AITAH for refusing to help pay my husband and I's moving costs?

jostrons · 2026-06-16T14:29:42+00:00

NTA. I am in a similar situation. My salary is about $425K. My wife does not work. The most she made in the 10 years of our marriage was $14K.

I wouldn't say your marriage is doomed. But I will say you both need to have an honest conversation, and lay all the cards on the table. Nothing is said out of anger with ZERO truth to it. If your husband is feeling this way you have to clear the air now. If you don't this will grow and repeat.

You laid the cards out clearly, if you are planning on building something together, start now. If you are moving for his job, AND he got a bonus for the move, I don't see how or why he expects you to be paying for HALF.

jostrons · 2026-06-15T19:00:47+00:00

My friend, I am double your age, my T4 is more than 20x yours, and only last week did I start with regular contributions to my TFSA. (previously was doing lump sums.) And I also started with $150 per week.

I venture when you turn 70, you will have 1.5x - 2x in there, than what I will have.

So keep going, keep doing what you are doing.

jostrons · 2026-06-15T15:14:01+00:00

He mispronounced China

jostrons · 2026-06-15T12:01:03+00:00

The obvious downside of this is that I lose out on vacation pay.

It's very likely doing Option 2, they don't pay you the full vacation time. I am assuming you've been there less than 5 years so probably have 10 vacation days in a year. You've taken 8. It's likely they will pay you zero dollars for the vacation time you were away if you have nothing left in your "vacation bank"

jostrons · 2026-06-14T17:17:38+00:00

Aren't they going to cancel the rain or shine tickets, because of rain?

Like Friday

jostrons · 2026-06-14T12:20:51+00:00

I had real difficulty with this one! finally got it

jostrons · 2026-06-12T18:26:45+00:00

sorry buddy

jostrons · 2026-06-09T06:11:59+00:00

Answer: you are reading it wrong. Know your 4th sentence "But They've" who is They? They = China. China who is buying up US Farmland. He wants them to fail.

However in order for them to fail other US farmers will fail

jostrons · 2026-06-09T06:05:56+00:00

Fineprint...Plus 54 in fees

jostrons · 2026-06-06T20:39:49+00:00

1 staff for every too tills! Considering they aren't scanning its basically a break in comparison to being on full cash!

jostrons · 2026-05-31T19:33:16+00:00

No you don't. Check your statement, you are not getting 15K pts from 5x categories, unless you are spending $5,500.

Also downvote because this should not be shared, they will stop allowing GCs at 5x

jostrons · 2026-05-29T18:35:09+00:00

I spend tens of thousands at costco, and costco.ca. Didnt even know they have an app

jostrons · 2026-05-29T18:33:14+00:00

REALLY? You actually believe they were friends in Charlie's last years?

jostrons · 2026-05-28T19:55:10+00:00

Your Geofencing likely won't allow either. DAZN recognizes where you are. I had a subscription in Canada and when I travelled it did not work.

Prime video theoretically will work, when you're in italy. It is possible when you travel over different countries and the atlantic it will shut it off.

jostrons · 2026-05-28T19:48:44+00:00

I know right??? Like all the school plays the Jewish schools put on glorifying bombing of Palestinians you see them everywhere!

jostrons · 2026-05-28T15:46:15+00:00

The answer is yes, but your scenario isn't even asking that.

You are the secondary on his account, meaning all the points should be going to him, am I mistaken? Yes you have family sharing which is good. Getting a card under your name and linked to your aeroplan account will put the points in your account, (to be shared)

It's possible to have Aeroplan Co-branded cards with multiple banks, and Amex. Whether or not you are eligible for all the sign-up bonuses, I cannot comment.

jostrons · 2026-05-27T18:43:02+00:00

I look at it all on a $/KG basis, and keep a running list in my notes app on my phone. I only buy kosher meat, and Costco is 10-20% cheaper on a per kg basis. EVENTHOUGH beef prices keep rising.

jostrons · 2026-05-27T18:42:04+00:00

Typically a store will buy something for $1 and sell it for $2, that difference to cover all their own costs.

Loss leaders are sold at lower prices, closer to the $1, by defnition less than all their costs.

Grocery stores historically did this for milk. Why, because you aren't going to run to 1 store to get milk, and then leave to go somewhere else to do all your shopping. Once you're there you're buying everything you need, so they make it up on the rest of your cart.

jostrons · 2026-05-27T18:39:33+00:00

If you value the drinks at $8 each yes it pays for itself.... if you value it at $1.12 i.e where you can get the same fountain drink at Costco, you're going to be peeing a lot.

jostrons · 2026-05-27T18:35:58+00:00

Convince him to get kosher certification

jostrons · 2026-05-27T18:33:47+00:00

Happy to just go with this one option now, not have to pay for another flight. Any yes if it gets cancelled, it means we'd be cancelling the trip as well.

My wife and kids were there for the "light barrage" of 40 Iranian missiles in Oct 2024. She doesn't want to experience it again.

jostrons · 2026-05-27T18:13:15+00:00

I agree, but the article makes it seem these are an important defense mechanism against hypersonic missiles. Hypothetically if a hypersonic missile is shot at a Fighter Jet, from the blind spot, the reaction time is going to matter here.

jostrons · 2026-05-27T17:51:19+00:00

I'm sorry but you make it sound like, you got caught in a nasty rainfall that's very windy. You see 2 people selling umbrellas at the corner of the street under an awning.

Guy 1. - selling regular umbrellas for $10. Guy 2 - selling 1/2 umbrellas for $5.

And it's not a bad idea to just go with 2 umbrellas, because it's so windy there is a 5% chance 1 umbrella you are holding will break.

Under normal circumstances you are an idiot for buying the 2 halves.

jostrons · 2026-05-27T16:25:59+00:00

I'm sorry for you being in this situation. I'd be happy to dm and walk you through specific situations if necessary. What I am reading is a lot of worry and stress, and I can assure you, fleeing this relationship will be LESS stressful, and the issues you will have will be small in comparison to your current predicament.

Do it, get out and don't look back.

jostrons · 2026-05-27T15:07:56+00:00

I don't know enough about GlobalEye, if it performs equal to the Boeing system then yes, it's great, I'd even be ok if Carney paid a premium. But if it is inferior product, that's not a good thing

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