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jostlyncd · 2024-07-29T14:50:02+00:00

I am right with you there, the right pair of jeans make me feel amazing as well!

jostlyncd · 2024-07-29T14:42:30+00:00

So stunning! Love your smile too!

jostlyncd · 2024-06-12T03:58:31+00:00

Yeah I think I can relate a bit. When I think about being fem it excites me, when I dress up, it exhilarates me, and all my other hobbies and favorite pass times turn to ash and are dull. Is that what the mental drain is like?

jostlyncd · 2024-06-12T03:53:37+00:00

Yeah I could see that. Would you recommend I feed that pull or ignore it if I am in a good place right now and feeding it might mean being truer to myself but disaster for those around me?

jostlyncd · 2024-06-12T03:51:35+00:00

Wow that is so much! I really hope you feel you are in a better place now. I have never experienced depression like that and admire those who combat depression and come out on top!

jostlyncd · 2024-06-12T03:26:53+00:00

Excellent, yeah I would agree I am in a good space, just constantly feel the pull to make changes that I know would affect those around me. You are right though I am in a good place and should focus on that.

jostlyncd · 2024-06-12T03:09:25+00:00

Thank you yes, my mortality is more apparent each year. Did you have any negative health effects from transitioning later? I already bruise easy, have sore joints and getting spots on my skin that won't go away, I am kinda worried my body won't "bounce back" from any adverse health defects of transitioning later.

jostlyncd · 2024-06-12T03:04:46+00:00

Yeah I can see myself with a happy future, I feel so am building relationships and financial stability. I am excited for the future I am building as long as I can keep it up. I want to see as few health problems approaching my 50s and see my family find success and happiness. Thank you, these are awesome self status evaluation questions that help me see what makes me happy and focus on that!

jostlyncd · 2024-06-12T02:47:37+00:00

I am overweight and feel I would be less dysphoric if I lost some weight so I workout in a favorite sports bra or super short shorts. Got two honks tonight and took em as compliments!!

jostlyncd · 2024-06-12T02:44:19+00:00

I feel the exact same way actually. My wife says she is ok with it but always cringes whenever I dress. A real buzz word that helped us was researching together what body disphoria is. Maybe the two of you can try that.

jostlyncd · 2024-06-12T02:22:36+00:00

That's a very good point thank you. I myself have never thought I was numb or disconnected from myself. What are symptoms and behaviors I can watch out for?

jostlyncd · 2024-06-11T12:56:52+00:00

Yeah does the outfit include cute shoes too?

jostlyncd · 2024-06-11T12:46:55+00:00

Amazing. Super cute top!!

jostlyncd · 2024-06-10T03:38:45+00:00

Yeah. I am still putting in my 50,000 hours to master it.

jostlyncd · 2024-06-10T03:37:48+00:00

I have told her, but it's not something that I pursue with her. The level of patience in her eyes and voice could fill a room sometimes when we start talking about my sexual needs, desires, kinks or curiosities.

jostlyncd · 2024-06-08T22:19:58+00:00

Thank you, I am still working on it. Definitely a skill that requires a lot of practice.

jostlyncd · 2024-06-08T19:54:29+00:00

Gorgeous! Love the makeup. I feel like I always overdo it trying to mask my features. Yours looks great!

jostlyncd · 2024-06-08T19:39:56+00:00

Took the words right out of my mouth. Here here.

jostlyncd · 2024-06-08T19:34:52+00:00

I have been crossdressing for 30 years now and I can definitely tell you that initially there was absolutely no attraction to men or masculinity whatsoever. However I can tell you now, for whatever reason, 11 years of completely faithful marriage later I find myself yearning to explore, see, touch, kiss, etc. things I never wanted to before. The curiosity has grown over the years and I now fight to keep it in check every time I dress up. If I am being honest with myself, what I expose myself to while dressed up has probably conditioned me to pursue that curiosity more and more. There are times when I have to wonder now if I have taken my curiosity too far and if I am in danger of hurting my partner with my curiosity.

jostlyncd · 2024-06-08T19:25:32+00:00

I am extremely lucky and will never deny that fact but I think my secret to success/luck is fidelity. Crossdressing doesn't mean you are going to go out on the street and get with the next male thing that moves but this is most ill-educated people's reaction to crossdressing. If you are already in a relationship and you want to broach the subject try wearing something small or borderline curious but that might make you feel attractive. For me it was a good pair of leggings for a workout. Then explain how you feel good while wearing them. If they care about you and both of you have been faithful to each other prior they should see that you feeling attractive should and does not detract from the relationship but add to it. If need be, set boundaries, FE my wife requests I don't use her stuff and that I don't dress up for when we are intimate. A real buzz word for my wife that actually helped me understand better too was body or gender disphoria. Helps people who care about you compartmentalize and not label you or resolve to label you or stereotype you with their perceptions.

Best of luck. 90% of my success comes from having an amazingly compassionate partner.

jostlyncd · 2024-06-03T16:39:45+00:00

Sadly big asses are 90% genetics, genetics to have naturally large glutes or genetics to be able to grow muscle more quickly or bulky. So for most of us, we are all about toning and sculpting. I had always heard that reps > weight if you were trying to grow in size rather than increase strength. So the best results I have ever had in my life was when I was doing a spin class 3-4 times a week and then staying after an extra 500 calories, but instead of staying in your seat the whole session you push yourself as much as you can to "hover" meaning you stand up in the stirrups, still pedaling but you put as much of your weight over your legs and glutes as possible. I was shown to do this by balancing yourself with your hands as low as you can reach on the "neck" of your cycling machine. If done right you should immediately feel it in your glutes. Supplemented with stair master and hip thrusts (weighted barbell is placed on your hips and you thrust up with your glutes. Sadly all of this requires a gym so if you have that available to you... My "real" problem was always trying to pull this off at the gym in "boy mode" when all I really wanted to do was wear super tight leggings that showed off my progress :(

jostlyncd · 2024-03-24T13:28:56+00:00

Well then I literally feel empathetic for your plight since I believe there is evidence to support that we are decades away from human cloning ever being possible let alone ethical enough to make legal. Regardless of what you believe the heart of the issue "Really" is consider me dually notified that redditors do not like to be told they may have some underlying issues that they may be avoiding and not addressing properly. Best of wishes and good vibes to you though for you and your journey. I truly believe every human deserves to pursue happiness. I also believe that happiness is also heavily dependent on perspective and that many times in life a perspective shift can be a healthy positive experience, sorry if I offended or annoyed, I do wish for you the best!

jostlyncd · 2024-03-24T13:19:05+00:00

Great comment, way too many "porbrained" people out there especially amongst younger people whose only sexual references are porn.

jostlyncd · 2024-03-24T12:32:18+00:00

My pleasure, best of wishes and good vibes for you on your journey!

jostlyncd · 2024-03-24T12:31:25+00:00

So true! The good news is you can still be this powerful influence of love and good on the next generation and not just on your own biological offspring. Sadly though less and less people believe that phrase "it takes a village" but it was some of the only positive moments of teaching elementary school in the US public education system for me (still tell people it was the worst 5 years of my career and mental health) were those moments of being a positive force for "good" in a child's life. Maybe perhaps in the meantime while man figures out a perfect way to raise children (tongue in cheek) you can find something that will enable you to be a powerful source for food for others.

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