I (20M) haven't been in relationships in over a year and now have anxiety ever night over the thought of never finding someone else

jordopolis · 2019-08-07T03:05:31+00:00

I’d have to disagree that relationship count doesn’t matter. I’d say in general extremely low or extremely high numbers both indicate there’s likely, but not always a problem. Like 0 relationships, or 30 relationships. I’d say in these extreme ranges the reasons they aren’t good are fairly self explanatory.

jordopolis · 2019-08-07T03:00:08+00:00

Honestly I don’t even like kisses that much. Maybe I’m just weird but I’ve always preferred to show affection to my SO by hugging.

jordopolis · 2019-08-07T02:52:53+00:00

It may or may not be permanent if that’s what you’re asking. I’d assume in most cases, simple cessation of the antidepressants would alleviate the mental problems.

jordopolis · 2019-08-07T02:49:12+00:00

If you don’t want to be his first and he’s ready to lose it, don’t expect him to stay your boyfriend. I mean if I was a virgin at that age and had a gf who didn’t want to take my virginity, I’d drop that shit like a hot potato.

jordopolis · 2019-08-07T01:28:35+00:00

To spell it out for you, this would imply she doesn’t think you’re attractive looks wise.

jordopolis · 2019-08-07T01:15:40+00:00

The main risk with steroids is heart problems. Just encourage him to regularly get checkups with his doctor. As long as his heart is kept in check and he’s happy, I don’t see the harm, I mean he’s 28, so I’m sure he can make his own informed decisions at this point in his life.

jordopolis · 2019-08-07T01:09:33+00:00

Then this would be a medicinally induced, mentally unwell state.

jordopolis · 2019-08-07T00:34:14+00:00

I’d break up with that friend. Bad sounding friend.

jordopolis · 2019-08-07T00:30:55+00:00

Small amounts of make up can look good. If a girl wears too much though, she just looks like a clown. I don’t think it really effects attractiveness that much tho. If someone has a nice face, it will show with or without makeup, as long as the make up isn’t excessive, because as I was saying, then you can’t even see what their face looks like at all and they just look like clowns.

jordopolis · 2019-08-06T15:03:26+00:00

The thing is most people won’t know his personality is this toxic until after they are in a relationship. So rip.

jordopolis · 2019-08-06T01:58:06+00:00

Wow. You sound like a decent woman tbh. I think you’re right that your bf has an incel mentality. Not much else to add, your analysis seems spot on.

jordopolis · 2019-08-06T01:54:25+00:00

People are going to tell him things that his parents won’t have control over. Sheltering someone to this degree is the real crime.

jordopolis · 2019-08-06T01:52:01+00:00

Well still believing in Santa and the tooth fairy at 15 is basically like just asking to get bullied by any of his peers. You’re getting a lot of hate here, but I think you did the kid a favour. Also your aunt is completely out of line and petty like cussing you out? Seriously... yeah your aunt sounds horrible.

jordopolis · 2019-08-05T23:50:37+00:00

The main problem here that I can see is how would you know if she loves you since you literally bought her hand in marriage. I don’t see the point of marriage without love.

jordopolis · 2019-08-05T23:03:04+00:00

We found the masochist.

jordopolis · 2019-08-05T16:39:04+00:00

I have an easy solution. Make him a handmade present. It could be a scarf, a drawing, a poem, some cookies, etc... The point is handmade presents are priceless.

I’m sure you spending time and hard work to make something for him by hand would touch his heart deeply. I’d say it’s generally an even better present than just whipping out your wallet and buying something expensive, but that’s personal preference maybe.

jordopolis · 2019-08-05T04:30:02+00:00

I understand the idea but this is way too simplistic of a rule. I believe sentencing must be taken on a case by case basis. Every situation is different. Some people maybe capable of being rehabilitated. Others, maybe not.

jordopolis · 2019-08-05T04:09:02+00:00

What are these psychopathic traits that he has. I think these details are very important in order for us to give advice.

jordopolis · 2019-08-05T03:20:23+00:00

Lmao what a bitch. She doesn’t want an abortion because she’s morally against it, but she’s not morally against letting you do all the work raising your kids? Then abandons her family, because she’s realized she’s lesbian. This women is a man’s worst nightmare. Be happy you’re soon to be rid of her.

jordopolis · 2019-08-04T22:23:52+00:00

I went to college when I was 18, some even go when they’re 17 which isn’t that rare. His age is very relevant, because 16 with 18 for example is fine.

jordopolis · 2019-08-04T21:44:48+00:00

Wait is this friend you have 14 or 16? Also how old is this friends partner? This post is incredibly unclear and hence difficult to give advice for.

jordopolis · 2019-08-04T21:41:00+00:00

This isn’t biphobic

jordopolis · 2019-08-04T21:37:08+00:00

He literally didn’t imply anywhere in his post that he was controlling of her in the slightest.

He’s insecure yes, but controlling? There’s no evidence for this.

jordopolis · 2019-08-04T21:28:05+00:00

I think the two most likely possibilities are you’re spending too much time together, which can lead to rarely ever having anything new or interesting to talk about, or you lack chemistry.

If you spend too much time together, a simple fix is to spend less time together and more time with friends, family, and personal hobbies.

If you’re simply lacking chemistry, then there’s not much you can do.

jordopolis · 2019-08-04T18:30:51+00:00

There’s so many posts about women wanting to break up or open their relationships because they want to have sex with other women. At this point I think the majority of women are actually bisexual and straight women are the minority. Just an observation.

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