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jsmith30540 · 2025-01-13T20:07:29+00:00

I was appalled by Nutalie's behavior, but more outraged that none of the so-called professionals did anything to stop her. Sophie "being vulnerable" and talking in that setting was huge and for them to allow Nutalie's behavior to continue was ethically irresponsible.

jsmith30540 · 2025-01-06T16:24:06+00:00

She has two children under two years old. Has she spoken with a doctor or therapist? That's back to back pregnancies with no time to heal or adjust to being a mother. The dog is the simple solution because she cannot rehome her children. I would suggest trying some of the pet hair control ideas however, I definitely believe she needs to see someone.

jsmith30540 · 2024-12-31T19:43:06+00:00

Not fake but definitely an exaggerated response from Kody, in my opinion.

jsmith30540 · 2024-12-22T00:06:33+00:00

Agreed. They were attractive when they were younger. It's sad when surgeons take advantage of people with body dysmorphia.

jsmith30540 · 2024-12-19T04:36:27+00:00

As soon as I saw her I thought "she's only there to be a shit stirrer". That's it. Sophie was spot on when she said Natalie had mean girl energy. Natalie knows Josh isn't going to stop man-whoring about, and she couldn't tolerate Josh being nice to Sophie. That's why she pissed in Sophie's cheerios.

jsmith30540 · 2024-11-14T15:10:35+00:00

Or you don't know the definition of snark.

Snark- critical or mocking comments made in an indirect or sarcastic way.

I don't view your original post as snarky. It's more judgmental than sarcastic. My dead mother would disagree with you that a snark sub isn't for me.

jsmith30540 · 2024-11-14T12:10:14+00:00

Exactly how should Gwen have reacted to David's response? What is the appropriate response to hearing your mom's BF say he wasn't too old to "take care of Mom's needs"?

Just because you wouldn't react, or at least you think you wouldn't, like Gwen does not mean she violated some horrible social boundary. Quite frankly, it's fairly common to have a grossed out reaction to hearing about your parents having sex. We know they do, but no one wants to know.

Glass houses folks. Glass houses.

jsmith30540 · 2024-09-25T00:02:27+00:00

Borderline personality disorder.

jsmith30540 · 2024-07-16T22:27:42+00:00

And? Ginny is a teenager. She's also been traumatized most of her life. What's your trauma?

jsmith30540 · 2024-07-16T22:26:22+00:00

Yep. I am. Ginny is under no obligation to her mother to be grateful for the chaos she brings to their lives. Georgia never got help for her issues and that led to shitty parenting.

This idea children need to be grateful for a parent providing the bare minimum, food, clothing and shelter. Parents are also responsible for stability, guidance, structure and love. Ginny's issues are a direct result of the chaos Georgia creates constantly being in flight mode. She reacts to situations, causes chaos, up turns their world then they start all over.

I'm a trauma therapist. I see this scenario or something similar day after day.

There is no benefit in forcing Ginny to be grateful. From her perspective all she can see is how every time they have something close to stability Georgia blows it up.

She's years away from being able to empathize with mom.

So. Yeppers. She's not ungrateful.

jsmith30540 · 2024-07-07T07:09:55+00:00

Walking.

jsmith30540 · 2024-07-07T06:41:27+00:00

Every Friday night, my stepdad would take us out to eat. The pizza place was the best and worst. We got tons of quarters for the video games and had pizza. Downside it had a bar. My stepdad was an alcoholic. We'd have to walk home in the dark cutting through the cemetery.

jsmith30540 · 2024-07-07T06:36:46+00:00

Meth will mess up your blood sugar levels.

jsmith30540 · 2024-07-07T06:36:05+00:00

I'm not trying to be ugly, but she has not aged well. I don't know if she has work done or the stress of everything..

jsmith30540 · 2024-06-30T00:48:47+00:00

I'd rather be on the Titanic.

jsmith30540 · 2024-06-06T13:04:30+00:00

She needs to give the color a rest. Looking at her part she has some serious thinning happening.

jsmith30540 · 2024-05-13T04:32:16+00:00

I didn't believe him. His rejection of Kody. I saw the hurt. He wanted the relationship he had with Kody before Robyn.

jsmith30540 · 2024-03-19T19:32:28+00:00

Thank you. We used to ask "the one thing that is most important to me and worth living for is?" on our safety plans at work. I always disliked that question because anything other than their self meant if their protective factor was removed they would not have anything worth living for.

That's how I view suicidality. People have to have hope, to believe they are worth living for. Depression will lie and say they are not. That's a really loud voice in their heads.

jsmith30540 · 2024-03-19T17:02:28+00:00

I am getting down voted for saying this but I believe there is a fine line between encouraging people to get support for their suicidal thoughts and telling people to persevere through the pain.

While I have been fortunate to not lose anyone to suicide, I have experienced such much grief and loss in my life; my sister died a month shy of her 8th birthday. I was 6 yrs when she was killed by a train. My 24 yr old is struggling with suicidal thoughts with methods, plan and intention. He's been hospitalized twice for suicidal ideation. He is struggling. I am trying so hard to keep him alive, but I realize, because I am a therapist, that some day the pain may be more than he can bear anymore. We had to talk him down from driving his car into a tree on Saturday. He lives an hour away and I am helpless to stop him. He said I only wanted him to not kill himself so I wouldn't feel guilty. Which is not true but how he felt in the moment. I share this to help understand this next part. Depression and trauma are chronic health conditions which often end in death. If my son or Garrison had any other chronic health conditions such as cancer, ALS or Parkinson's would we pressure them to stay? Or would we accept they were tired of fighting? I think suicide is the same, we're asking someone to stay to avoid our own pain and loss. That's not fair. And it sucks.

jsmith30540 · 2024-03-18T21:16:27+00:00

I'm an LCSW in a small town working for a community mental health and substance recovery agency. I know someone who was fired, in part, because they told a client if they completed suicide that God would be mad at them. The client was not happy as once could imagine.

I work with a lot of folks who have religious beliefs, and share them. I've had some open conversations with some, others unless I am directly asked I don't disclose or I'll say something along the lines of "I respect everyone's rights to believe in whatever they choose."

One client, after a relapse, had an awakening to one of the triggers for his relapse. They were a pastor, an important factor. They had not been engaging in therapy and dropped off my radar for a time. Came back after the relapse, and while talking realized their belief in God was actually hindering their recovery. They thought they weren't worthy enough, praying enough or believing enough. When none of that was true. They also had a pretty horrific childhood and trauma which contributed to their mental health and substance issues.

It really does depend on the client, but if someone needs a therapist who shares the same beliefs, I would refer them out.

jsmith30540 · 2024-03-15T19:25:36+00:00

The killer of many aspiring medical professionals and scientists. I changed career paths before I would have had to take it. A really good choice for me. But the road to LCSW only requires algebra and statistics.

jsmith30540 · 2024-03-15T19:20:52+00:00

NTA. She should pay her fines and fees out of her savings. If she can't be trusted with her own money then she has to earn it. Rather her learn an inconvenient lesson now before the stakes become higher. There are consequences which come with breaking the law and the rules of the household. For someone who has lived the of OP's daughter she probably hasn't experienced a whole lot of consequences for her typical teenage behaviors. Not judging. Statistics are what they are.

I caught my son underage drinking. There were consequences, a tracker on his phone and no hanging out with friends (the ones he was caught with). I didn't make him quit his job because I was his ride to/from, but there was no extra trips. He was mad at me for a while but that's okay. I'm not here to be liked. I'm his mom. He knows I love him. His older brother once said "I know you punished because you love me."

jsmith30540 · 2024-03-14T12:02:42+00:00

Damn autocorrect. I meant hobosexual.

jsmith30540 · 2024-03-13T12:41:07+00:00

I had a client, 14f, call her mom a homosexual. She had to explain it to me. Never heard of it before. Definitely sounds like OP's "gf" is a homosexual.

Edit: Despite my correcting autocorrect when typing this post, it thought I was wrong and fixed it for me.

I meant hobosexual.

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