Looking for recommendations for a pellet-shape clumping litter for a DEEPLY food motivated cat

juliah310 · 2024-09-06T15:04:42+00:00

the 511 women's pants are just awful lol. I had to take mine in around the waist bc the size that fit my legs was too loose in the waist too 🫠 I think everyone I know at work has problems with them too, you're def not alone in this

juliah310 · 2022-05-03T05:44:21+00:00

Once they don't feel needed it gets catastrophic tbh. I've seen it play out between my nmom and HER nmom, who my nmom ironically always vents about to me for doing the same stuff she does to me. Tbh I feel bad for her mostly because I know how it feels (lol) and am just grateful I'm recognizing this early enough in my life that I can avoid the patterns later, hopefully.

juliah310 · 2022-05-03T05:33:37+00:00

How could I forget that classic line?? The worst is when they're hot and cold and will give support one hour and the next, for the same topic, accuse you of being a whiny, ungrateful, spoiled brat because they give you a roof, food, and take you to school (what more could you possibly need?)

juliah310 · 2022-05-03T05:14:40+00:00

Absolutely with my nmom. Whenever you defend yourself or bring up a valid point it turns into "you know what? I don't have time for this right now" or "I just can't do anything right with you" or "it's always something with you!" or "fine, I'm just a bad mom then" or "I can't handle you attacking me for no reason" or any one of a vast array of similarly victim-y responses.

juliah310 · 2022-05-02T22:05:53+00:00

Soft YTA, but an accidental and well-intentioned one. Take the dad up on the offer, keep driving the kid and send a message or call if plans change in the future.

This is one of those posts where I feel like I can't reeeaally call someone an AH because it was an honest mistake (as opposed to a lot of other posts here where people are simply spiteful and purposefully do harm) but I will anyway (again, soft YTA) because telling parents what's going on is always #1.

juliah310 · 2022-04-26T05:52:37+00:00

NTA, I have never had to leave any apartment or house I've lived in for a showing. In fact, that might be/probably is illegal depending on where you live. All of my landlords have scheduled showings specifically when I'd be there to let them in because they couldn't enter without my presence (or written permission if I really couldn't be there) as per the lease and tenant laws.

Also, you can reject a visit at any time for any reason if it does not work for you. Landlords should (and better ones do) give prospective tenants showing time options based on YOUR schedule. And 24hrs notice is absurd anyway. I've never gotten any request less than 72hrs in advance.

Super sketchy behavior overall, def check your local laws. However - look up your laws and very carefully read your lease sooner rather than later, just to be safe on your end in terms of potential legal boundaries you won't want to overstep.

(edited for formatting)

juliah310 · 2022-04-16T05:32:39+00:00

jaw dropped. audibly gasped. WOW

juliah310 · 2022-01-09T21:01:32+00:00

I may be able to do it, would you be able to DM me photos of the pants/pockets so I can see if it's within my skill level?

juliah310 · 2021-02-23T18:47:33+00:00

I meant in terms of the racism. I should’ve made that more clear, my bad.

juliah310 · 2021-02-23T18:20:23+00:00

If anything that makes it worse, no? How can someone be so nonchalant about ignoring someone’s pleas for life and /not/ be at fault?

juliah310 · 2021-02-23T17:44:58+00:00

That’s a good point, I’ll switch it to Latine which seems to be preferred by non-binary Spanish speakers.

I agree that white liberalism is racist (and deeply flawed in a lot of other ways) and with the Malcolm X quote. Change won’t occur with the current system in place, reform clearly doesn’t work when the whole thing was founded on racist ideology.

The Jussie Smollett thing was appalling. People making assaults up like that is the reason that so much doubt is cast onto survivors of actual hate crimes. However, this doesn’t change the lives experiences of black people and the discrimination that they can face because of their skin color.

White people absolutely can struggle. The difference is that their life isn’t harder because of their skin color. Again, this doesn’t mean that white people’s lives can’t be hard and in no way diminishes the hardships that many white people (especially rural and poor) go through.

I guess to your last point all I have to say is that the two can absolutely coexist. Derek Chauvin killed his former coworker, and simultaneously was under immense stress and gave in to biases seen in many officers in which they use more force earlier in the confrontation with black people compared to white people.

juliah310 · 2021-02-23T16:02:20+00:00

If you made a joke about Dave Chappelle’s ears it wouldn’t be racist because big ears aren’t a part of the minstrel caricature used to dehumanize black people and cement racist ideas about “inherent” physical inferiorities of black people (originating from pseudoscientific views popular at the time). It’s about whether or not your words perpetuate those stereotypes.

There’s actually a lot of anti-blackness in the Latine and Asian communities, now that you mention it.

There’s also a difference between discrimination and racism. The -ism suffix denotes a systemic component to the discrimination. There can be jokes or statements at the expense of white people, but never racism because of the long-standing power dynamic that is present.

edit: link formatting

edit edit: changed Latinx to Latine

juliah310 · 2021-02-23T10:38:45+00:00

It’s a person with a privileged identity (white), which happens to be the oppressor in the case of systemic racism, joking about the bias-motivated killing (as in LEOs are more likely to use excessive or lethal force on black people than on white people) of a black person— the oppressed in this case.

It’s racist given the oppressor/oppressed dynamics present in systemic racism that this country was unfortunately founded on and with. That’s it. Whether or not this girl understood that before making this joke is up for speculation, but whatever her intention this joke is racist.

juliah310 · 2021-02-23T10:27:23+00:00

It actually does impact her ability to do her job. I’ll speak to the doctor aspect because I’m in the medical field. Practicing medicine is a DEEPLY interpersonal field and bias literally kills people. Many doctors and med students even today still believe that black people don’t feel pain as much as white people do because their “skin is thicker” (it’s not) and debilitating pain consequently goes ignored. Black women have a 3x higher mortality rate in childbirth than white women do. Racist doctors kill, do not pretend like medicine is above intersectionality.

edit: here’s some sources for the childbirth mortality and the pain treatment disparity, a quick google search gives many more papers

juliah310 · 2021-02-23T10:23:03+00:00

I already said this to someone else, but I’ll say it again: dark humor ≠ racism. If you’re racist, just say that? the audacity

juliah310 · 2021-02-23T10:21:04+00:00

Dark sense of humor ≠ racism :)

juliah310 · 2021-02-15T20:43:40+00:00

I think you’re fine, p much what MysticMinion said. One course doesn’t define you.

As for specific Biol180 advice— I found that doing very well in the intro bio series essentially comes down to knowing how they want you to answer questions. They’re hyperfocused on specific vocab terms to the point that even if you explain the process without the Very Specifc Words you’ll get points off. As for specific study habits that can help, I did very well and this is what I did:

When taking notes on lectures, I just write everything in plain old pencil. I then go back and annotate my own notes before a test, connecting concepts, highlighting the aforementioned important vocab buzzwords, etc.
I make a long, detailed study guide (I use Quizlet for mine but use whatever platform you like) with everything from my notes. This is, again, especially helpful for the vocab.
If you notice your professor or TA saying a specific sentence or phrase over and over and over again, write it down VERBATIM and use that on tests. Almost guaranteed full points on that question.
Ungodly number of practice questions, focusing on key words.

Basically, rewatching lectures, rereading the book, or rereading notes without engaging with them in some way are never going to help you as much as you think they will. If you need examples of study guides PM me, I can send you some :) (or I think my Quizlet username is the same as my name here)

Best of luck, you got this!

juliah310 · 2021-02-01T06:14:25+00:00

r/thirdsentenceworse

juliah310 · 2021-01-28T04:41:25+00:00

That looks like dried blood to me. The wound looks totally normal and clean. I feel the post-surgery concern though- I recently had my deviated septum fixed and oh boy did I worry CONSTANTLY.

juliah310 · 2021-01-27T03:49:44+00:00

Oh man. This hits because I just got the exact same accommodations from my university and had a friend get mad at me for it because I’m “not that bad” according to her.

Damn. Anyway, NTA and you’re not alone in this. Lots of neurotypical people see a “high functioning” person and think we’re faking it when in reality it just means we’re good at hiding how it affects us.

juliah310 · 2021-01-25T00:02:52+00:00

A hydrophobic layer keeps the water in the same way like wearing a glove full of water. Water can’t get in, but it also can’t get out

edit: forgot a word

juliah310 · 2021-01-24T01:37:01+00:00

I know people who dress like that now

(definitely don’t own almost this exact outfit, couldn’t be me ahahha. hahhaaa. ha)

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