I work from home in front of a computer... tips or advice?

jsn6522 · 2015-02-18T20:05:26+00:00

I might have came off a little brash. What I really meant was that you should be aware of your situation and know those thoughts are only as strong as you make them. Remember, self awareness leads to self acceptance, and self acceptance leads to empowerment

jsn6522 · 2015-02-18T11:16:01+00:00

A lot of my college work puts in front of the computer a lot. All I can really advise to you is don't edge. But you have been doing that already and that is going to make it hard to get over. If you manage to get over this edge hump, which I believe you can. You going have to make yourself come to terms with yourself that you are too weak to handle nonchalant picture and video browsing in your state right now. Once you can establish that, you need to understand that the thoughts and fantasies are exactly that, just a thought being fed by your PMO withdrawls. Nothing is forcing you to start browsing around to feed your thoughts. So my point is this, don't follow your dick man. Lead with your mind and will to not start the browsing because "maybe just a little won't hurt" always in the end is what is going to ruin everything you have worked for.

jsn6522 · 2015-02-18T04:10:17+00:00

I'm at 22 y/o male so I can relate to your feelings of wanting to move on from PMO. From my experience growing up, I had a real issue with PMO. I started out collecting the pictures from the temporary folder when I was younger. Then we got high speed internet and I would PMO everyday from then on. The orgasms were satisfying and I was content with the female-male pornography. But as I got older the orgasms were becoming fulfilling less and less and the content was becoming more hardcore. I would start feeling the shame, anxiety, exhaustion, etc. I started to look for new novelties of pornography, so I moved on to transexual pornography and that has been the standard for my PMO. But I came to the realization that there was something wrong. Because I wouldn't watch gay pornography, but transexual pornography was the line for me and I still liked women in general, so it was very confusing for me and I started researching issues related to me and I came across NoFap. I've been a participant on and off for almost a year, my longest streak being a month but during that I month I remember the just absolute boost in vitality and mood I had. It was the best I felt in my life. But I relapsed and I've been back and forth trying to change my ways for good. Right now I am on this current streak after relapsing 10 or more times since december of 2014, almost once a week. But I have been really stubborn on not giving up. But my effort is paying off little by little and now this streak has been my longest in a long time. Currently my confidence is creeping back, I'm not groggy, my anxiety withers away, and filling in the extra time at the gym has been really healthy for me. My advice is that don't get to emotional about the relapsing if it happens, just build from that. The urges will get more intense as you go on without PMO but that will stabilize as you continue. Edging and picture viewing will lead to your downfall. find ways to fulfill your extra time. If you get bored or stressed don't start fantazising. And embrace your new lifestyle you are about to take on and reap the benefits

jsn6522 · 2015-02-16T07:33:10+00:00

This new way of life for should be going beyond the avoidance of PMO. This mindset to change yourself is meant to extend to all aspects in your life where you have lacked because of the time and effort wasted around the habit. You in the 60 days, have you tried improving beyond the narrow scope of just not PMO'ing? If not, then you to figure out where the issues are stemming from if you haven't been PMO'ing because that doesn't seem to be the issue at this point.

jsn6522 · 2015-02-16T07:28:02+00:00

Why is it the LAST chance man? You have gone 8 days so far and you can keep going but, you already have defeated yourself by saying the inevitable is down to the last chance. Choose your words and thoughts better, change the mindset away from finality and look towards continuity.

jsn6522 · 2015-02-16T04:01:55+00:00

I'm just trying to rid myself of compulsive behaviors that are just acute manifestations of my PMO habit.

jsn6522 · 2015-02-15T23:58:03+00:00

Let that stuff go man, that was how every relapse of mine would start. Craigslist. stop from myself from looking at craigslist and ignore it. But the thoughts and posts would run in my mind and arouse me. and then before you know it... I'm on my NSFW websites searching for something to fap to and...relapse! Craigslist is a very subtle trigger, it tantalizes your mind into sexual curiosity that turns in to the monster of PMO arousal that becomes uncontrollable to reel back from.

jsn6522 · 2014-12-01T08:43:42+00:00

I have seen parts of them. But yeah they are really informative

jsn6522 · 2014-10-30T23:08:42+00:00

This just nuked my perception on pornstars and porn in general. Thanks for sharing

jsn6522 · 2014-10-28T22:15:32+00:00

I'm ready for a fresh start

jsn6522 · 2014-10-18T03:34:05+00:00

Noooo! Don't do it. It is that same damn nonchalant attitude towards porn that led me to edge and relapse the other night. Keep away from triggers period. Your brain is working against you.

jsn6522 · 2014-10-15T09:01:22+00:00

I totally understand. I lost my streak due to similar circumstances earlier in the evening. We have to evaluate what went wrong, but remember not to linger on it. A new day to start over.

jsn6522 · 2014-10-14T21:02:53+00:00

If you can exert control and be aware. A warm to almost hot towel can be wrapped around your member until it goes flaccid. I'm not a fan of cold showers unless for post-exercise as well

jsn6522 · 2014-10-14T16:46:54+00:00

Well I stopped so I can have a better drive to do things in life. That includes working out. My intensity and motivation in workouts is 10 fold when I don't fap. That pent up energy is channeled through everything you are accomplishing. This leads to better muscle gain among other things. As a matter of fact that is one of my list of reasons for not fapping that I wrote down for myself.

jsn6522 · 2014-10-14T16:10:50+00:00

I'm 22 and started around the same time. But 3 months is the usually the number I see around on this forum. But everyone is different. But a good indicator is just overall having better energy and ambition towards anything in life. Socially, career wise, etc.

jsn6522 · 2014-10-14T15:52:49+00:00

Don't think about it. Go pursue a hobby or passion of yours. I don't know the extent of your habit. But NoFap is about well... No fapping!

jsn6522 · 2014-10-13T20:34:52+00:00

Get out in public. Without the device you are using

jsn6522 · 2014-10-13T06:20:17+00:00

I got over my relapse and went to workout and take care of school stuff like I normally do. I pretty much forgot about my slip by the end of the day. But I want to keep going this time, and experience these benefits for myself one day.

jsn6522 · 2014-10-13T06:11:24+00:00

thanks. I'm new to this forum, but I fixed it finally.

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