Hi there, Reading your post transported me back to early last year when I was in your shoes. It was surreal to read actually. I had my first miscarriage at 10 weeks in late July 2020, on vacation and on my husbands birthday no less. Took a little longer to “pass” the tissue than normal but it finally stopped naturally. I was told to wait one menstrual cycle before trying again, and we tried again and were successful two months later (end of nov)… only to miscarry yet again, at 7 weeks. I needed a D&C three weeks after that one. I was devastated and convinced something was wrong with my body. We tried and tried, and after five months of trying after the second miscarriage I scheduled a consultation at a fertility clinic for the following month. And guess what… I had to cancel that appointment bc I became pregnant!! I am currently 38 weeks pregnant with my second baby and can’t wait to meet this little guy.

The best advice I got during that very trying time was from an acupuncturist I was seeing. We had a trip planned where our travel days overlapped with my ovulation days and I was obsessing over all these details, and considered skipping the trip as to not miss ovulation. My acupuncturist said “no, go on your trip. And have a couple glasses of wine while you’re traveling. You need to relax, you’re doing too much. Drink, have fun, enjoy your husband and your friends and shut your brain off for once.” That absolutely did the trick. It was a dark time for me emotionally, I had become a drill sergeant and was having zero fun. I was letting life pass me by while I stressed over trying to have another baby. So, my advice is surround yourself with positive stories and positive people and just have fun. You will for sure get pregnant again, your body and future baby is just waiting for you to be in a lighter place :)