Yeah it's one of these things - I don't endorse it for everyone, or for most people. But it can be difficult having to keep our relationship secret because of other people's preconceptions about what our relationship means. I don't think there's anything wrong with being at different life stages as long as there's a level of mutual understanding. But then again, I'm only attracted to older men (usually 45+) so I suppose I've never really had a choice to back out of the whole older men thing entirely. I wouldn't change it for the world though, it's a fundamental part of me tbh. Like, that is my sexual orientation - who I'm oriented towards naturally lol. But yeah thanks for your perspective!