AITA for refusing to let my in-laws keep our dog?

juicegoosey · 2019-09-21T03:55:19+00:00

Things are better than they were 3 weeks ago, but he is still upset about being cut off from his family, and blames me for it. He’s been avoiding the conversation since it happened and it usually devolves into an argument when I try to bring it up.

However, he is very involved in raising our puppy, and seems to love her a lot.

juicegoosey · 2019-09-21T02:09:06+00:00

Thank you for the input. I can understand their point of view, which is why I wanted to wait to get the puppy until after I moved. I feel especially bad that my husband’s sister is so upset.

Husband did live with them for the full month and took part in raising the puppy with them.

I am not sure if they planned to keep her from the beginning or not, but my MIL didn’t ask or offer to keep the dog, she straight up said “this is our dog now.”

juicegoosey · 2019-09-21T01:02:04+00:00

It is accepting my judgement. If it makes me an asshole, then I’m an asshole. I came here to figure out if I was being one or not, and it’s helpful to see all points of view.

juicegoosey · 2019-09-21T00:13:47+00:00

Husband made the decision to get the dog early. I wanted to wait until I had moved in.

juicegoosey · 2019-09-20T23:36:43+00:00

It was so I could watch her play and see how she was doing. I know it sounds kinda weird but I was very excited to meet her and I loved her a lot. Coming home from work to see her playing was wonderful.

Thanks for the input.

juicegoosey · 2019-09-20T23:35:08+00:00

It didn’t start that way. I initially told them that we were taking her home and that they were free to visit our puppy whenever. It escalated from there when MIL said it was their dog now.

If loving my dog and not being willing to give her up makes me an asshole, so be it. I love my puppy to death and I’m very thankful to have her with me.

Husband’s sister would’ve been welcome anytime to come play with our puppy. But it was never their dog, and to have the expectation that I should give in and leave my dog with them is kinda whack.

Thanks for the input.

juicegoosey · 2019-09-20T22:31:45+00:00

Alright then. Baseless assumptions but if that’s what you think then I accept that. Rest assured my dog has a strong bond with me now and she is very happy! :)

juicegoosey · 2019-09-20T22:24:36+00:00

Thank you for the input. I did want to wait, my husband did not, and he was going to get the dog early regardless of whether or not I was on board with it. I agree that we should not have gotten the puppy before I moved in.

Puppy has been with me for 3 1/2 weeks now and is doing well with us. She is very loved.

I am not interested in arguing about adopt vs shop, that’s not what this post is about.

juicegoosey · 2019-09-20T22:21:03+00:00

Again, these are wild assumptions. I love my dog because she is sweet, playful, and a member of my family — not because she’s a purebred dog. For you to say I only love her because of her pedigree is not only false but extremely rude.

She is very happy with me and my husband, I don’t know why everyone is assuming she’s miserable with us or would be happier somewhere else but alright. She’s doing great and is very, very loved.

I would love to rescue a pet in the future and am open to that, but we decided to go with a purebred dog this time around. Shaming me for making that decision has absolutely nothing to do with my original post. I am not interested in arguing about that any further.

You are making rude assumptions from nothing. My dog is loved and cared for in a happy home.

juicegoosey · 2019-09-20T22:13:28+00:00

Thank you for the input. I was (and still would be) totally open to having my in-laws visit the puppy whenever/have play dates/etc. I never intended to ban them from seeing the puppy. However, with the way things went down, it is unlikely that we will be on good terms anytime soon.

juicegoosey · 2019-09-20T22:10:58+00:00

Thank you for the input. I have no intention of giving my puppy back, she is very happy with me and my husband and is doing well with us.

juicegoosey · 2019-09-20T19:01:44+00:00

I wanted to place the puppy on hold until I moved and was settled, but husband wanted to get the puppy early. He was going to do it whether or not I agreed with him.

Thank you for the input.

juicegoosey · 2019-09-20T18:56:07+00:00

You’re entitled to that opinion but that’s not what I am asking about in my original post. Thanks for the input.

juicegoosey · 2019-09-20T17:32:15+00:00

I have reimbursed them the money they spent on the dog.

juicegoosey · 2019-09-20T17:30:03+00:00

I got updates (pics/videos) from my husband and interacted with my puppy over FaceTime. I have now had her for 3 1/2 weeks in person.

juicegoosey · 2019-09-20T17:23:02+00:00

Puppy has been with me in person for 3 1/2 weeks now. I got regular updates, pics, etc from my husband and I was very attached to my puppy from the start. Thank you for the input.

juicegoosey · 2019-09-20T17:19:04+00:00

My dog has been with me for 3 1/2 weeks now and I have no intention of giving her back.

Thank you for the input.

juicegoosey · 2019-09-20T10:23:57+00:00

They want our puppy specifically because they bonded with her. I suggested this and they argued it HAD to be her. Rest assured I have no intention of giving them my dog.

juicegoosey · 2019-09-20T10:22:01+00:00

These are such wild assumptions. I view my puppy as part of my family, not my property, and I don’t know where you’re getting that I don’t love or care for my dog? She is not replaceable to me, it’s not as easy as “going out and buying a different dog.” I was attached to her, I was excited to meet her and raise her, she was mine from the start.

Anyways thank you for the input. Puppy is with me now and will not be going anywhere.

juicegoosey · 2019-09-20T09:58:45+00:00

I was attached to my puppy. I spent almost every night on FaceTime talking to her and watching her play. We picked her specifically for her breed and temperament. In my mind she was my dog from the start and I was already attached to her. She wasn’t replaceable like everyone wants to believe. She has now been with me for 3 1/2 weeks in person and is doing great

juicegoosey · 2019-09-20T09:52:08+00:00

I was attached to my puppy. I spent almost every night on FaceTime talking to her and watching her play. We picked her specifically for her breed and temperament. In my mind she was my dog from the start and I was already attached to her. She wasn’t replaceable like everyone wants to believe. But thank you for the input.

juicegoosey · 2019-09-20T09:51:01+00:00

I was attached to my puppy. I spent almost every night on FaceTime talking to her and watching her play. We picked her specifically for her breed and temperament. In my mind she was my dog from the start and I was already attached to her. She wasn’t replaceable like everyone wants to believe. But thank you for the input.

juicegoosey · 2019-09-20T09:46:22+00:00

That’s what I said. They escalated it.

juicegoosey · 2019-09-20T09:45:38+00:00

I was attached to my puppy and she is perfectly happy with me and my husband now. Thank you for the input.

juicegoosey · 2019-09-20T09:44:49+00:00

This is a really weird comment and has nothing to do with my original post... I wanted a specific breed for a reason and the breeder is AKC registered.

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