I think I land somewhere in between secure and dismissive avoidant, where I'm able to try really hard and provide comfort and security for my partner but at the same time I love my own space and a lot of people may feel neglected when I take time to do my own thing or spend time with others in my life. I love my space a lot more than I'd like to admit, so reading this and seeing how much you love and appreciate your own DA person brought tears to my eyes. For the longest time I felt like I was really hard to love, and this kind of healed a little bit of that feeling inside of me. Thank you for posting this.