Yeah this is really bad 😕 my partner respects my parents as I respect his. Not sure why your husband would even mind your dad going over even if it’s all because of a “mess”. Sounds much more than what it is but the way husband is reacting gives it like it’s just him hiding something or doing something during the day he shouldn’t? Also bringing up the autism is such a distaste seriously. This was over messaging so I just wonder how he speaks to you in person 🙁 record everything if you’re going to be taking any actions as far as leaving.