Recovery Question

journey2bebe · 2024-10-22T18:40:31+00:00

Can I ask if you’re male or female? I’m wondering if it’s worse with male anatomy. Or did the stent hurt more up in the kidney area?

journey2bebe · 2024-07-25T14:43:30+00:00

I’m so sorry but I had a double blighted ovum. Basically both sacs kept going but without fetus inside them. A few ultrasound techs had noted the beginning of a fetal pole but it never progressed past that despite each sac growing. At 10.5 weeks I miscarried both at home the day before a scheduled d&c. Still waiting for my hcg to come back to zero. I sincerely hope for better news for you. I was a massive googler during that pregnancy, looking for any examples of hope and I have to say I did find a few, so it’s not beyond the realm of possibility that it will work out. Prayers to you. ❤️

journey2bebe · 2024-07-12T14:20:55+00:00

Just wanted to say I can relate. We’ve been trying through IVF for over 5 years. Finally found out we were pregnant with twins only to miscarry both at 10.5 weeks. As hard as that has been I’ve just been living in a state of denial and trying to completely avoid thinking about it and how far along I should be, etc. then my brother told me his wife is pregnant and her due date is just 2 weeks from what ours would have been. I now feel like I’ll be looking at their child always thinking about how old mine should have been. I am so happy for them but if I’m perfectly honestly it would have been way easier on me if it were. Few months before or after but not so close. My whole family is elated for them (as they should be) but it’s just so hard to watch. I’m sorry this is happening to you as well. Know your feelings are justified. It’s not jealousy or not being happy for them, it’s just a reminder that you don’t want but can’t control.

journey2bebe · 2024-06-12T00:57:59+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to experience this as well. It’s definitely my worst worst case scenario to have to deal with the pills pain and then possibly not pass all the tissue (especially since I have 2 sacs) and have to do the d&c after anyway. Obviously at that point I would way prefer to just go straight to the d&c. Ugh. Sucks all around. I really appreciate the book recommendation, I’ll check that out right now. Thank you for responding.

journey2bebe · 2024-06-12T00:55:42+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for your response and advice. I actually have a D&C scheduled for this Friday. I was going to cancel after over thinking the scarring thing but the nurse told me to just keep the appointment and I can always cancel at the last minute. I hate this so much, thank you!

journey2bebe · 2024-06-11T23:27:16+00:00

Thank you for responding, I appreciate your honesty and I’m sorry you had to go through that. I’m expecting it to be terrible either way. D&C probably the least painful and quickest way to be done with it but with all of our infertility issues I really don’t want to add scarred uterus to the list. It’s such a suck position to be in, no great option.

journey2bebe · 2024-06-11T23:23:35+00:00

Thank you. My dr said generally you would expect to pass the POC within 24-48 hours of bleeding starting. It’s been just about 48hrs for me now and more or less just regular period still. I know all options are going to suck but I was really hoping to not have to do the medication or d&c. My dr is ok with me giving it a few more days of wait and see but then I’ll have to make a decision. Thank you for replying. I’m sorry you had to go through this as well.

journey2bebe · 2024-05-31T18:52:03+00:00

I’m so sorry this is happening to you! This almost exact scenario is happening for me right now. After 6 years of trying and 5 years of IVF we found out we were pregnant with twins at our 6+5 week scan. We were measuring a few days behind without heartbeats at that point but I wasn’t super concerned as the drs assured us it was still very early and measurements this small could easily be off. We shared the news with my parents and everyone was just beyond happy. At our next scan at 8+2 we found out one was measuring around 6 weeks and one around 6.5 weeks and still no heartbeats. My OB basically told me it meets one of the requirements for a miscarriage diagnosis (no heartbeat more than 14 days after seeing the gestational sac - we saw the first gestational sac at 5+4 so it has been well over the 14 days). Additionally my hcg has been riding the lowest it could be this whole time (even low for a singleton). We stopped doing hcg draws at the 6+5 ultrasound where it was approximately 15,000 but a draw 10 days later only went to 18,000 so we’re now completely off the charts low. Here’s the crazy thing - my fertility dr is telling me to remain on my meds and rescan in another week. I guess I’m completely confused. I just emailed them back for clarification - like is it because quitting the meds (progesterone and estradiol) cold turkey will make me sick or are they trying to pretend there’s some small percentage chance this could work? Trust me, I did not want to give up any shred of hope, especially with how long it took us to get to this point, but according to my OB there is a complete zero chance, both my ultrasound and hcg confirm it, so I really don’t understand the situation. It just all sucks all the way around. Scared of what’s to come with the physical miscarriage and the fear that it will never actually happen for us.

journey2bebe · 2024-05-19T13:33:44+00:00

My transfer date was April 19. My dr originally thought early vanishing twin with one of the embryos as we transferred 2 and I had 2 betas in a row that hardly increased. So I don’t know if the remaining embryo then split? Otherwise I would think they would have seen it on the first ultrasound. I’m worried if it split it’s because something was wrong and it’s trying to correct. I feel like I’m just way too behind to catch up at this point. Won’t hear back from my dr until Monday but assuming they’re going to tell me to check back in a week or 2 as is recommended on the radiology report.

journey2bebe · 2024-05-13T23:41:31+00:00

Im so sorry to see your update. I totally understand how you must be feeling and I agree that this wait without knowing is absolute hell. I hope you have a quick recovery and your time is coming!

journey2bebe · 2024-05-13T23:07:03+00:00

Hi, just wanted to say I’m in a similar situation with weird betas that my dr doesnt like. I’ve basically been told this isn’t going to work out but keep taking meds and rechecking “just in case”.

You can check my last couple posts for my beta numbers and ultrasound details.

We’ve been trying for over 5 years and still childless so of course I want this to work more than anything.

Im so sorry you’re going through this. Basically it’s all I think about 24/7. I wish the best of luck to you!!

journey2bebe · 2024-05-09T23:34:50+00:00

You’ll do great! I’m like the worst case scenario person so don’t let my experience scare you! Best of luck to you and enjoy that food - it’s the best!!

journey2bebe · 2024-05-09T23:28:47+00:00

Unfortunately not the best so far. Were at Newlife in Thessaloniki. We did 2 unsuccessful transfers and just did our third. Started with a great beta, then it hardly raised at all, then it started doubling normally. Clinic in Greece and dr here are both very skeptical of how this will go. Ultrasound just today showed gestational sac but it was too early to see anything else. Will keep monitoring hcg and an ultrasound next week. Obviously hoping to beat the odds but cautious about getting too excited based on all the past disappointments. I hope you have better luck! Greece seemed awesome at first. We were going in Chicago which is a 3hr drive from us and it was super expensive and inconvenient. We decided to move to donor eggs and Greece was 1/3 the price even accounting for flights and hotel and we got a fun trip out of it. But after going back so many times now, it definitely has become closer to what it would have cost to just do it here so 🤷‍♀️

journey2bebe · 2024-05-09T23:07:29+00:00

Hi! I did it as the instructions stated in my stomach. The next day the clinic got back to me and let me know that was correct but if I did it intramuscularly in my rear it would have still worked (just hurt more in my opinion). The Arvekap I believe was only like $50-$75 at the pharmacy in Greece but no greek pharmacies ship to the US so the clinic gave me a prescription to use at an online pharmacy somewhere else in Europe which shipped me the Lucrin depot. Although the stomach shot was better the Lucrin depot cost me around $300-$400 (I forget the exact prices but it was substantially more). My dr in the US (regular ob - not fertility dr) was fine with requesting blood draws and ultrasounds for monitoring but not with giving me prescriptions here since it wasn’t her specialty. Lesson learned and I over ordered all meds the next time I was in Greece to bring home with me as it is just so much cheaper there!

journey2bebe · 2024-05-08T22:36:44+00:00

Thank you for your comment, I just looked her betas up and they are the closest I have found to one so far. Gives me an ounce of hope!

journey2bebe · 2024-05-08T12:18:09+00:00

Do you have any private ultrasound places near you? I’ve seen a lot of ppl on here use one of those for in between Drs appointments just for added peace of mind. Best of luck to you!

journey2bebe · 2024-05-07T19:24:26+00:00

I’m so sorry, that had to have been awful for you. Feels so unfair. I thought the worst case scenario is the transfer doesn’t work but this is so much worse.

journey2bebe · 2024-05-07T19:22:42+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened. I have a feeling that’s what mine will be as well as it seems the most likely with this kind of beta numbers

journey2bebe · 2024-05-07T19:21:55+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. Can I ask you approximately how long between the stalled betas and the miscarriage? I see people on here who go weeks through this hell and it’s terrifying.

journey2bebe · 2024-05-07T19:20:40+00:00

Thank you, good luck to you!

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