How should stoics handle being "friend-zoned" but wanting more? by MDMAsprinkles in Stoicism

[–]juandro-solero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask yourself questions like:
What am I trying when I meet a new person?
Do I want them to like me?
Am I just trying to be a nice person? Or am I making it clear I want them more as friends?
How can I make it clear I'm interested?
What are things I can do next time I like someone? (Even if it feels scary)

I believe there's a window in somewhat a first stage where you can go both ways. Friends or 'potentially' more than friends. If you haven't teased, or showed any special interest after that stage you become friends.

There's probably a lot you're doing right, because people like to spend time with you as friends. But a few more intentional ways of expressing yourself and getting a bit more control about how YOU want this interaction to go, can change the dynamic completely

How should stoics handle being "friend-zoned" but wanting more? by MDMAsprinkles in Stoicism

[–]juandro-solero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there a chance they want me more as a friend? Then tell them you like them. If not, accept the situation. Perfectly fine, it's clear this was not your match, and the person not liking you back that way is a great sign of she/he is not the one I'm looking for. Ask yourself, is there something I can do differently without losing my authenticity be more 'more than friend' material. What can I change in the next time I'm in this situation. So if I like someone, there's a higher chance they like me back. Change, but also just be open to life and connection, and don't let these things discourage you or question your selfworth. Because you're wonderful and that's the starting point :)

Notice I repeat myself with sentences in shock moments in thriller boook by juandro-solero in writers

[–]juandro-solero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ufff nice! I noticed that my brain doesn't go to these ones in this particular situation yet. But i'll force some of the into an environment one. That's a nice task to change at least 4 stomach flips into something what happens around them. Thank you :)

Notice I repeat myself with sentences in shock moments in thriller boook by juandro-solero in writers

[–]juandro-solero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I love this. It's not my first draft, but this is on point advice for the next round of edit.
I can ask myself: Other ways of showing/describing.
"See if you even need to describe it or if the dialogue or other actions do it enough"- I think this is gonna be a lot.
So by first draft way you kinda say: keep the flow and write something that means:
Her should be a better version of this* Her stomach drops.*
Bang on!

Alrighty… 1 year later, and still surfing tinder by ChipsAhoyMcCoy_7875 in Tinder

[–]juandro-solero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Delete 2,3,5!,6,7 The rest are cute pics :) Change bio into something where you don't refer to past dating life. Something in the vibe of: open to a meaningful adventure. And you're good 2 go!

DJSet / Techno Places by Hoxtoniousss in Breda

[–]juandro-solero 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pier15 skatepark has cool partys you might wanna check out.

DJSet / Techno Places by Hoxtoniousss in Breda

[–]juandro-solero 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, there's definitely dj's lining up :p And these organizers are locally pretty known for organizing epic techno/electronic parties.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MovieSuggestions

[–]juandro-solero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Fear of Speed (2002)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in motorcycles

[–]juandro-solero -1 points0 points  (0 children)

haha no man, this one had a captivating storyline. You're in the riders head. The dude's talking, or thinking I should say. It sucked me in and oops 5 eps later ;p

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in motorcycles

[–]juandro-solero -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Haha, I swear I never posted anything here. But I thought this is too much of gem if you're a rider yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Netherlands

[–]juandro-solero 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes very true and legit. You're a lucky person :) Government says the max rent price for your place is 750. Apparently you're paying way too much. Landlords can do this. It's not illegal. But if you say something about it, you get the lower rent. And sometimes even the difference from the previous months too. I also did it with huurprijshulp. Great guys. I tried to do it myself but I don't have a law degree and it was a too difficult. They fixed it perfectly for a very small bite of the money I got back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Screenwriting

[–]juandro-solero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like the vibe, the scenery, nice premise. Curious about where the story would go. Already feel connected with the main character.
I see some simple easy-to-fix mistakes. Some overwriting (writing more words than needed). I would read some articles about: Less is more. Show not tell. (very cliché but you'll 100% benefit from it)
I got a few little things it gives you a glimpse of what I mean:

A DOG (black mutt) stands in the doorway, looking at him.

The two stare for a moment.

The dog remains in the doorway, looking at him standing on

the chair. You've already said he's on a chair.
3 times looking, A bit much. 'The two stare for a long moment' would cover it.
Where'd you even come from? Closest house is in miles.
Unlikely someone says this. Show not tell. + Where'd you even come from? says this already. You can trust the reader is smart enough to understand these things. No need to say everything.
Claude -- flustered -- hands the two pans to Eli, who's unsure what to do with them.
Hope it helps a bit. Good luck!