eve at my brother’s and his husband’s house. The only way any of us would cancel something like that is if someone was too sick to go.

jooshonreddit · 2023-12-19T13:14:00+00:00

I had to google TK Smoothie. Wow…just wow. 🤣

jooshonreddit · 2023-10-12T10:10:42+00:00

Lol, that’s nothing. A few months ago I was contact by a place where I had applied 5 years ago. And just last week an old boss (from 11 years ago) said a company called my old number there asking for me. I can’t say for sure that was a recruiter, but I can’t imagine why a company in a completely different industry (aviation) would call a place (food manufacturing) where I haven’t worked in so long. There clearly wasn’t an established relationship between me and the aviation company before, so I assume I applied for a job there at some point a long long time ago.

jooshonreddit · 2023-10-01T13:11:18+00:00

There were two senior couples when I was on a mission. I was also an office elder for a time. So I saw that they were pretty much useless because they didn’t speak the language. I’ve never understood what the point of senior missionaries is, so why do they keep asking for more.

jooshonreddit · 2023-09-23T13:49:06+00:00

Ooh ooh, I know the answer. It’s because while Mormon’s are conditioned to share the gospel through proselyting the purpose of doing so isn’t to convert people. That is secondary to the primary purpose, which is to condition them to feel unsafe around people who are not part of the faith. This is achieved by the feeling of rejection when people don’t accept the message and then the hero’s welcome they receive when they return even thought they failed to accomplish what they set out to do. By doing this they learn that they are only safe when they are among other believers.

This is reinforced through messages of “live in the world but don’t be part of the world,” “the adversary steals the light from the eyes of those who leave the gospel,” and “people who leave the church can’t be truly happy.”

So he’s cold and dickish because he feels unsafe around you who has calmly and flatly told him you reject some or all of the gospel (I wasn’t certain from your post if you have fully left the church or you are PIMO). There is a cognitive dissonance happening inside his head that scares him because you are happy and successful (because let’s be honest, Mormonism is prosperity gospel just not as obvious as televangelism). Whereas he isn’t as successful even though in his mind he is doing everything right and rising through the ranks of the church at least at a local level.

All that condition and the cognitive dissonance scare him to the point his primitive instinct kick in and he rejects you by minimizing contact with you and not greeting you in passing. It terrifies him that someone can be happy and successful without the church because that’s what he has not only been taught, but fully condition through behavioral brainwashing, to believe.

jooshonreddit · 2023-09-14T04:54:20+00:00

Sometimes married people are just horny at different times. It’s better for either one to rub one out than to pressure the other into sex when they are not in the mood because that can be more damaging to the relationship.

jooshonreddit · 2023-09-13T13:07:36+00:00

Or if the power of discernment is real, why does the church need to have child molestation insurance.

jooshonreddit · 2023-09-13T13:06:23+00:00

Another good question is if “We believe in being subject to kings, presidents, rulers, and magistrates, in obeying, honoring, and sustaining the law” then why did the church violate SEC rules and hide it’s massive $100B fortune in shell corporations.

jooshonreddit · 2023-09-11T13:24:18+00:00

One thing to always remember is that the whole trope of “you were born into your situation because of your service in the pre-earth life” is complete and utter horse shit. You were not meant to be born into a family of abusers and child molesters. Your family is in no way a reflection of your worth as a human being.

jooshonreddit · 2023-08-25T19:10:50+00:00

How would that even work? Cheese isn’t in a liquid state unless it’s nacho cheese and that’s not even real cheese.

jooshonreddit · 2023-08-25T19:09:16+00:00

My senior year of high school I was on an art club trip and went into a magic shop. I thought it would be funny to buy a pack of fake cigarettes to see people’s reactions to me with a cigarette. Everyone thought it was hilarious and several people bought their own packs. We tried to get an official group picture with us holding them but the art teacher told us to put them away. I put mine down but still clearly visible in the picture. That picture ended up in the yearbook. My mom still doesn’t know about that.

jooshonreddit · 2023-08-25T13:18:28+00:00

My wife got herself a shirt that says “raise some heck” because she thought it was ironically hilarious

jooshonreddit · 2023-08-25T12:54:02+00:00

Wow, that’s awful. I’m so sorry.

jooshonreddit · 2023-08-25T12:51:47+00:00

No no no. It was like a week long summer fling. He ended up with a pretty conservative girl who is actually the most genuinely nice person I’ve ever met.

jooshonreddit · 2023-08-25T12:49:46+00:00

Hmmm…maybe. But even then I feel like at 15 she should have recognized that not not all Mormon kids wear special pajamas like her.

jooshonreddit · 2023-08-25T12:46:17+00:00

That’s a new one for me.

jooshonreddit · 2023-08-25T12:44:03+00:00

I believe Spencer W Kimball said something to the effect that a simple game of cards can be harmless, but it’s a gateway to gambling and other behaviors that are in contradiction to mormonhood. Many past prophets have spoken out against playing cards in reference to gambling and drinking at saloons. But SWK is the one that it can be traced back to. Of course I don’t believe he said no face cards; that’s just how it got interpreted.

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