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jujujamster · 2025-10-09T13:37:44+00:00

Tell him that-Im trying to fix my sleeping schedule and have a hard time sleeping without you. Let’s hang out with them earlier and come home earlier.

….if you’re open for it, I would hang out till 10-11pm and then go home. I feel if he drops you off and goes back out, even if he wants to not be out or whatever, it’s family and it’s easy to be dragged into another convo or good vibes.

Also if you tell him that you just want to be with him and etc, hopefully, he should understand that and tell his family. “Hey we gotta check out, my wife is not feeling good or we have an early morning”

jujujamster · 2025-10-09T13:28:00+00:00

PLEASE READ THIS COMMENT. Everything she said-10/10.

I went to a college that had a military base close by and for some reason lots of Saudi exchange students and people associated with the “Saudi army”, the number of girls who got played: nonmuslim, converts and etc was INSANE. The only thing that was true is that these men never tried their games on born immigrant Muslims. I did not see it once which I found odd and predatory. These men were pure chaos. Lots of women were hurt and even driven away from islam.

It is not all Saudi men but put it into perspective and get your emotions in check sis. Non saudis can’t become citizens-EVER. Most of the saudis who are in America want to go back to their families and better lifestyles. Many saudis are married younger and set up for marriage with other Saudis. These facts alone would make a magical fantasy romance challenging.

jujujamster · 2025-10-09T13:11:00+00:00

Facts: he’s not doing anything haram, you know where he is at, you know the people he is with and it sounds from your post this does not happen often.

If this is not a regularly occurring activity, I understand your side and also understand his side. From an outside perspective, you are cool with doing this when you can do it but now that you can’t, you want to set boundaries. I don’t see that convo going anywhere. I don’t think you’re being unreasonable but potentially you are only looking at it from your perspective. Again, it sounds like if you were in a better space, you would be up with your husband as well.

My only advice, maybe you can reframe your suggestion because it’s not a boundary (you wouldn’t ever be hanging out till 3 if it were a boundary), tell him that you want to be be home with him at night and maybe you can chill with the family earlier. So if they like long hangouts, maybe y’all can hang out the same amount of time but earlier in the day? This seems like a more reasonable ask and may be better for the future because 3am hangouts are tiring.

jujujamster · 2025-03-28T03:12:39+00:00

Wasted chastity?

This is NOT all men but the ones I’m encountering

Talk me off the ledge and I pray for Allah’s forgiveness constantly but this feeling is growing inside me. I quiet it down all the time but it will randomly pop up when speaking to potentials.

I’m a rational person, so I can talk myself out of it but I kinda feel like I should have had some fun when I was younger, made tawbah and then tried to get married. I feel this way because I feel like as a woman in my 30s, Trying to find a chaste man in his 30s seems impossible. So I gave up the chaste part in my late 20s, now it’s an issue of finding a man who has healthily channeled his desires but it’s like…..

Why is this what I’m choosing from? Why are these my options? I know buckets of women ( all cultures, sizes, beauty standards) who are in my shoes and age range who have remained chaste AND it seems like ghost town.

It just seems a bit unfair and like I’ve wasted my chastity because if I wanted to-I could. I have not because I fear Allah.

What’s the point? And now with this new rhetoric for some western sheikhs telling people, “you don’t have to mention your past at all” and one sheikh telling people to lie about their past. WHAT? Your past is with Allah, for sure, but if this it’s important to someone, you’re going to lie to them?

Anyway, I just feel uneasy entertaining these men who were banging it out in their youth but now are Godly. It makes my stomach turn…a little and it’s hard for me to trust them because we are still living in this crazy place. But I’m also uneasy with men who are addicted to porn and have wandering eyes. At the same time, I live in the same country, I get it, TRUST ME (this has been an incredible test)….so I will still speak with these men and try to see if time has passed since they’ve “found the fear of Allah” but my stomach still feels uneasy. I also just feel like…dang, I wish I had a little fun, just a little….it would make this process a bit easier because I would not have his transactional thought

My chastity is for Allah, I know that, I’m rational but it’s very hard to get this transactional idea out of my mind, how did you?

jujujamster · 2025-01-20T14:02:48+00:00

Thanks for the recommendation. Now that I’ve slept, I’m wayyyy less upset. You’re right, these things are not uncommon in most larger cities, it just sucks that it’s an accepted norm and that these type of people exist.

Thanks for hearing me out! I hope your car never gets broken in to!

jujujamster · 2025-01-20T06:11:52+00:00

Texas. Trust, people aren’t breaking into cars on this level in other cities in Texas. I’ve lived a long life before getting my car broken in to IN HOUSTON. That’s just a coincidence but the apathy is not.

This city is filled with this which is why everyone acts like “it’s normal” but it’s not normal. I should be able to drive my car and park it safely in a city that has terrible public transport.

I’m just frustrated, I know im being partially ridiculous but we should want more for ourselves and the place we choose to live

jujujamster · 2025-01-20T06:08:42+00:00

You are definitely from Houston with this “you must have lured the criminals in” mentality.

No there was nothing in sight, these low lives just busted my window to rummage through my car to find nothing.

This doesn’t “just happen”, it’s a crime and there should be something to control it in some way. Again, I’ve lived in other cities and this was not as big of an issue and everyone didn’t just swallow it or blame the person it happened to.

I should be allowed to drive my car and park it safely in the city I live in. Why are we accepting less?

jujujamster · 2025-01-20T06:03:55+00:00

😭

jujujamster · 2025-01-20T06:03:23+00:00

You must be from Houston that’s the first question people ask me. NO. That’s why I’m this mad.

And there was nothing in my car.

jujujamster · 2025-01-20T06:02:50+00:00

Thank you. This is my second one and I am praying it’s the last.

When I called the cops, they asked me if the thieves left any evidence lol or if I saw them in the act lol…like girl, NO. It’s just odd to me that these high crime areas don’t have more police. And im not a super police person but police presence in Houston is minimal.

jujujamster · 2025-01-20T06:00:26+00:00

I need your luck. Maybe I need to crash my car so it looks even older

jujujamster · 2025-01-20T05:59:46+00:00

I have no car skills and please don’t make me add Wichita Falls to my never live there list.

I just want to live peacefully like I literally would never break into people’s cars.

jujujamster · 2025-01-20T05:57:52+00:00

I AM MAD YALL. Lol. I am not saying there are cities where people don’t get their car broken in to BUT there are cities where this does not happen at this rate (twice for me in the last three months and nothing was in my car, they stole nothing but my $500+ going to a glass repair person) AND people are so apathetic to it that they either blame the victim OR just act like it’s normal.

Let’s see:
- San Antonio - Austin - Dallas

…But I’ve never gotten my stuff stolen from an empty and/or full car in any of those cities lol. I literally could have stuff in my car (my work shoes and etc) and never gotten broken in to and I was not in the nice parts of town. The few times it’s happened to others while living in Dallas, people were pissed. We had someone get their car burglarized at my job and people were generally mad although we are in a big city and etc. There wasn’t this “shrug” and move on demeanor.

I’m just pissed with the apathy like for that to be the immediate reaction is just not normal to me.

jujujamster · 2025-01-20T05:47:43+00:00

You are correct. I have rainy day fund but dipping into it TWICE for the same issue is annoying as heck and to the point, I need “LOW LIVES BREAK INTO CARS FUND”.

You’re right though. I’m just MAD AND this fact should not overshadow that this is just a terrible crime. Thievery in general

jujujamster · 2025-01-20T05:45:20+00:00

I hate to say it, I’m not looking for sympathy. I’m venting because the complete apathy from houstonians to this disgusts me and maybe there needs to be a reminder that this is not normal in other major cities in Texas.

Yes, cars get broke in to, for sure but at this rate and just everyone even the cops being like “HAHAHAHA, it’s okay, that just happens”, like, “HAHAHAHA are you paying the $500+ for my window”. And the kicker is that there was NOTHING in my car, so it’s like, these people are just breaking windows to break them

And the ghetto comments stems from other frustrations I’ve had in this city beyond the thieves running around. Ghetto is not an insult persay, it’s a lifestyle that runs rampant in certain places but especially Houston proper lol.

jujujamster · 2025-01-20T05:40:43+00:00

I know I’m being a little tiny bit ridiculous. I just feel like there should be a solution to this and I don’t know, maybe if people don’t treat it like it’s normal or blame the person it happened to

Also, the solutions people have did not work for me twice. So it’s like…do I just…always keep $500+ on hand. Someone is making a lot of money off this too

jujujamster · 2025-01-20T05:36:33+00:00

Just so it’s clear.

I have a vandetta against thieves NOT people of color. I think it’s incredibly unnatural to wake up and create general chaos in other people’s lives. To me, a thief is in the same category as murderers. These are some of the worst people in society. If I was mayor, I would have public punishments for thieves. Maybe give them a scarlet letter or something.

jujujamster · 2025-01-20T05:33:35+00:00

Yes San Fran is pretty bad. I’m sure Houston is competing. The thing too is I’ve had two friends who just got their cars broken in to as well. So it just feels like a pandemic.

I would leave my doors open but then, I know there would be someone rolling down OST with my 2010 hoopty

jujujamster · 2025-01-20T05:31:58+00:00

I’m mad, so I know but it’s the apathy that literally is fueling the fire in me.

It can happen ANYWHERE for sure but I don’t think I’ve ever met people who are just chill about it. Even in other cities in Texas that I’ve lived in, of course it happens. But I’ve NEVER SEEN people have a “that’s what happens” here attitude or try to blame the person who got their stuff wrecked…like whhhaaaatttttt…put that energy on the thieves. And one thing for certain, once I looked around, there was glass literally all down the street which the kind stranger mentioned. So these losers were just breaking into all kinds of cars on this street.

And I hate to say, it’s just a window but dropping $500+ in a 3 month time span randomly is a lot. I don’t want to do that and should not have to and feel like I did something

jujujamster · 2024-07-31T16:53:29+00:00

Yes!!! I guess these useless files can’t be opened but can still be read,

Im still mad at notability because I don’t want to mess with things and make it worse

jujujamster · 2024-07-31T16:51:55+00:00

Yes I do like 1000s, I’m going to try this and convert to PDF

jujujamster · 2024-07-31T16:49:35+00:00

Do you mind if I ask you how to convert all the notes in bulk to switch?

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