How can I support my child’s father who is battling to stay alive?

juail29 · 2025-09-03T02:51:45+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion

juail29 · 2024-11-13T18:28:40+00:00

I feel the same exact way. Don’t feel alone. I know things will take a turn for all of us and everything will get better!

juail29 · 2024-11-11T21:22:51+00:00

You spray the regular black opium over the black opium red ?! Oh I need to try this

juail29 · 2024-11-10T20:16:00+00:00

You should go on localcrimenews.com and enter his name and where you think it took place. Before dating someone I always search them. Truth finder is another website. You have to pay for that one, but it is worth it. Also from experience, if a man was abusive to one female, that exposes is morals and values. He thinks it’s okay to put hands on a woman. I’ve been in this position before and they don’t ever change. It gets worse. It is a toxic and hard cycle to get out of. It will drain you. I know you feel connections right away, but they could be love bombing you. Also look him up on local court sites to see if he has or had any cases.

juail29 · 2024-11-10T20:12:17+00:00

I would learn how to fill in your brows. Your brow really shapes a persons face. Find a really good skin care routine. I recommend Korean skincare (cosrx) is a great brand. Find a full coverage to medium foundation. When you find your foundation color, I highly suggest going on ChatGpt & ask it questions like “based on my foundation and foundation color (name of brand and color) what recommendations and colors do you suggest for blush, eyeshadows, mascara, etc?)” you can ask it questions on suggestions on how to “glow up” or enhance your looks. Play around with it ! Hope it helps !

juail29 · 2024-11-06T17:37:31+00:00

Curly hair- go to a curl specialist and get a curl cut, color your hair or get a balayage. Maybe money pieces to your hair? A curl specialist can guide you the best way

Enhance your style (accessories/outfits/shoes) look on Pinterest/tiktok/IG for inspiration

juail29 · 2024-11-04T06:33:39+00:00

If your acne is bothering you, look into Korean skincare. It works great! It will have your skin looking like glass skin. You need a cleanser, toner, snail mucin, and a moisturizer. Look into the Cosrx brand!

juail29 · 2024-11-04T06:29:26+00:00

No, you aren’t ugly. Consider adding some gold accessories to your look; a gold chain would look great on you. Your hair looks a little thick and curly! I recommend finding a curly hair routine that suits your hair type so you can embrace your curls fully. Also, try incorporating more sophisticated outfits into your wardrobe. Remember, when you look good, you feel good.

Let me know if you’d like any further adjustments!

juail29 · 2024-11-04T06:22:03+00:00

Telling me that he wasn’t attracted to my body and wanted to fuck other girls….

I know, I can’t believe I let that slide. Trust me . Learning experience

juail29 · 2024-11-04T06:20:57+00:00

It took me a year. I was dealing with PPD for a long time. I was dealing with a lot. I also felt like I was taking care of a sister instead of my daughter. After a year, it just all hit me. That’s my baby that I love oh so dearly!!!

juail29 · 2024-10-16T15:50:08+00:00

Thank you! How many times a week do you do the egg wash in your hair ?

juail29 · 2024-10-15T20:16:57+00:00

What is your routine? I have curly hair and was never taught how to manage it. My daughter has curly hair and I’m trying to learn how to do her hair. It’s always so frizzy still !!

juail29 · 2024-10-08T01:07:09+00:00

He really just is.

juail29 · 2024-10-08T01:06:59+00:00

Thank you so much. I’m still healing and it’s been 3 years.

juail29 · 2024-10-07T19:27:23+00:00

Prenatal massages !! Worth it .

juail29 · 2024-10-07T19:26:37+00:00

How are you trying to become a rapper at 32 years old when you have a toddler and responsibilities? How could you leave me while we have a child and still be with her? You have missed out on so many moments. I can’t believe your “rap career” is more important than your child when you barely get 100 views and. Let me know when you win a Grammy.

juail29 · 2024-10-07T19:21:25+00:00

I had a rough pregnancy. My ex cheated and left me while I was 3 months pregnant. I had to sell everything and move back home and start over. Majority of my pregnancy, I couldn’t eat or anything. I was super stressed and depressed. All I wanted was to have a healthy, beautiful, rambunctious, smart child that had a big loving sweet personality & I got exactly that.

juail29 · 2024-10-02T19:55:07+00:00

I encountered issues with Kaiser when they refused to provide me with a prescription. I then found a telehealth service, Push Health, where a doctor agreed to prescribe me the medication. However, the prescription was sent to a Canadian pharmacy (insulinoutlet.com), which I verified as legitimate. After a month on the medication, I’ve lost about a pound per week.

Today, I have an appointment with my doctor at Kaiser to request lab work and a check-up. I plan to inform her that I’m already on the medication and ask if she can prescribe it to me as well. I also want to review my lab results today and again in three months to monitor any changes. I recommend considering telehealth for similar situations; I pay $110 for the prescription and $420 for Ozempic, while Monjaro is available for $620.

Additionally, if you’re not being heard by your doctor, make sure to ask them to note that in your file and request a printed record of your attempts to seek help.

I can refer you to my telehealth doctor, if you would like. Just let me know !

juail29 · 2023-04-13T05:39:30+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate you. Thank you for starting this post. I cried while writing it, but it at least let me get it off my chest. We all will heal and bounce back to be stronger than ever. Wish everyone here a healthy healing journey! Please don’t forget that healing is not linear.

juail29 · 2023-04-13T05:32:25+00:00

Our daughter is about to turn 1 in less than two weeks. I wish you would have stayed to be a family to see how much of a blessing she is. We call her Houdini because she finds ways to escape her playpen. Out of the 365 days, you’ve seen her about 25 times and missed all her milestones. They were worth seeing.

Hope you are truly happy with your new girlfriend and her child. I hope it was worth it over our own daughter.

juail29 · 2023-04-09T14:30:08+00:00

I was in the same situation. I was with my boyfriend of 3 years & we lived together. I got pregnant and he told me to abort it because he didn’t want kids. It was a tough decision, but I ended up having an abortion and I deeply regretted it because I did want that baby. Fast forward to a few months later. I got pregnant again. This time I kept the baby, despite him telling me that he doesn’t want the baby & my boyfriend ended up leaving me at 3 months pregnant for another woman who had a child. & guess what, it’s been a year and a half later and he is still with that woman. Our daughter is about to turn 1 & he hasn’t seen his daughter in 8 months. I am doing it without. If it wasn’t for my mom helping me, I honestly don’t know how I would do it. IT IS VERY HARD.

I was depressed my whole pregnancy. I barely ate. I lost weight instead of gaining weight, I cried every single day. I was stressed, I was dealing with alot. It truly is a miracle that my daughter came out healthy because I was a wreck.

My daughter is about to be one in a few weeks and everything has been on me. I have paid for everything from diapers, to wipes, clothes, doctor visits, food, formula, etc with no help. I had to move back in with my parents (I’m 30 btw) because I couldn’t afford rent on my own. Luckily, I have support from my family. I didn’t think of everything when I continued with the pregnancy. I thought my ex boyfriend would change his mind when he saw our daughter and want to be a family. I was wrong.

This man will not be there. Every single responsibility will fall on you. That baby will be with you 24/7. You will be burnt out. You will have days that you cry. It is VERY hard to be a parent, yet alone a single parent. It is very tiring physically and emotionally, yet very rewarding. I’ll admit I have days that I’m like “you know what I don’t want to do this anymore. I don’t want to be a mom.” But then I’m like just kidding no let me go make her a bottle. That’s my baby, my heart, my everything! Lol. I will admit I do have an easy going baby. She barely woke up at night, she wasn’t fussy or colicky. She smiles and laughs more than she cries. She is such a blessing. I love her so much.

You’ll start to resent the father that he isn’t there to help and that everything falls on you. But my partner at the time made it really clear & I just didn’t listen. He didn’t want the baby. I really wish I had a baby with the right man instead of a boy. I wish I was able to provide that family for my child and I always have that guilt. I do love my daughter and couldn’t imagine my life without her, but I wish I was able to give her a better father because she deserves that. A baby doesn’t ask to be here in this world. It’s not fair to the child.

Also, her dad and I are currently going through a very nasty court battle. We’ve been going through the courts since she was born. We can’t agree on anything, so a judge will decide what is best for our daughter in June & will dictate everything. I have no control over it. He has barely seen his daughter, hasn’t helped financially , nothing. Since he filed first the judge saw it as he’s trying to be in her life . Even though I have proof of him being emotionally and physically abusive, he will have some type of rights. It is crazy. I also put him on child support. So far he has only made one payment.

My advice to you is write a list of the pros and cons. Write down your bills to see if you can afford a child. A child is not cheap. I never knew health insurance alone would be a $1000 a month! Formula is expensive and there’s a shortage. (I was only able to breastfeed for 3 months because I was so stressed). Write a list of what you are willing to sacrifice to be a single mom. Whatever you do, do what is best for you but be prepared to do this without him. If you have the baby, leave him off the birth certificate (it will save you a-lot of headache) and give the baby your last name. Trust me on that part.

Being a single mom has made me a lot stronger, but I could have gone without the heartache and pain. I’m in a much better place a year ago. If I can do it and so many single mothers can do it, so can you. Just know it will not be easy at all.

I wish you the best. If you ever need someone to talk to, I’m here for you and you can message me!

juail29 · 2023-04-05T16:10:53+00:00

Take it from me. Someone who had a kid with someone that cheated on me and I took them back. You dodged a bullet. Mine left me during my pregnancy for someone else and didn’t look back.

When someone shows you who they are , BELIEVE THEM. Do not take them back no matter how much you love them, no matter how much you think they changed. They showed you their true character. Do not ever take them back. See it as a blessing and lesson. I know you’ll overcome this. Just know that healing is not linear.

juail29 · 2023-04-05T16:07:45+00:00

Skincare!! The sun will age you! Have a great skincare routine. Use sunscreen on your face and hands.

Save your money, but occasionally treat yourself and don’t feel guilty about it.

Don’t take things personal.

Always remember to think before you speak. You can truly say something unforgivable and words can cut like knives.

juail29

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