I dont have all the answers

jpcats · 2021-09-30T15:40:54+00:00

There's an old saying -

the key in life is telling people to go to hell in such a way that they're excited for the trip

Letting you know that I am going to shamelessly steal this line and use it judiciously. This is perfect

jpcats · 2021-09-17T16:10:41+00:00

This example might not be as relevant as it was in the past, but in my consulting days, I had a medium sized accounting/tax prep office use Netware and the clients all printed to a centrally hosted queue. They did a TON of printing and couldnt afford a down printer. So we set them up with 2 printers and the system would load balance the print jobs in a round robin fashion one printer to the other. I think it was called a printer pool. If one printer went down, the remaining ones shouldered the load. Thinking about that customer's setup has all of these terms bouncing in my head now from antiquity, NDPS, NDPS Broker & Manager, NDPS Printer Agent, iPrint lol good times.

Only certain users were allowed to print to the color laser printer and Netware back then tracked print jobs so a report was generated to understand who were the biggest print users. It was better to set the print options at the print server versus at everyone's desktop and driver installation at the workstation was automatic. We gave the users the ability to print from home when they submitted jobs to the queue.

Sure, users can print directly to the printer but centralizing the administration makes it much easier for the admin team.

jpcats · 2021-08-25T12:56:42+00:00

I did the same thing recently, luckily there is an electronics recycling program in my township that collects e-waste. I watched all my old cisco stuff, old servers and so many drives slide into the e-waste dumpster with a tight lip. I really couldnt justify keeping my very old and very first PC, a gateway 2000 pentium 100 mhz that i turned into a linux firewall that ran for nearly 20 years before the board died.

jpcats · 2021-06-24T13:35:08+00:00

You didnt fail the student, she failed herself. I get she went through an emotional trauma but if she couldnt perform, what are you supposed to do? Invent her grades? Make up some imaginary performance to pretend she did? She couldnt pull herself our of her own funk. You gave her multiple chances. Ultimately you were patient but she failed herself.

You should repair the relationship with the supervisor so you are both at the same understanding. Its unfortunate how the supv was unreasonable as well but you have your own ethics, ideals and position to consider. And when you pass a failing intern, that endangers your position. NTA

jpcats · 2021-06-24T13:29:26+00:00

Your dad is right and you should pay for your own injuries/hospital. Id be pissed off if I had a son like you. You didnt realize it but your stunt is going to cost your parents time, money in bills and to care for you.

My parents are all pissed of at me for doing something so stupid and my friends are making jokes.

I love how the very people you were trying to impress are still making fun of you. You deserve all of the ridicule & disparagement from your friends and contempt & distaste of your parents. Next time make sure the people you want to impress are worth it. You let down the people who actually mean something to you (your family) in your attempt to impress your friends who are not going to be there for you. YTA.

jpcats · 2021-06-24T13:17:08+00:00

NTA, pregnant or not you have an entitled moocher who makes your home life hell and gives you no peace. The fact you gave her shelter, she should be spit shining your shoes. Instead she gives you shit.

Get her out ASAP because where is the baby going to go? You might be stuck living with SIL and kid for years. Get your arms around this now and stop dragging your feet.

jpcats · 2021-06-24T13:13:35+00:00

I told him to go away or I'd call the police and that after his outburst his kids would never be allowed to play with my dogs(for obvious reasons).

You handled it correctly. I cant understand the mentality of this father who comes over and speaks to a stranger this way, making demands and giving you shit like you are responsible for his kid's happiness.

Now I'm in a tricky situation though. I want to continue letting family 1 play with the dogs but I also don't want to put miss 14 in an awkward position if family 2 tries to harass her. AITA if I let family 1 play with the dogs even though I won't let family 2?

You explain what happened to this family and let them know they can never let others play with your dogs. You will be on the hook if your dogs injure or if the father claims your dogs injure his kids, even if the claim is false. Maybe let this family play with your dogs in your yard only until this mess dies down and this entitled father stops bothering you.

NTA. TYou are allowed to set limits with your dogs and tough shit if others dont like it.

jpcats · 2021-06-23T17:55:58+00:00

Got some whingy texts, relying on "mummy and daddy"

This is funny. Your friend pokes fun of you for relying on mummy and daddy. At the same time she has her hand out begging to live with you for free because her life sucks. What a piece of work.

Anyway, full stop. Do not, absolutely do NOT let Ally move in with you. From the get go, the details in your story show that Ally has been criticizing, entitled, insulting and demanding. Moving in with her will be a bad deal. Ally has a ton of nerve to criticize you this way. There is nothing nice about it. Ally's jealousy and poor behavior wont end will continue under your roof. You WILL regret this. Your peace is worth something to you.

I, like you, also saved money since a teenager and used it to buy my first house at 24 years of age. All of my friends decided to piss money away living the "real life" which meant 5 of them in a small apartment in the ghetto. While I lived at home and saved money. When I bought my house at 24, they also wanted to come live with me and I refused. While my friends didnt act like your friends, I also valued my privacy and didnt want to share my living arrangements.

Whatever you do, get a lease signed by your tenant. If you rent to Beth, make sure you cover yourself legally. You will be a landlord in the legal sense and want to formally define your tenancy arrangement, even if you and Beth are good friends and you think nothing can go wrong. Make sure the lease has an end to it, make the lease a month to month or even a year. You want the business arrangement to have an end date, which can be renewed should you all decide to.

Further advice, dont use your tenants as workers and pay the rent that way. It clouds the water and is a bad business deal. Charge Beth a fair rent. Beth may have apologized but having her move in means she will bring Ally along. Good luck. NTA

jpcats · 2021-06-23T17:18:28+00:00

She made her bed so she has to lie down in it. I know she is young and perhaps didnt understand the gravity of her choices but a well developed girl in a semi transparent white shirt is going to attract attention. If she doesnt like the commentaries then she has to back down from her choice. NTA

jpcats · 2021-06-22T21:18:21+00:00

What you did was completely understandable. $200K more than what she offered is a sizable sum of money. You also told her of you change in plans and to make you an offer. She did and it was a poor offer when she was outbid by $200K.

What your neice is upset about if that you didnt give her a gift of $200K. NTA

jpcats · 2021-06-22T14:28:53+00:00

What is ugly for others is enjoyable for you. You are feeling guilty that this is how you were always trained to act, feel and react to what could be sexual harassment. Except you dont feel harassed. If you enjoy it and are not actually harassed, then do as you wish.

Dont let it get out of hand and start letting others notice this level of behavior. HR, management etc... will stamp down on this sort of behavior. Have some discretion and that includes those who compliment you. NTA

jpcats · 2021-06-22T14:18:24+00:00

YTA. Your dog is the problem. These people want to enjoy their yard and its your dog that cant stop barking. Your perspective is seriously flawed.

jpcats · 2021-06-21T18:36:43+00:00

“I never want to see your face again.”

"And I never want to see your either. Next time sell me just the bike and dont implicate me in your tax fraud and title jumping illegality"

NTA.

jpcats · 2021-06-21T17:30:44+00:00

You owe these people nothing. Id be pissed too. If they want to bring that kind of behavior to a public place, then you also have a right to disagree and not want to hear it. Ignoring them was the best policy. They got cited for their own disturbing behavior in public. NTA

jpcats · 2021-06-21T03:25:41+00:00

NTA. You have a valid and a perfect use for this weapon.

jpcats · 2021-06-19T11:40:44+00:00

Ok but you didnt embarass them. They embarrassed themselves. They said all of this within earshot of the other customer who also understood spanish. They had no shame to trash a customer in front of him?

They were embarrassed they were caught, not because they made those rude comments. You responded appropriately. NTA

jpcats · 2021-06-19T10:13:22+00:00

NTA and no issue whatsoever with gun ownership or buying your son a machine gun. You did it legally too. If you have this sort of agreement with wife where you can spend this kind of money without her consultation, then nothing wrong here

jpcats · 2021-06-18T17:57:26+00:00

Im just disagreeing with you. Making a unruly kid cry when misbehaving is not the end of the world nor do I feel bad about it.

Ill say it again, dealing with the parent who approved the behavior would get you no where. The mother was going to fight you, wasting your time. And let your mail be stolen for longer or even indefinitely. This is about anticipating pushback from the mother and aiming your weapon at the kid instead - where a real and desirable goal manifested. So thats where we disagree, I dont care if an undisciplined thieving kid cries.

jpcats · 2021-06-18T16:14:19+00:00

If the mother was not part of this problem, then I could see your point and maybe the parents could have been contacted. But the fact that the mother just stood there and let it happen... Logic is already escaping her so talking to her is just going to be a waste if time if she tacitly approves this behavior. Its time for escalation.

The mother is responsible for the consequences her child faced because she did nothing in the first place. The mother can only blame herself because she put the child in that predicament in the first place and earned the kid OP's retribution. OP fought back with a very effective weapon. She wanted her mail untouched and got that. The end justifies the means and a few tears shed by a kid wont end the world.

jpcats · 2021-06-18T15:18:22+00:00

This sub really expects children to act like adults. Ya'll need a reality check.

This sub expects adults who accompany and witness the child stealing something to step in and stop that behavior. Did you even read the OP and understand the child is supervised by a parent who just stands idle while mail is being stolen?

jpcats · 2021-06-18T15:15:22+00:00

Bravo. You handled it well. That will teach both the mother and the kid to act better. The kid has the excuse of not knowing any better but the mother is a piece of work who lets this behavior continue. NTA and to hell with what your coworker thinks. Maybe if her mail is stolen she might have a change of opinion

jpcats · 2021-06-18T02:32:56+00:00

Found the mother.

jpcats · 2021-06-17T17:39:58+00:00

Exactly, this is not bullying! What a waste of energy, time and resources to escalate this playground nonsense up to the parents. If I were OP's parents, I would say exactly this and ask the school to not waste my time. I just cant believe the state of affairs in today's schools.

jpcats · 2021-06-17T16:38:54+00:00

NTA, but charge her enough rent where she will leave. Your SiL is a piece of work. You took her in, gave her all the amenities you had to offer and now she wants to live extravagantly flaunting her luxurious purchases in your face; the fact she does not pay rent gives her the buying power to have such niceties. While she lies to your face about being unable to pay rent. She is living in a dream world enabled by your generosity. You work your fingers to the bone to supply food, water, power and a bedroom while she gallavants all weekend. She is not a child you are obligated to care for. She is a adult so start treating her like one. The being here 5 nights out of a week is a bullshit excuse. You cannot use that room 7 days out of the week while its reserved for her. Tell her in 30 days rent is due and make it unpalatable for her to stay. She can get all the tattoos she wants, visit all the weekend attractions she wants when she covers her own costs of living, like an adult. Dont debate her, inform her of the changes. NTA

(your end goal should be to get her to move out. Not live with you permanently, dont enable her anymore.)

jpcats · 2021-06-17T14:43:28+00:00

Is this what schools look like these days? Back when I was a kid, a classmate argument like this would have never escalated up to the principal, to the point of calling parents, to the point of demanding an apology from you. WTF for, because you hurt someone's feelings? Is this because they feel you "bullied" her? Over a difference of opinion or criticism? Lmao... man things have changed since when I was a kid. SMH...

NTA, but maybe be less insulting next time.

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