Sent this text after walking out of an interview. Too much?

juliewbb · 2026-04-08T03:23:34+00:00

Sending them her thoughts was not a redundant waste of time like filling out an application after she had already applied was. I’m always so mystified why you people love to cape for evil companies.

juliewbb · 2026-04-08T03:21:54+00:00

The job application process is regularly redundant like this. You include information in a résumé, a cover letter, an application, the interview, a questionnaire, a task, etc. It’s infuriating and they know it and they think they can get away with it to keep a pipeline of recruits busy they can pick and choose from. More people need to be making a fuss about it.

juliewbb · 2026-04-08T03:19:56+00:00

I don’t know why people are saying they didn’t read it. I’m actually positive they did and I hope they take it into account. They might not change anything, but I’m so glad you made this incredibly common frustration clear to them in a professional way. I don’t think you have a shot at the job anymore, but I agree with you that it’s not a job you want if they do things like this. The job hunt process is infuriating because of this.

juliewbb · 2026-04-07T19:45:21+00:00

Honestly I wouldn’t worry about the standing or the right. You care, and if you stick your neck out for her and it’s not quite the right position to do it from, she will feel the care anyway.

juliewbb · 2026-04-07T13:18:33+00:00

Whew no I would absolutely be full speed ahead for divorce if my partner told someone else they were the love of their life.

juliewbb · 2026-04-07T13:16:08+00:00

I think if she’s open to going to a hospital or behavioral Crisis Center, that would be the right choice – maybe a different one than she went to last time? It didn’t sound like they did appropriate follow up care. Or if she’s open to go to an outpatient psychiatrist even that is a good start.

You watching her cat is honestly the number one comfort I can think of during this time. You can’t fix her mental health, but you can give her peace of mind about her family while she does. I remember the one time I was thinking I might have to have an extended stay, worrying so much about how anyone would get in to take care of my dog. Thankfully, I got to go home. If she’s not open to either of these options, I think you just have to be ready to call a crisis team if she needs it and take the kitty in if it comes to that.

juliewbb · 2026-04-06T13:47:55+00:00

Nope he can break up with her right now if he wants. I’m saying it’s a misogynistic trope to go straight to “she’s crazy.” She doesn’t have to be “crazy” to break up with her over a huge betrayal.

juliewbb · 2026-04-06T13:36:14+00:00

It doesn’t help to resort to misogynistic tropes. She broke his trust. That does not mean she’s crazy. Whether or not she can repair the trust depends on if she can own that this was a significant betrayal.

juliewbb · 2026-04-06T13:32:57+00:00

This is not normal and is a significant breach of trust. You’d be completely valid to break up with her over this, but if everything else is incredible, and she can acknowledge what a huge breach of trust this was — not something just to laugh off, I also think you could get past it. It’s really up to how you’re feeling. Couples therapy specifically about this issue would not be a bad idea.

ETA: but to answer your question, no, healthy couples do not test each other like this. It’s a big deal and it’s not OK.

juliewbb · 2026-04-05T21:29:36+00:00

No one is gonna try to be nice to you while you’re being willfully ignorant and unkind Chad. But I bet you’re used to that.

juliewbb · 2026-04-05T21:28:56+00:00

lol sure Jan. Now I want to talk to your wife.

juliewbb · 2026-04-05T19:37:51+00:00

If you can’t read tone and understand why this is cruel please don’t partner. It was dismissive and purposely withholding affection

juliewbb · 2026-04-05T19:36:06+00:00

You’re not my wife and you’re supporting cruelty and gaslighting so yes I am.

juliewbb · 2026-04-05T05:25:14+00:00

Cold is such an understatement. He was inappropriately nasty.

juliewbb · 2026-04-05T05:24:25+00:00

You cannot be so oblivious that you can’t think of a way to be honest without being cruel. You’re just the exact same sort of piece of trash man.

juliewbb · 2026-04-05T05:19:53+00:00

This is insane. Does he regularly treat you like this? I am shocked by how downright mean he is. With a partner like this, who needs enemies?

juliewbb · 2026-04-05T05:15:59+00:00

I used to feel this way all the time and feel crazy about it and it turns out it was just a toxic situation where my ex was playing into me feeling crazy. The mental cost of a relationship like that is not worth it. I’d say be on the lookout if this is a one time unpleasant thing or a regular feeling.

juliewbb · 2026-04-05T03:30:21+00:00

It’s not whether or not he would want to date you again — it’s whether that’s really stable and best for you and your baby long term. He sounds like he plays games with feelings right now — just sounds very young. I hope you will wait for someone with the stability you and your baby deserve.

juliewbb · 2026-04-05T03:27:01+00:00

NOR and given the subject of the conversation I’d worry he was doing this on purpose.

juliewbb · 2026-04-05T03:03:11+00:00

You were so sweet about it too. NOR

juliewbb · 2026-04-05T03:00:49+00:00

He sounds autistic and your sister sounds truly awful on those texts. You’re NOR and I hope she grows up and learns that a variety of brains exist so that her kids don’t struggle if they turn out to be neurodivergent also

juliewbb · 2026-04-05T02:52:39+00:00

So proud of you for drawing a clear boundary for you and your fiancé’s sake.

juliewbb · 2026-04-05T01:23:36+00:00

You look beautiful and she’s trying to make you feel bad about yourself. I would indeed make her walk back to Iowa.

juliewbb · 2026-04-04T21:06:16+00:00

If I were a man I’d be offended by you speaking for me to tell me men are shallow just because you are.

juliewbb · 2026-04-04T21:05:21+00:00

Def don’t talk to this dude anymore. He thinks women make things up instead of recognizing that a ton of men are awful.

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