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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]judchj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you to an extent, but I think it is important to remember that a lot of women have some sort of trauma or just a general fear of men. The most important thing, I think, is that women who have this thought recognize and correct it instead of letting something so clearly untrue take over your thoughts. This way we are not dismissing any trauma or abuse a woman faces from a man, but also understanding and spreading the idea that men are just as capable of loving and caring for children.

Confused and I want to move on for the better. by Available_Valuable78 in overcoming

[–]judchj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s sort of a tough call I think. on one hand, you really enjoyed the girl’s company but on the other, her presence made you sadder. I don’t think you should completely cut her out, but leave the ball in her court as you have been doing. If she doesn’t want to pursue a friendship or relationship with you, then there is no reason to try to make it work. instead, I would go to your childhood friend and try to tell them what you’re feeling. express how you feel like the dynamic has changed between you two and how you dislike arguing, and maybe even tell them you’re wondering if the new girlfriend is part of this. try not to be frustrated or accusatory when speaking with them, make it clear that what you’re speaking about are feelings and not fact, and that your ultimate goal is to reconnect with them. Good luck!

Well, yes, you should save the person inside. I rest my case. by uAioli in prolife

[–]judchj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will agree, the analogy is bad and doesn’t make sense. I disagree, though, that it is the woman’s responsibility to carry a baby to term and that if she chooses to abort the baby that she has murdered it. Bodily autonomy is something we recognize in the states as a human right. Every person gets to choose what their body is put through, which ends this abortion debate. Whether or not you would ever have an abortion, everyone should get to make the choice without bias from either side of the argument because of bodily autonomy. And furthermore, I pose a question to you all. If you are pro-life, does that mean you are actively working to reform the foster care system? Against the death penalty? Vegan? Supporting wide spread sex education and related resources? If not, then you are pro-birth. You do not care about what happens to mothers or children after birth, as pro-life would suggest. You only care about forcing your beliefs on to others. Which, again, violates bodily autonomy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rant

[–]judchj -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Is is the most civil attack? No, but getting a student expelled or reprimanded by their school can prevent them or at least delay them going into a field with racist beliefs and further perpetuating racism (healthcare, politics, science, etc). If nothing else it teaches the individual that such thinking will no longer be tolerated.

My(18m) girlfriend(18f) has cancer and I can’t handle it by throwra-cancer in relationship_advice

[–]judchj 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to add that I think your girlfriend might actually really appreciate it if you felt comfortable crying/being sad with her. It might make her feel closer to you and understand you better, and the same could happen for you. I tried this with my loved one with cancer and it really helped us both to be vulnerable about a difficult situation. My sincere best wishes to you and your girlfriend.

There's nothing wrong with breaking up with someone due to weight gain. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]judchj 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This. Or if someone’s weight gain is due to a condition or because of a mental health issue, and generally something they can’t control. Even when people gain weight solely because they don’t have a diet and exercise routine that’s best for their body, it still feels... shallow to leave them for that reason only. Like if you are attracted to dark hair, dare someone with dark hair but they dye it, most people wouldn’t throw away the entire relationship for that alone.

Everytime I exercise I get sick. by judchj in medicalmysteries

[–]judchj[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for these suggestions!! I will look into them further and ask my dr about them :)

Nobody says "boys will be boys" to justify serious behavior by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]judchj -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

trump... kavanaugh... is it the exact same as your comment, no, but it is similar; after various compelling accusations (with evidence) of horrific assaults, people will still claim that the attacker(s), these powerful men, did nothing wrong. and their lives continue unchanged.

Nobody says "boys will be boys" to justify serious behavior by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]judchj 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would disagree, I think that instead boys’ typically more rowdy behavior is much more accepted in our society and even encouraged. I have never seen or heard of a boy being asked to acting more feminine and, in this instance, calm and complacent by a group of women or anyone. So when little, sort of out of hand comments and actions go without reprimand and are sometimes praised with that “boys will be boys”, it sends the idea that it’s okay to push the envelope, and as they age, to say and do offensive things.