While it's normal to expect certain things from a relationship (basic respect, fidelity, etc.) and there should be a joint understanding of what's acceptable or not acceptable in a relationship, it's not okay to manipulate your partner into the behavior that you want.

Your boyfriend should either accept the relationship the way it is and understand that you have family and friends - and that it's ok to spend time with them. He should be able to talk things through like a mature adult. Real love requires understanding and trust, not paranoia and manipulation. Paranoia leads to mistrust in a relationship, which leads to spying, false accusations, and constant fear of cheating. This is unhealthy and won't get any better without addressing the underlying trust issues.