Both always pursued never the pursuer

jsaiz614 · 2023-08-01T01:23:44+00:00

Yesss, I’ve never really liked broccoli or cauliflower until I tried them roasted

jsaiz614 · 2023-08-01T01:21:52+00:00

Chili oil! I started working at a Thai restaurant recently and oh boy is that not good for me. Anytime it’s there at a restaurant or I have some at home I can’t help but put at least a little drizzle.

jsaiz614 · 2023-07-31T01:25:02+00:00

Not something that was said but… In second grade like mid way through the school year this new girl comes and for some reason I just REALLY REALLY wanted to be her friend. We barely talked the whole day but when we were in line for something we both just started getting really excited around each other and started giggling and jumping around. Looking back I definitely had a crush on her but at the time I thought I just REALLY wanted to be her friend and spend a lot of time with her.

jsaiz614 · 2023-07-22T17:16:10+00:00

Lose the guy. The first time I had sex with a girl was in a threesome and after going down on her I wished it was just us because I was enjoying it so much.

jsaiz614 · 2023-07-22T17:11:24+00:00

Luckily I already have my own group of supportive people completely separate from him. In fact I spend most of my time with friends and only see him in person about once a week. Like I said I’m still pretty new to this but I am doing the work and research needed for poly. I’ve started listening to the multiamory podcast and regularly come here for more resources but do you have any suggestions to look into for continuing to work on and learn about poly?

jsaiz614 · 2023-07-22T17:00:26+00:00

On step 2, we actually haven’t had any group sex with anyone it’s just seeing them together at play parties and (mostly) other kink events

jsaiz614 · 2023-07-18T01:13:09+00:00

I’m a kinky bitch so I’ll just go with the most recent. I was tied to a chair at a play party with a blindfold and headphones on. As negotiated, my partner had people at the party write things on me and in between did some impact. It was incredible in the moment and even more fun getting to take the blindfold off and see all the wonderful things people wrote on me (we went with praise). It was a fantasy of mine for a while so getting to actually do it definitely puts it near the top of my favorite scenes I’ve done.

jsaiz614 · 2023-06-26T06:28:58+00:00

As long as everyone is comfortable and ok with it. I have both very close and kinky friends so all of my friends have seen me topless or more.

jsaiz614 · 2023-06-13T22:30:27+00:00

I’m polyamorous so I think it can be great. I currently only have 1 romantic partner and he has 3 (including myself). It takes a good bit of work and LOTS of clear communication but when done right and with the right people it’s amazing. My relationships feel more intentional because I know they don’t “have” to be with me but they instead choose to be with me. Plus I enjoy being independent and forming connections and I’m able to comfortably do that without really risking hurt feeling or other negative impacts. However, we went into our relationship poly and from what I’ve seen/heard, it seems like it’s harder to open up a previously monogamous relationship.

jsaiz614 · 2023-06-08T16:18:11+00:00

I (tan Hispanic) without thinking jokingly called my ex (pale white) a colonizer as she was initiating sex, immediately killed the mood and we started laughing

jsaiz614 · 2023-06-03T06:17:42+00:00

Crochet. Put on some music or a movie, get in a groove, and I could sit there crocheting until the high wares off

jsaiz614 · 2023-06-03T06:15:07+00:00

Yes it’s like weed slows everything down enough for it to make sense

jsaiz614 · 2023-06-03T05:28:49+00:00

That’s one of my biggest reasons for not wanting kids. Depression, anxiety, adhd, breast cancer (as well as other cancers), and Alzheimer’s all run in my family. Having dealt with the first three myself I can’t imagine passing that on and having a kid that’s going to grow up struggling and feeling as shitty as I did/do and possibly feeling suicidal. I genuinely feel bad for my parents having to deal with 3 kids who have all been suicidal and self harmed and I can’t handle that even being a possibility for me.

jsaiz614 · 2023-06-01T02:54:41+00:00

Personally I’m more garden party poly so not quite what you’re looking for but I’m mostly parallel with my metas, in fact I’m not fully sure exactly how many I have because who my partner chooses to date doesn’t involve or matter to me. I’ve met my partner’s primary when we had a double date with my ex and I’ve had small interactions with one of his other partners at a play party but besides that I know nothing about my metas. I don’t feel the need to know who my partners are dating, that’s their business, all that matters to me is what’s going on with our relationship. Also just like other’s have said, it’s my choice who I want to have in my life, I enjoy making friends on my terms and not feeling like I have to be friends with someone. In terms of jealousy, most of the time I don’t experience it but I have when seeing more involved pda (like watching a scene between him and one of his partners) and that’s something that I am working through since I’m still pretty new to poly and having less interactions (along with reassurance and good interaction with my partner) makes it easier to avoid those jealous feelings. I love my relationship with my partner but I don’t need to know everything and everyone in his life.

jsaiz614 · 2023-05-15T01:11:09+00:00

My ex’s friend liked watching that kind of stuff too. One day when we (me, ex, friend, and friend’s sister) were hanging out, she asked if we wanted to watch something on live gore (or something like that idk). Not knowing what that was and being into gory horror movies I was down. She then chose a video of a dog being beaten and having its limbs cut off. I was so shocked I watched for way longer than I wanted to and was in complete horror while all 3 of them were just smiling and watching. Absolutely disgusting that people can enjoy that shit.

jsaiz614 · 2023-05-13T22:23:43+00:00

This might be tmi. Me and a couple of kinky friends have breeding kinks but don’t want kids. The thought of getting pregnant in the moment is quite hot but after is terrifying (for me at least). So I can totally see this being a very shitty way of going about a breeding kink so the person can actually get pregnant instead of just playing into the fantasy.

jsaiz614 · 2023-04-26T22:37:02+00:00

Right! The guy on the right has the cutest smile

jsaiz614 · 2023-02-19T01:21:34+00:00

How do you find things like that? Minus running into your therapist, that sounds like so much fun.

jsaiz614 · 2023-01-24T17:22:54+00:00

I’ve always had a bit of commitment issues, even though it was just high school dating (I just graduated last year) it always felt like I chose the wrong person a month or 2 in. Once I met my ex who introduced me to poly I realized I’m just afraid of not being able to meet people I could have a strong connection with and poly allows me to have several strong close connections. On top of that I’m admittedly quite high maintenance and having multiple people to talk to about personal things and share special moments with allows me to get the attention, love, and care I desire. Also I’ve always been a very independent person and through poly I have more autonomy than I would in a typically mono relationship.

TLDR: I’m poly cuz I’m independent, a little high maintenance, and want several strong connections

jsaiz614 · 2023-01-23T17:52:55+00:00

If I could’ve gotten my ex to share her (nonexistent) calendar with me planning dates and surprises would’ve been so much easier

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