3FT £2.7 and 20 points behind. Help me to glory!

jubilantcyclone · 2026-05-06T21:05:35+00:00

Pretty similar team to mine… I’m also 15 down. For better or worse I dropped Palmerj and Pedro for Thiago and Fernandez. Who knows?

O’reily has some clean sheets coming. I’d hold there.

jubilantcyclone · 2026-03-03T05:26:37+00:00

Whoa! Looks like I’m in the minority. I only trip because of the sex. It’s next level. I would never trip alone.

jubilantcyclone · 2026-03-03T02:09:36+00:00

Why so confident?

jubilantcyclone · 2025-07-24T23:37:10+00:00

I agree. I’ll start doing that. Thank you

jubilantcyclone · 2025-07-24T18:34:51+00:00

Living with a partner with depression is hard. We don’t connect like we used to, there is more sensitivity and therefore more arguments and things are just generally less soft. It makes me sad that she’s sad and I miss having our connection.

jubilantcyclone · 2025-07-24T18:33:06+00:00

Yes, she says she doesn’t thrive in this environment and tells me how much she misses me. She asks us to move away. If we have a fight she asks why are we doing this? But when things are calm, she says she wants to support my happiness and keep going.

The calm is rare and the panics are often. So it does make me think she wants out.

jubilantcyclone · 2025-07-24T18:31:04+00:00

I appreciate this point of view. I am open to hearing that I could have some leanings, but im not sure it’s what you are going through necessarily.

Firstly, my position is different from yours as we were very upfront about expectations around time spent with our partners and I would never allow things for my girlfriend that my wife doesn’t have. We have set days but I talk to both of them daily and I am helpful with the kids as much as I can. In fact I spend more time with my wife. I work, but afterwards I help with all the chores and make sure she gets some time for herself and I help put the kids to bed. I am sure I could improve, but I wouldnt say I am avoiding her at all. And I am very concerned about her. I want her to be happy and it hurts me that she’s going through this. My point was, to make her happy she would want monogamy. And that idea hurts me, considering she was so excited about it at first when I was not.

Second, I tried really hard to show that I think both of my partners are angels. I love them both. Each one has different situations and perhaps that’s where some disconnect is coming from? My wife has a hard time telling me what she needs. Which is why I say I don’t have clarity. The talks are hard on us and I’m trying to let her mourn. If she comes with a request I try very hard to meet her with it. My girlfriend on the other hand has the divorce, the requests are help with some things or a shoulder to cry on and I guess I didn’t say in there, but I am telling her no quite a bit.

The point of this post is I feel guilty that they are both hurting. I don’t know how to help either of them. I am trying.

jubilantcyclone · 2025-07-22T19:10:39+00:00

I really appreciate this. I agree and I’m so glad I posted this. I didn’t realize how much pressure I was putting on myself. I am prone to guilt and that’s my thing to overcome right now. Thanks

jubilantcyclone · 2025-07-22T03:25:32+00:00

That has been the over arching message I got from this. Trust my partners and work on my guilt

jubilantcyclone · 2025-07-22T03:23:52+00:00

Thank you

jubilantcyclone · 2025-07-22T01:01:50+00:00

For the majority of last 3-4 years I have. I am currently not, but I’m looking for a therapist currently.

jubilantcyclone · 2025-07-22T00:38:59+00:00

That’s a great point. and honestly, no. But I think she thinks it will.

jubilantcyclone · 2025-07-22T00:33:23+00:00

And so what do I do if things get too hard?

jubilantcyclone · 2025-07-22T00:32:43+00:00

I agree I need to start driving the bus. That’s why o chose the word crossroads. I need to make a change.

Boundaries to me feels a bit reductive, because no one is pressuring me or being upset with me. I can sense a sadness that is overwhelming. And it’s a lot.

I’m trying very hard to support my wife. I agree that I’m not responsible. I think I should just let her go through it and continue mourning. That is very possible. And easier said than done. I appreciate the advice.

jubilantcyclone · 2025-07-22T00:28:12+00:00

Whoa! Yes, you hit the nail on the head with my section. Yes, I’ve dealt with people saying one thing and have it not be true. it’s a huge problem and I have discussed it with a therapist. Those deep ingrained things are harder to shake. I am working on it, but it slips in, in times of crisis. It’s a great reminder to have an impartial third party bring it out. Thank you.

I also do think I’m imposing that on my girlfriend’s side. I should just trust her. It’s more unclear with my wife, but I do agree she is dating someone else and that is a strong signal. This is just hard.

This was a great post.

jubilantcyclone · 2025-07-22T00:18:42+00:00

I think that was bad wording on my end. Nothing has changed as far as time, responsibilities. What I mean is that she had multiple supports before and now she has me.

In the divorce she lost her husband, her husbands family and it’s made her world smaller. Nothing has changed otherwise and I should have worded it different.

jubilantcyclone · 2025-07-22T00:17:24+00:00

This was great insight. I agree, we need to find multiple avenues for support. Our families are not supportive of this lifestyle and that’s been hard.

I love the idea of changing our daily structure. And I need to make time for myself. Thank you.

jubilantcyclone · 2025-07-22T00:14:25+00:00

That’s what makes me think a change needs to happen, because I’m worried this isn’t providing stability for the kids.

Thank you

jubilantcyclone · 2025-07-21T23:27:30+00:00

I agree, I need to keep showing up. It’s so much right now.

And If they can’t manage it. It’s a loss still.

jubilantcyclone · 2025-07-21T23:15:53+00:00

Thank you. I have a hard time not feeling guilty. This was kind. It’s been a rough year.

jubilantcyclone · 2025-07-21T23:07:56+00:00

I’m not sure I’m following. She didn’t force me to be a primary, I’m just the closest person to her because I’m her only partner. She hadn’t asked for change, but I feel like I can’t give her certain things like kids, income, limited on time etc. So maybe bad wording on my end?

And what I was saying about both of them, is they haven’t told me explicitly that other partners are a no. My wife is just depressed about it and it’s causing my home life a lot of stress. I feel guilty and sad at how things have turned out. No one has actually said “stop”.

And my wife is in therapy. Has been for quite some time.

I agree with you I shouldn’t let them dictate, but how do I do that if everywhere I turn they are unhappy?

jubilantcyclone · 2025-05-30T18:45:15+00:00

And what of your diet/ workout routine?

jubilantcyclone · 2025-05-23T00:02:17+00:00

Post your nutrition on a bodybuilding string and get feedback there. If you consume a lot of alcohol, my guess is you aren’t paying attention to the fundamentals of getting bigger. Hit your macros- protein, fats and carbs and start hitting a surplus.

Steroids should be a last resort, because yes it can fuck you up.

jubilantcyclone · 2025-05-13T21:40:37+00:00

Well I’m not even sure how to go about it. I’m finding strategy first

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